Dear All,



This is an article published in one of the Malaysian magazine – in Malaya 
language and subsequently translated . It is very touching..



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Have you ever watched your parents while they were asleep?

- – - written by Shakunthala Devi

Your father’s body, once big and strong but now, the big is withered and the 
strong is weaker. Wisps of grey peak out from his hair, wrinkles now scar his 
forehead and face. This man works hard everyday and would sacrifice anything to 
make sure his family is provided for and his children get the best education 
possible.

Or how about your mother, whose soft hands once cuddled and held you close when 
you were a baby? Now those hands are dry and rough, bearing evidence of the 
challenges she faced just for us. This woman takes care of our daily needs, 
constantly nagging and scolding us because of her love for us. But sadly, we 
often misconstrue her love as control and unfairness.

I have never thought of watching my parents while they slept. I’ve watched my 
cousins sleep when they were babies, all round and cuddly and sweet smelling. 
But watch my parents? No way!

But after reading this message, I realised that there was indeed much truth in 
it. In fact, my parents do not have to be asleep for me to realise that they 
have aged.

Just looking at my mother walk tells me that her legs are not as strong as they 
were before. Or hearing her ask me for help with that flowerpot in the garden, 
the one she used to be able to push and drag around the garden without my help.

Or watching my dad lift a 10kg bag of rice, I can easily carry that bag now. I 
am young. But to him, it is a struggle.

What do all these observations tell me?

Yes, my parents have aged. They are ageing, just as I am ageing. But as I age 
towards my best years and become stronger, they in turn are becoming weaker. 
They were once the caregivers and I the receiver. In time, I know our roles 
will reverse. Like it or not, want it to or not, this is life.

I suppose I have always subconsciously thought that my parents would always be 
with me, never growing old. It took that message to make me realise that my 
parents are not immortal. That they, too,  will one day leave the world and me. 
Until then, I will make good use of our time together.

By the way, I’m forwarding that message to all my family and friends to remind 
them to appreciate what they have now. It will not last forever.

- – - written by Shakunthala Devi

Shakuntala Devi is generally known as a ‘Human Computer’ because of her 
extraordinary talents in solving complex mathematical problems without any 
mechanical aid. She also found her place in the Guinness book of records as a 
result of her extraordinary talents. She was born in 1939 in Bangalore, 
Karnataka, India.

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