Re: Can I seriously be serious?
Re: Can I seriously be serious? Greetings Nocturnus.I know you're probably sick of hearing this, but I'm praying for you and your wife and children. If anyone understands what this must be like for you, I think I may have more of an idea of what you've been going through.I don't share a lot of personal details on the forum because I usually don't have a reason to, but now I feel I must. In July of last year, my younger brother began having seizures, and we had no earthly idea what was causing them. He was examined by cardiologists, neurologists and every sort of specialist you can imagine and nobody had a clue. Well, everything came to a head in October, when my mother found him unconscious in his room. After having him taken to a hospital, he was put on life support because he was unable to breathe. We later found out that somehow he lost oxygen to his brain, which resulted in him becoming braindead. He was examined once again by neurologists and cardiologists, who once again had no idea how it happened. Two days later he was removed from life support, because we were informed that there were two possibilities--either we could remove him from life support, or he could remain on life support in a vegetative state. So despite our hope that he could recover and continue living, we knew this was not the way he would want to live his life, constantly suffering and in pain. Later that day, I simply sat in silence, with my head bowed in prayer and tears in my eyes, as my best friend, a man who meant more to me than life itself, was removed from life support and left this world for the next.My advice is this. Whether the people you love are healthy and alive, or physically or mentally ill, never let a day go by without telling them that you love them. If you're walking in the valley of the shadow of death, trust in the Lord and he will make a way where there is none.I know some of you may not be Christians, but it's never too late to pick up a bible and read God's love letter to us all.For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;Being justified freely by his grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus:Whom God hath set forth to be a propitiation through faith in his blood, to declare his righteousness for the remission of sins that are past, through the forbearance of God;To declare, I say, at this time his righteousness: that he might be just, and the justifier of him which believeth in Jesus.(Romans 3:23-26) URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/592867/#p592867 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
Re: Can I seriously be serious?
Re: Can I seriously be serious? Greetings Nocturnus.I know you're probably sick of hearing this, but I'm praying for you and your wife and children. If anyone understands what this must be like for you, I think I may have more of an idea of what you've been going through.I don't share a lot of personal details on the forum because I usually don't have a reason to, but now I feel I must. In July of last year, my younger brother began having seizures, and we had no earthly idea what was causing them. He was examined by cardiologists, neurologists and every sort of specialist you can imagine and nobody had a clue. Well, everything came to a head when my mother found him unconscious in his room. After having him taken to a hospital, he was put on life support because he was unable to breathe. We later found out that somehow he lost oxygen to his brain, which resulted in him becoming braindead. He was examined once again by neurologists and cardiologists, who once again had no idea how it happened. Two days later he was removed from life support, because we were informed that there were two possibilities--either we could remove him from life support, or he could remain on life support in a vegetative state. So despite our hope that he could recover and continue living, we knew this was not the way he would want to live his life, constantly suffering and in pain. Later that day, I simply sat in silence, with my head bowed in prayer and tears in my eyes, as my best friend, a man who meant more to me than life itself, was removed from life support and left this world for the next.My advice is this. Whether the people you love are healthy and alive, or physically or mentally ill, never let a day go by without telling them that you love them. If you're walking in the valley of the shadow of death, trust in the Lord and he will make a way where there is none.I know some of you may not be Christians, but it's never too late to pick up a bible and read God's love letter to us all.For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;Being justified freely by his grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus:Whom God hath set forth to be a propitiation through faith in his blood, to declare his righteousness for the remission of sins that are past, through the forbearance of God;To declare, I say, at this time his righteousness: that he might be just, and the justifier of him which believeth in Jesus.(Romans 3:23-26) URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/592867/#p592867 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
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Re: Can I seriously be serious? Accman, I wish you and your family well. I hope your wife recovers fully and speedily. No one should have to go through that. I'm very glad that things didn't get quite as ugly as they could have done.Nocturnis, I wasn't especially trying to criticize. All I was really trying to do was to tell you to give yourself a break. The world will happily kick you around for the "sin" of showing vulnerability, so don't kick yourself. That's all. And believe me, this is advice I still have to remind myself to take sometimes. We all probably need to hear it a time or two. As someone who has also been tagged as the "rock" of my friend group, I don't like showing weakness either, but over the past few years, dealing with some anxiety and such taught me that it's better to talk about things and show a little weakness than pretend everything's okay or whatnot. Please believe me when I say that I have plenty of respect for you, and no desire whatsoever to cut you down, about this or about anything else. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/592846/#p592846 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
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Re: Can I seriously be serious? This is going to be a long one... I want to thank you all. Thank you all equally. If I'm not addressing you specifically in this post as I will a few individuals, it has nothing to do with your post being of lesser importance/significance. Some of you, however, offered more than well wishes and encouragement; you offered advice and wrote about your own personal experiences and I want to show that your effort is appreciated.@Aaron, post 5, you're right. I've gained, too. Wisdom and insight are just two things I've gained. The pain has schooled me in patience and perseverance. My biggest gain, however, has been a loving family. Anyone who has followed me for awhile now knows that my parents, siblings and I have never had the best of relationships... I was the blacksheep, as it were. My thoughts, goals and dreams were different, and I had a drive to do my best to get them done. I'm still working on a lot of things, but for now it is enough to say that my life has come a long way from where it was when I first signed up here.@smoothgunner, post 6, prayer is something I try never to stop doing, but I appreciate the reminder; it never hurts to repeat it.@Cheesy circular iron wooden spoon, post 7, thanks, man. You and I have not always seen eye to eye on things, and I admit sometimes I just can't, for the life of me, figure you out, but I do believe you mean well deep down. You could just as easily have trollfaced me given post 1 sounded so wimpy; you didn't.@tunmi13, post 8, seriously? lol I appreciate the gesture. someone through my satire back at me and did it nicely enough. Glad to know you won't mis TG this year... I wish I had a brother that cared that much about me.@Dark, post 9, you and I may not agree on some things, but where our wives are concerned, you and I have been more or less neck and neck. the "for better or worse" stuff is where most couples just don't seem to get it. Things go bad in life and all of a sudden somebody's at the very least thinking about walking out when the other person needs them the most... I know your wife's been going through some ugly moments herself what with all that cancer business and, I can't even imagine how that has made you feel personally. I know how I feel though, and it's not cancer. but it doesn't matter what it is. I've told my wife on at least one occasion that even if she were to forget my name and claim in mental illness or something of that nature that she didn't know who I was or never wanted to see me again, I'd still go on loving her and she'd still be the most important person in this life. I'm sure you'd say the same about your wonderful woman; they truly do complete us. Best of wishes to the pair of you and keep on keepin on.@Zarvox, post 10, without trying to you wrote a post that was a lot more powerful than you may have realized. Let this reply serve as a reminder to you that sometimes overthinking a matter is less productive than simply trying your hand at it. I didn't find your post negative at all... I found it encouraging. For the record, no. It's not that I needed to hear that I'm inspiring and caring or anything else that people deem good about me. Too much of that can leave a guy feeling puffed up sitting high on a mountain in a bubble full of self-justified pride. I do appreciate your comment though; it makes me want to work all that much harder to be more of the same, and more than that, too. Considering that you're 20, not trying to be shallow and that you care enough to say what you feel and why? And you seriously think you can't match me on some unnamed level because time? I may be 12 years older than you, but I can honestly say that when I was your age I was worse off than you are now as far as thoughts go.@haily_merry, 13, and that's part of what made me feel so selfish in having posted this thing to begin with. I've never had anything like that happen to me, ever! I've never had extensive surgery or had to take it easy and go through tons of hours and days and weeks of prescribed, doctor demanded bed rest. In comparison my emotional pain seems like it shouldn't even matter to me, when I think about what my wife is going through and others have gone through. I feel like all I did was complain, but I did want to get that stuff off my chest and I knew this forum was probably the best place to do it, and I hoped I could motivate someone to talk to others they might otherwise not have talked to for awhile for whatever reason, to not forget the importance of people around you.@Jayde, 14, as I hinted when replying to haily, post 13, part of it is that bit of me that still trys to keep things in perspective and assess the whole situation. when I think about what my wife is going through my emotional pain just feels like it pales in comparison. You know what? I truly admire her. She could go on FB or Twitter or some other social media site... I've seen
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Re: Can I seriously be serious? Nocturnus, I can't tell you how I needed to see that post you wrote. It looks like we have something in common here because my wife just went through surgery of her own. Her surgery was for something different than your wife's was so far as I am able to understand, but still she'll be recovering for about six weeks. She just had the surgery around a week ago and, thankfully, everything went well. It turned out that had she not had this done there could have been a much more serious condition she would have face sometime down the road as she had been dealing with ruptured ovarian cysts. During the surgery, it was discovered that there were a couple of these that contained old blood, and if those had ruptured and that blood had gotten into her bloodstream it would have been really bad for sure. Our daughter has been doing well with this, and has been helping out in whatever way she can, so that has also made things easier on my end as well. More than ever, I want to be back out on the road performing for folks and making money so as to provide for my family again, but it's a good thing I am not because with our daughter only being 12 years old there wouldn't be much she'd be able to do if the need were to come up. The anger I had felt with this whole COVID-19 craziness keeps surfacing as well. I had thought I'd dealt with it, but when I see much of our nation going into shutdown mode again it brings that all back up again. So, again, that post was much needed and I really appreciated reading it. I hope that your wife gets well soon, and thanks again for your post. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/592717/#p592717 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
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Re: Can I seriously be serious? When i read that post I had sensation like my heart melted, crashed, then pain.Oh my god, I wish you everything good, hopefully she'll get better, be healthy, and your family'll continue better life, together.I wish you all the best. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/592550/#p592550 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
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AudioGames . net Forum — Off-topic room : giorgi elbaqidze via Audiogames-reflector
Re: Can I seriously be serious? oh my god, I wish you everything good, hopefully she'll get better, be healthy, and your family'll continue better life, together.I wish you all the best. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/592550/#p592550 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
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Re: Can I seriously be serious? Nocturnus, you are -not- being selfish.Your emotions exist. They are real, valid. No less so than those of anyone else. Please, do not think you constantly have to compare yourself to others.Because yes, of course it could be worse. It could always be worse. But it is pretty damn shitty right now. You are not weak for not being able to handle that, just like you are not weak if you cannot lift a car.It is OK to be human. It is OK to admit that something is beyond your ability, that this is a weighted blanket you can't move. Perhaps even to your children. I think they will understand that better than you think they will. And it will teach them that it's OK to admit you don't know something, which is one of the most important lessons in life. None of us is perfect, we are all in over our heads sometimes.That's why humans are social animals. That's why we're here for you. To listen, whenever you need someone to. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/592537/#p592537 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
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Re: Can I seriously be serious? ever just want to hug someone through the Internet… URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/592497/#p592497 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
