[FairfieldLife] Re: Cool loneliness: Six Kinds of Loneliness By Ani Pema Choedroen
sigh elaborate--sigh http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u2j578jTBCY http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u2j578jTBCY the mysteriously turquoiseb flash-defunct link to Amelie (2001) - You're so cool refer to the often here at FFL admired and quoted of Audrey Tautou's masterly script and performance and a wordplay with coolness and remembering-associating turquoiseb little Maya's presence [:D] and of course counterbalance the seriousness of the cool loneliness equating enlightenment Shenpa-ness ... and more.. [http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_a32QmJypT-Q/TAEh_MvUf4I/A04/pQzRDz383\ IA/s1600/amelie.jpg] sigh good night...and When you wake up in the morning..stay relaxed and touch the limitless space of the human heart...and ...experiment with these both images.. [:D] looking forward (m)any of your insight... to forget and loose into ultimate space without a reference point... --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, merudanda no_reply@... wrote: For all our beloved cool FFL er and/or all who search for coolness [:D] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JjesjbEQpqM http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JjesjbEQpqM Six Kinds of Loneliness By Pema Choedroen snip
[FairfieldLife] Re: Cool loneliness: Six Kinds of Loneliness By Ani Pema Choedroen
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, merudanda no_reply@... wrote: sigh elaborate--sigh http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u2j578jTBCY the mysteriously turquoiseb flash-defunct link to Amelie (2001) - You're so cool refer to the often here at FFL admired and quoted of Audrey Tautou's masterly script and performance... While I cannot fault Audrey's performance, I have to stand up for the scriptwriter, and point out that she had no part in the the crafting of it. As lovely and as charming as she is, Audrey is well known as a bit of stick-up-her-butt actress, one who Doth Not Improvise Well. One of the best scenes in Amelie was, in fact, one in which Audrey was searching for the guy who left the childhood treasure box she found, and discovered that one of her candidates in the search was a lesbian, who found her sort of...attractive. In the course of shooting different takes of this scene, in one of them Audrey deviated from the script and cracked up. That is the take that the real author of the script, Jean- Pierre Jeunet, chose to put in the movie. ...and a wordplay with coolness and remembering-associating turquoiseb little Maya's presence [:D] and of course counterbalance the seriousness of the cool loneliness equating enlightenment Shenpa-ness ... and more.. [http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_a32QmJypT-Q/TAEh_MvUf4I/A04/pQzRDz383IA/s1600/amelie.jpg] sigh good night...and When you wake up in the morning..stay relaxed and touch the limitless space of the human heart...and ...experiment with these both images.. [:D] looking forward (m)any of your insight... to forget and loose into ultimate space without a reference point... Without a reference point and having an ever-changing reference point are effectively the same thing, n'est- ce-pas? :-) Amélie: [whispering in theater] I like to look for things no one else catches. I hate the way drivers never look at the road in old American movies. ... Narrator: Amelie has one friend, Blubber. Alas the home environment has made Blubber suicidal. [Pet fish leaps out of fish bowl in an attempt at suicide] ... Narrator: With a prompter in every cellar window whispering comebacks, shy people would have the last laugh. ... [Amélie hands a begger some money] Beggar: Sorry madam, I don't work on Sundays. ... Hipolito (The Writer): We pass the time of day to forget how time passes. ... Seller in the porno shop: These are hard times for dreamers. ... Narrator: Nino is late. Amelie can only see two explanations. 1 - he didn't get the photo. 2 - before he could assemble it, a gang of bank robbers took him hostage. The cops gave chase. They got away...but he caused a crash. When he came to, he'd lost his memory. An ex-con picked him up, mistook him for a fugitive, and shipped him to Istanbul. There he met some Afghan raiders who took him to steal some Russian warheads. But their truck hit a mine in Tajikistan. He survived, took to the hills, and became a Mujaheddin. Amelie refuses to get upset for a guy who'll eat borscht all his life in a hat like a tea cozy. ... Narrator: Philoméne likes the sound of the cat's bowl on the tiles. The cat likes overhearing children's stories. ... Narrator: Amelie has a strange feeling of absolute harmony. It's a perfect moment. A soft light, a scent in the air, the quiet murmur of the city. A surge of love, an urge to help mankind overcomes her. ... Amélie: [at the movies] I like to turn around in the dark to see the faces of the people around me. I almost always get all teary-eyed when I hear that last line, and did so even as I pasted it in. It is one of my favorite lines in all of film history. In it, Jeunet reveals to us his heart, and the reason why he makes movies. He likes to go to his own movies and turn around and watch the faces of the audiences seeing them. I cannot conceive of a higher or more noble reason to make movies.
[FairfieldLife] Re: Cool loneliness: Six Kinds of Loneliness By Ani Pema Choedroen
Wow, Merudananda, you Wow-ed me and I thank you for that...! Reminds me of an article I read once on The wisdom of getting lost, or something like that... This subject is very close to home for me, especially today... (another story, alas...). But I wanted to share with you my creation on this theme-- which was a 5-year, unplanned, foreign (mostly Pacific Rim...), off-road, gut, heart, mountain bike ramble that I solo-ed in the mid-90's... No plans, no time constraints-- an open heart-felt appreciation of what came my way-- not trying specifically to get anywhere, no normal goals, lightweight to the extreme, an innocent merge with the moments, an equal acceptance of the trials and tribulations of the pathless path, an acceptance and reverence of being guided by intuition and my heart as opposed to societal norms, like that Again, thank you for your meaningful post-- Steve --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, merudanda no_reply@... wrote: For all our beloved cool FFL er and/or all who search for coolness [:D] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JjesjbEQpqM http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JjesjbEQpqM Six Kinds of Loneliness By Pema Choedroen To be without a reference point is the ultimate loneliness. It is also called enlightenment. In the middle way, there is no reference point. The mind with no reference point does not resolve itself, does not fixate or grasp. How could we possibly have no reference point? To have no reference point would be to change a deep-seated habitual response to the world: wanting to make it work out one way or the other. If I can't go left or right, I will die! When we don't go left or right, we feel like we are in a detox center. We're alone, cold turkey with all the edginess that we've been trying to avoid by going left or right. That edginess can feel pretty heavy. However, years and years of going to the left or right, going to yes or no, going to right or wrong has never really changed anything. Scrambling for security has never brought anything but momentary joy. It's like changing the position of our legs in meditation. Our legs hurt from sitting cross-legged, so we move them. And then we feel, Phew! What a relief! But two and a half minutes later, we want to move them again. We keep moving around seeking pleasure, seeking comfort, and the satisfaction that we get is very short-lived. We hear a lot about the pain of samsara, and we also hear about liberation. But we don't hear much about how painful it is to go from being completely stuck to becoming unstuck. The process of becoming unstuck requires tremendous bravery, because basically we are completely changing our way of perceiving reality, like changing our DNA. We are undoing a pattern that is not just our pattern. It's the human pattern: we project onto the world a zillion possibilities of attaining resolution. We can have whiter teeth, a weed-free lawn, a strife-free life, a world without embarrassment. We can live happily every after. This pattern keeps us dissatisfied and causes us a lot of suffering. As human beings, not only do we seek resolution, but we also feel that we deserve resolution. However, not only do we not deserve resolution, we suffer from resolution. We don't deserve resolution; we deserve something better than that. We deserve our birthright, which is the middle way, an open state of mind that can relax with paradox and ambiguity. To the degree that we've been avoiding uncertainty, we're naturally going to have withdrawal symptomswithdrawal from always thinking that there's a problem and that someone, somewhere, needs to fix it. The middle way is wide open, but it's tough going, because it goes against the grain of an ancient neurotic pattern that we all share. When we feel lonely, when we feel hopeless, what we want to do is move to the right or the left. We don't want to sit and feel what we feel. We don't want to go through the detox. Yet the middle way encourages us to do just that. It encourages us to awaken the bravery that exists in everyone without exception, including you and me. Meditation provides a way for us to train in the middle wayin staying right on the spot. We are encouraged not to judge whatever arises in our mind. In fact, we are encouraged not to even grasp whatever arises in our mind. What we usually call good or bad we simply acknowledge as thinking, without all the usual drama that goes along with right and wrong. We are instructed to let the thoughts come and go as if touching a bubble with a feather. This straightforward discipline prepares us to stop struggling and discover a fresh, unbiased state of being. The experience of certain feelings can seem particularly pregnant with desire for resolution: loneliness, boredom, anxiety. Unless we can relax with these feelings, it's very hard to stay in the middle when we experience them. We want victory or defeat,
[FairfieldLife] Re: Cool loneliness: Six Kinds of Loneliness By Ani Pema Choedroen
Very nice. And thanks for that input this morning. *** --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, merudanda no_reply@... wrote: For all our beloved cool FFL er and/or all who search for coolness [:D] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JjesjbEQpqM http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JjesjbEQpqM Six Kinds of Loneliness By Pema Choedroen To be without a reference point is the ultimate loneliness. It is also called enlightenment. In the middle way, there is no reference point. The mind with no reference point does not resolve itself, does not fixate or grasp. How could we possibly have no reference point? To have no reference point would be to change a deep-seated habitual response to the world: wanting to make it work out one way or the other. If I can't go left or right, I will die! When we don't go left or right, we feel like we are in a detox center. We're alone, cold turkey with all the edginess that we've been trying to avoid by going left or right. That edginess can feel pretty heavy. However, years and years of going to the left or right, going to yes or no, going to right or wrong has never really changed anything. Scrambling for security has never brought anything but momentary joy. It's like changing the position of our legs in meditation. Our legs hurt from sitting cross-legged, so we move them. And then we feel, Phew! What a relief! But two and a half minutes later, we want to move them again. We keep moving around seeking pleasure, seeking comfort, and the satisfaction that we get is very short-lived. We hear a lot about the pain of samsara, and we also hear about liberation. But we don't hear much about how painful it is to go from being completely stuck to becoming unstuck. The process of becoming unstuck requires tremendous bravery, because basically we are completely changing our way of perceiving reality, like changing our DNA. We are undoing a pattern that is not just our pattern. It's the human pattern: we project onto the world a zillion possibilities of attaining resolution. We can have whiter teeth, a weed-free lawn, a strife-free life, a world without embarrassment. We can live happily every after. This pattern keeps us dissatisfied and causes us a lot of suffering. As human beings, not only do we seek resolution, but we also feel that we deserve resolution. However, not only do we not deserve resolution, we suffer from resolution. We don't deserve resolution; we deserve something better than that. We deserve our birthright, which is the middle way, an open state of mind that can relax with paradox and ambiguity. To the degree that we've been avoiding uncertainty, we're naturally going to have withdrawal symptomswithdrawal from always thinking that there's a problem and that someone, somewhere, needs to fix it. The middle way is wide open, but it's tough going, because it goes against the grain of an ancient neurotic pattern that we all share. When we feel lonely, when we feel hopeless, what we want to do is move to the right or the left. We don't want to sit and feel what we feel. We don't want to go through the detox. Yet the middle way encourages us to do just that. It encourages us to awaken the bravery that exists in everyone without exception, including you and me. Meditation provides a way for us to train in the middle wayin staying right on the spot. We are encouraged not to judge whatever arises in our mind. In fact, we are encouraged not to even grasp whatever arises in our mind. What we usually call good or bad we simply acknowledge as thinking, without all the usual drama that goes along with right and wrong. We are instructed to let the thoughts come and go as if touching a bubble with a feather. This straightforward discipline prepares us to stop struggling and discover a fresh, unbiased state of being. The experience of certain feelings can seem particularly pregnant with desire for resolution: loneliness, boredom, anxiety. Unless we can relax with these feelings, it's very hard to stay in the middle when we experience them. We want victory or defeat, praise or blame. For example, if somebody abandons us, we don't want to be with that raw discomfort. Instead, we conjure up a familiar identity of ourselves as a hapless victim. Or maybe we avoid the rawness by acting out and righteously telling the person how messed up he or she is. We automatically want to cover over the pain in one way or another, identifying with victory or victimhood. Usually we regard loneliness as an enemy. Heartache is not something we choose to invite in. It's restless and pregnant and hot with the desire to escape and find something or someone to keep us company. When we can rest in the middle, we begin to have a nonthreatening relationship with loneliness, a relaxing and cooling loneliness that completely turns our usual fearful patterns upside down. There are six ways of describing this kind of cool
[FairfieldLife] Re: Cool loneliness: Six Kinds of Loneliness By Ani Pema Choedroen
Thanks for finding and posting this, Meru. I'm having a problem with Flash and its plugins to Chrome and Firefox recently, and can't successfully view videos on YouTube without my machine crashing. It's frustrating, because it means that until I find a patch or a fix, I can't really watch any of the cool links provided by people here. Oh well...my middle way approach to it is to try not to mind. :-) This is a great talk/piece of writing by Pema. One of her traits that I've come to like is her tendency to avoid spiritual buzzwords. In this talk, out of 2116 words, only one would be unfamiliar to yer general person on the street, samsara. Whatever his faults, Rama - Fred Lenz had that trait as well; he always felt that peppering one's talks with buzzwords was a way of rejecting readers or listeners, as opposed to including them. She obviously feels the same way. --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, merudanda no_reply@... wrote: For all our beloved cool FFL er and/or all who search for coolness [:D] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JjesjbEQpqM http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JjesjbEQpqM Six Kinds of Loneliness By Pema Choedroen To be without a reference point is the ultimate loneliness. It is also called enlightenment. In the middle way, there is no reference point. The mind with no reference point does not resolve itself, does not fixate or grasp. How could we possibly have no reference point? To have no reference point would be to change a deep-seated habitual response to the world: wanting to make it work out one way or the other. If I can't go left or right, I will die! When we don't go left or right, we feel like we are in a detox center. We're alone, cold turkey with all the edginess that we've been trying to avoid by going left or right. That edginess can feel pretty heavy. However, years and years of going to the left or right, going to yes or no, going to right or wrong has never really changed anything. Scrambling for security has never brought anything but momentary joy. It's like changing the position of our legs in meditation. Our legs hurt from sitting cross-legged, so we move them. And then we feel, Phew! What a relief! But two and a half minutes later, we want to move them again. We keep moving around seeking pleasure, seeking comfort, and the satisfaction that we get is very short-lived. We hear a lot about the pain of samsara, and we also hear about liberation. But we don't hear much about how painful it is to go from being completely stuck to becoming unstuck. The process of becoming unstuck requires tremendous bravery, because basically we are completely changing our way of perceiving reality, like changing our DNA. We are undoing a pattern that is not just our pattern. It's the human pattern: we project onto the world a zillion possibilities of attaining resolution. We can have whiter teeth, a weed-free lawn, a strife-free life, a world without embarrassment. We can live happily every after. This pattern keeps us dissatisfied and causes us a lot of suffering. As human beings, not only do we seek resolution, but we also feel that we deserve resolution. However, not only do we not deserve resolution, we suffer from resolution. We don't deserve resolution; we deserve something better than that. We deserve our birthright, which is the middle way, an open state of mind that can relax with paradox and ambiguity. To the degree that we've been avoiding uncertainty, we're naturally going to have withdrawal symptomswithdrawal from always thinking that there's a problem and that someone, somewhere, needs to fix it. The middle way is wide open, but it's tough going, because it goes against the grain of an ancient neurotic pattern that we all share. When we feel lonely, when we feel hopeless, what we want to do is move to the right or the left. We don't want to sit and feel what we feel. We don't want to go through the detox. Yet the middle way encourages us to do just that. It encourages us to awaken the bravery that exists in everyone without exception, including you and me. Meditation provides a way for us to train in the middle wayin staying right on the spot. We are encouraged not to judge whatever arises in our mind. In fact, we are encouraged not to even grasp whatever arises in our mind. What we usually call good or bad we simply acknowledge as thinking, without all the usual drama that goes along with right and wrong. We are instructed to let the thoughts come and go as if touching a bubble with a feather. This straightforward discipline prepares us to stop struggling and discover a fresh, unbiased state of being. The experience of certain feelings can seem particularly pregnant with desire for resolution: loneliness, boredom, anxiety. Unless we can relax with these feelings, it's very hard to stay in the middle when we experience them. We want victory or defeat, praise or blame. For example, if somebody abandons us,
[FairfieldLife] Re: Cool loneliness: Six Kinds of Loneliness By Ani Pema Choedroen
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, turquoiseb no_reply@... wrote: Thanks for finding and posting this, Meru. I'm having a problem with Flash and its plugins to Chrome and Firefox recently, and can't successfully view videos on YouTube without my machine crashing. It's frustrating, because it means that until I find a patch or a fix, I can't really watch any of the cool links provided by people here. Oh well...my middle way approach to it is to try not to mind. :-) Have you tried uninstalling and reinstalling the software? I just found out I could not watch a youtube Flash video on Firefox, but was able to on Chrome. I have a lot of script and ad blocking software on Firefox. When I shut down the blocking software completely, I was then able to run Flash videos on Firefox. HTML5 videos are also sometimes served up as alternates to Flash. Adobe also tries to install update software on machines which can cut in at unexpected times.
[FairfieldLife] Re: Cool loneliness: Six Kinds of Loneliness By Ani Pema Choedroen
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Xenophaneros Anartaxius anartaxius@... wrote: --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, turquoiseb no_reply@ wrote: Thanks for finding and posting this, Meru. I'm having a problem with Flash and its plugins to Chrome and Firefox recently, and can't successfully view videos on YouTube without my machine crashing. It's frustrating, because it means that until I find a patch or a fix, I can't really watch any of the cool links provided by people here. Oh well...my middle way approach to it is to try not to mind. :-) Have you tried uninstalling and reinstalling the software? I just found out I could not watch a youtube Flash video on Firefox, but was able to on Chrome. The crashes happen for me in both Firefox and Chrome, alas. I have a lot of script and ad blocking software on Firefox. When I shut down the blocking software completely, I was then able to run Flash videos on Firefox. I have come across this idea on the Net as I researched the problem, and am hoping that it *isn't* an incompatibility between Flash and Ad-Blocker. I would sooner do without watching videos on YouTube than do without Ad-Blocker. :-) HTML5 videos are also sometimes served up as alternates to Flash. Adobe also tries to install update software on machines which can cut in at unexpected times. Adobe is well known in the business for putting out some of the buggiest and crappiest releases in software history, and for not giving a damn when this is pointed out to them. That's one of the reasons I can almost understand Apple not providing support for Flash in its phones and iPads; they don't want to be put in the position of continually dealing with complaints from users about bugs that are caused by Flash.
[FairfieldLife] Re: Cool loneliness: Six Kinds of Loneliness By Ani Pema Choedroen
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, turquoiseb no_reply@... wrote: --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Xenophaneros Anartaxius anartaxius@ wrote: --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, turquoiseb no_reply@ wrote: Thanks for finding and posting this, Meru. I'm having a problem with Flash and its plugins to Chrome and Firefox recently, and can't successfully view videos on YouTube without my machine crashing. It's frustrating, because it means that until I find a patch or a fix, I can't really watch any of the cool links provided by people here. Oh well...my middle way approach to it is to try not to mind. :-) Have you tried uninstalling and reinstalling the software? I just found out I could not watch a youtube Flash video on Firefox, but was able to on Chrome. The crashes happen for me in both Firefox and Chrome, alas. I have a lot of script and ad blocking software on Firefox. When I shut down the blocking software completely, I was then able to run Flash videos on Firefox. I have come across this idea on the Net as I researched the problem, and am hoping that it *isn't* an incompatibility between Flash and Ad-Blocker. I would sooner do without watching videos on YouTube than do without Ad-Blocker. :-) HTML5 videos are also sometimes served up as alternates to Flash. Adobe also tries to install update software on machines which can cut in at unexpected times. http://www.youtube.com/html5 Adobe is well known in the business for putting out some of the buggiest and crappiest releases in software history, and for not giving a damn when this is pointed out to them. That's one of the reasons I can almost understand Apple not providing support for Flash in its phones and iPads; they don't want to be put in the position of continually dealing with complaints from users about bugs that are caused by Flash.
[FairfieldLife] Re: Cool loneliness: Six Kinds of Loneliness By Ani Pema Choedroen
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, turquoiseb no_reply@... wrote: --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Xenophaneros Anartaxius anartaxius@ wrote: --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, turquoiseb no_reply@ wrote: Thanks for finding and posting this, Meru. I'm having a problem with Flash and its plugins to Chrome and Firefox recently, and can't successfully view videos on YouTube without my machine crashing. It's frustrating, because it means that until I find a patch or a fix, I can't really watch any of the cool links provided by people here. Oh well...my middle way approach to it is to try not to mind. :-) Have you tried uninstalling and reinstalling the software? I just found out I could not watch a youtube Flash video on Firefox, but was able to on Chrome. The crashes happen for me in both Firefox and Chrome, alas. I have a lot of script and ad blocking software on Firefox. When I shut down the blocking software completely, I was then able to run Flash videos on Firefox. I have come across this idea on the Net as I researched the problem, and am hoping that it *isn't* an incompatibility between Flash and Ad-Blocker. I would sooner do without watching videos on YouTube than do without Ad-Blocker. :-) HTML5 videos are also sometimes served up as alternates to Flash. Adobe also tries to install update software on machines which can cut in at unexpected times. Adobe is well known in the business for putting out some of the buggiest and crappiest releases in software history, and for not giving a damn when this is pointed out to them. That's one of the reasons I can almost understand Apple not providing support for Flash in its phones and iPads; they don't want to be put in the position of continually dealing with complaints from users about bugs that are caused by Flash. On Firefox I have Ad Block Plus, NoScript, and Better Privacy. Sometimes sites (like bank sites) do not work with this software installed even if those web pages have been cleared to be let through. I am not sure why this is. With such sites I have not had the inclination to uninstall the privacy plug-ins and add-ons to see if they work when it has been removed, I just temporarily use another browser, and clear all data from it afterward. It is amazing that some web pages are wired with scripting to connect one to as many as a dozen or more sites simultaneously, and if you disable the connexion to just one, sometimes the page won't function.
