Excellent. Barry is doing the only thing he can do - pretend non-attachment, and liberation. He has been at the seeker game too long, and too publicly, to still be having few or no encouraging experiences during spiritual practices, certainly nothing of any lasting value.
So he fakes it. He doesn't want to expose his limp dick during social intercourse, so he fakes it. Its pretty funny watching an ego fake its liberation, and sad too. Very much the seal trying for a quick 100 yd. dash. Very strange these people who would rather turn their lives into a dead smiling hell, than face themselves, and their failures. It is a strategy used by young souls - this playing pretend, this wasting time in life, as other than yourself, faking it. For the rest of us, life is too precious to be unreal. Even when it hurts like the devil. I wouldn't hesitate to be in pain, if the alternative is being dead inside - all locked up in a spinning mind, the sly spider catching himself in his own web, then announcing to the rest of us, "Gotcha!". I'd rather stare life in the face, with the worst it has to offer, than don a cloak of emotional death, and fake it. Barry's clear choice (and his sidekick's too), and dead easy to spot. --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "Ann" <awoelflebater@...> wrote: > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "curtisdeltablues" <curtisdeltablues@> > wrote: > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "Robin Carlsen" <maskedzebra@> wrote: > > > > Your analysis might apply to people he does not like. > > Curtis, Barry does not like anyone who disagrees with him. His criteria for > liking or not liking someone are very transparent and quite simple. They > include more than the one I just mentioned, but ultimately he dislikes > personal challenge coming from others. If that challenge takes the form of > anything resembling a different viewpoint or one that makes him have to > question his very rigid beliefs or one that requires him to retract, > apologize or question his position he will take that as a personal attack or > as a sign of boringness, cuntness, small mindedness or stupidity on the part > of that person. > > > He is not open to being vulnerable to people who he does not like. > > Barry is never vulnerable on this forum. Ever. > > > Sometimes this is people who attack him, but not always. He didn't like > > you right off. So you only see the version of Barry that applies to you, a > > person he does not respect. > > Barry doesn't begin to have the tools to "deal" with Robin. He is so far out > of his depth, his comfort zone his perception of what is unknown or possible > that to actually interact on even the most superficial level with Robin would > require something Barry simply does not possess or refuses to acknowledge. It > is kind of like asking a seal to run the 100m dash in 10 seconds on dry land. > Not possible. > > > > > > > > BW, then, does not allow the reader, either consciously or unconsciously, > > > to derive any experience of what kind of experience BW must be having as > > > he so slovenly and insincerely (the latter is quite subtle and can easily > > > be missed) argues for his position.> > > > > The digs aside (slovenly? insincerely?) I don't believe he sees any reason > > to share anything with people he does not like or respect. > > This excuse of "respect" is not about that at all. That is a convenient but > erroneous description of what is really going on. It isn't about what Barry > feels about the other person it is what the other person makes Barry feel > about himself and THAT is what Barry dislikes. When he is made to feel > inadequate he will point his finger at the other person and claim they are to > blame; they are too boring or stupid or dogmatic. He will never take > responsibility for himself and the reasons he feels the way he does. It will > always be about the other guy. > > >He just calls it as he sees it and moves on. His blasts are not an opening > >for a dialogue, they are just projections of his POV, more writing exercise > >than conversation. > > Exactly. > > > > If you look at the list of people who have received such attention they > > often have some similar traits that Barry is outspoken about not respecting > > or liking. I have a very good idea of his POV from his pieces contrary to > > your perspective. If a new poster showed up here today I could probably > > predict with good accuracy how Barry would react to them. It was easy to > > predict that you were not gunna be friends. > > Yes, I will give you that. Barry IS predictable. Ridiculously so. This is a > man who lives in a world that is bound and known and very limited. He can > only venture so far with a person - new acquaintance or old. When he hits the > property line, where the boundaries end, he stops dead. And those boundaries > are those determined by his own limitations of self. > > > > So your statements probably do apply to you. You may not have the ability > > to see where he is coming from and he seems hidden from you. > > I don't think so Curtis. Many people have pretty good ideas of how Barry > functions but Robin's today took the proverbial cake; it was far and away the > most sophisticated reading of the man and one that you might have a chance of > comprehending but Barry never will for, if he could, it would disprove what > Robin wrote and what I have just said. Not that we said or are saying the > same thing. > > >Do you see Judy as any more vulnerable and interested in really interacting > >with a person when she is doing her Judy thing? Are you or me for that > >matter? Once we size someone up as not being worth the trouble, or that > >they are openly hostile toward us, we all shut down the two way conversation > >and might say something with no intention to be open to that person. > > You can't generalize like this. I, for one, am always open to reading > someone's post for what new tone or attitude might emerge. I have ideas about > what people are like here but I am happy to be surprised and welcome that > surprise when it occurs. I am as open to Barry as I am to anyone here and > have commented positively about some of his posts. You simply can not clump > everyone here as operating from the same origin of perception. > > > > I see him just fine. And with me it is a two way street of giving each > > other space to express our opinions even if we differ. > > But you never do differ. You both seem to agree to agree. > > > So we get along based on liking each other and trusting that the other > person is not gunna send out some version of what you just wrote. I've > received enough of them myself from you to know that me writing this is not > going to enter your consciousness beyond your reflexive attack mode. > > > > > Or you can prove me wrong. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, turquoiseb <no_reply@> wrote: > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "feste37" <feste37@> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, turquoiseb <no_reply@> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "feste37" <feste37@> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > > > I remember talking to one woman whose boyfriend took > > > > > > > a Sterling course in Fairfield. She said that before > > > > > > > the course he was a perfectly normal, pleasant guy, > > > > > > > but after the course he became a complete asshole. > > > > > > > > > > > > Color me not surprised. :-) > > > > > > > > > > > > Like men need TRAINING to be assholes? > > > > > > > > > > Well, in your case, no. Obviously. It comes naturally to > > > > > you. But it seems that others have to work on it. > > > > > > > > You seem to be doing just fine without the training. :-) > > > > > > > > Seriously dude, are you still smarting because I called > > > > you on acting like a cultist? You were. You still are. > > > > You didn't challenge anything I said, you didn't explain > > > > WHY you felt the need to deliver an insult, you just > > > > played "Shoot the messenger." How cultist can one get? > > > > Just sayin'... > > > > > > > > If you disagree with something I said, try explaining > > > > WHY, or try dealing with the content you disagreed with, > > > > or do something more like a...dare I say it?...man would > > > > do. Just slinging insults as if you were still carrying > > > > a grudge over something that real men would have gotten > > > > over within five minutes and wouldn't remember after ten > > > > minutes is not really working well for you. IMO, of course. > > > > > > Here is BW's secret. Whereas almost everyone else when expressing a > > > strong opinion about a controversial topic reveals their personal and > > > subjective experience of themselves when they do this--even if that > > > person (and even the reader) is unaware of this fact,--BW eliminates any > > > concern--this is mathematical--about himself (whether what he is saying > > > he really believes, how he experiences his relationship to what is true, > > > how successful he envisages he will be when others read what he has > > > written). BW plays against all these forces. He knows he will outrage and > > > offend persons: he lines up on this contingency and makes sure that as he > > > writes his main focus is on stimulating the frustration and disapproval > > > in those readers who will be a victim of this singular method of > > > provocation. > > > > > > BW, then, does not allow the reader, either consciously or unconsciously, > > > to derive any experience of what kind of experience BW must be having as > > > he so slovenly and insincerely (the latter is quite subtle and can easily > > > be missed) argues for his position. But note: BW cannot really have any > > > investment in or commitment to anything he says by way of controversy. > > > And why is this? Because he excludes from his experience in the act of > > > writing any possible feedback he might get from himself as he writes into > > > reality and the consciousness of other persons. > > > > > > If you examine your experience of reading one of BW's intensely > > > opinionated posts you will realize that BW is making himself immune to > > > your very deepest response to what he is saying. You are put in a kind of > > > psychological and intellectual vacuum as you sense that BW not only will > > > ignore your experience--and possible response--but that he is actually > > > acutely aware of this very phenomenon: that he can be heedless of any > > > responsibility to truth--to his sense of truth, to the reader's sense of > > > truth. This becomes the context out of which he writes: to generate an > > > unnoticed vulnerability in the reader as he [BW] writes out his opinion > > > but anaesthetizes himself in the very execution of this act such that > > > only you are feeling and experiencing anything at all. For BW makes sure > > > he is feeling nothing. A zero. > > > > > > What this means is that BW deprives the reader of any subconscious sense > > > that BW is in any way responsible for being judged by both how sincerely > > > interested he is in doing justice to what he thinks the truth is, and by > > > how much he cares about what the reader thinks about how sincere he is. > > > You see, BW plays against all this, and out of this deliberate insulation > > > from reality (reality here being the experience of the reader reading > > > BW's post; reality being the experience of BW of himself as he writes his > > > opinion of some controversial issue; reality being what actual reality > > > might think about what he has written) BW creates a context which makes > > > those readers who are not predetermined to approve of BW (no matter what > > > he says) the perfect victim of BW's systematic and controlled mind game. > > > > > > BW relishes the fact that he knows that he has complete control over his > > > subjective experience of himself as he acts (action here constituting his > > > posts on FFL). In this sense: His subjectivity is entirely in the service > > > of producing the particular effect he is seeking in those readers whom he > > > knows are the innocent registrars of their experience--this is, as I have > > > stipulated, likely to be unconscious or subconscious. For everyone else > > > but BW has to bear the consequences of their deeds as they enact them. > > > Not BW. Not only does he vaccinate himself against any feedback from > > > others, but he vaccinates himself against any feedback from himself. This > > > means the FFL reader experiences a strange kind of reality: A person who > > > is expressing a strong opinion who, when he does this, does not offer up > > > any evidence of what his own experience is of himself when he does this. > > > > > > Thus deprives the reader of a constituent element in reading what someone > > > writes which that reader's unconscious has always assumed is there. > > > > > > It is not, and this is the negative vertigo that is created in the > > > quasi-objective and impartial FFL reader. And it is why BW is able to > > > remain inside of himself as if he is the only person in the universe and > > > he has been posting only to himself. As if this were the case, since he > > > has removed himself from the context of 1. his own self-experience 2. the > > > experience of the reader 3. the interactive fact of BW in relationship to > > > reality and what abstractly even might be the actual truth of the matter > > > about which he is writing. > > > > > > BW's game goes unnoticed. But it is critic-proof. The more agitated or > > > scornful or ironic or commonsensical or reasonable someone is in > > > attempting to challenge what BW has written, to the extent to which this > > > represents a real intention inside the other person, is the extent to > > > which that intention--and the writing of a counter-post--will end up in > > > empty space--No one is there. > > > > > > BW has delighted himself by becoming dead to his own subjectivity. His > > > pleasure comes from the ineluctable consequence of this as it affects > > > other human beings. > > > > > > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "seekliberation" > > > > > > > <seekliberation@> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ahhh, the whole sterling men's group cult that started back in > > > > > > > > the 90's. I remember that whole thing (I think it's still > > > > > > > > going). I ended up going to the 'weekend seminar' that is the > > > > > > > > basis of the whole group. It's actually valuable if you've > > > > > > > > been raised like a modern american male (irresponsible, > > > > > > > > immature, unable to transition from boyhood to manhood, > > > > > > > > etc...). The whole weekend is about a lot of things, but > > > > > > > > primarily what I got out of it is a view of how weak and > > > > > > > > pathetic men are becoming decade after decade in America. It > > > > > > > > was a kind of eye-opening experience for me, and i'm thankful > > > > > > > > for it. Othwerwise, I do believe I would've continued in life > > > > > > > > with a lot of perpetual abandonment of responsibility and > > > > > > > > growth that is often justified by modern American males to > > > > > > > > avoid altogether. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > However, the whole sterling men's group turned into a 'cult > > > > > > > > within a cult'. Not only were the men from Fairfield mostly > > > > > > > > meditators, but now they're a part of another new > > > > > > > > 'paradigm-shifting' group. I found that a lot of the men in > > > > > > > > that group were doing a lot of superficial things that were > > > > > > > > just NOT a part of their character. It was usually to display > > > > > > > > some masculinity or manliness. There were so many of them that > > > > > > > > would all of a sudden try acting tough, though they never were > > > > > > > > tough their entire life. The intensity of their recruiting > > > > > > > > efforts was borderline psychotic. I honestly believe that only > > > > > > > > a sociopath could remain in that group without any serious > > > > > > > > conflict with others. Many men who were part of it eventually > > > > > > > > drifted away due to the same perceptions that I had of it. > > > > > > > > However, we all agreed it (the weekend seminar) changed our > > > > > > > > lives for the better. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > The funny part about it is that eventually the Head Honcho of > > > > > > > > all nationwide Sterling groups (Justin Sterling) made an > > > > > > > > executive decision to disband the group from Fairfield from > > > > > > > > being an official representation of the 'Sterling Men's Group'. > > > > > > > > I'm not sure why, but I think that the leader of the whole gig > > > > > > > > felt that something was seriously wrong with the men's group > > > > > > > > from Fairfield in comparison to other groups in the rest of the > > > > > > > > nation. He was probably right. A lot of these men were > > > > > > > > fanatics about TM, or some other form of spirituality or > > > > > > > > new-agism. And if you take someone like that and latch them > > > > > > > > onto another belief system, it's like the fanatacism goes > > > > > > > > through the roof. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > All that being said, I do agree that the weekend has changed > > > > > > > > some people's lives, but I would strongly recommend avoiding > > > > > > > > the group activities that come afterward (unless you really > > > > > > > > enjoy it). It was a major pain in the ass when I announced to > > > > > > > > the group that I didn't want anything to do with them anymore. > > > > > > > > It's worse than trying to tell a military recruiter that you > > > > > > > > changed your mind�..literally. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > seekliberation > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "seventhray27" > > > > > > > > <steve.sundur@> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > I am guessing that this is carry over from the "Mens" > > > > > > > > > movement thing > > > > > > > > > from some time ago. Was it Sterling, or something? I guess > > > > > > > > > I could > > > > > > > > > look it up. But I remember someone from Fairfield, put one > > > > > > > > > of my good > > > > > > > > > friends from here in St. Louis to recruit me, or invite me to > > > > > > > > > participate or something. It was awkward for him, and it was > > > > > > > > > awkward > > > > > > > > > for me. But the Fairfield guy employed all the high pressure > > > > > > > > > tactics > > > > > > > > > you use to sell something. My friend and I were at my house > > > > > > > > > and the FF > > > > > > > > > guy was doing his thing on the phone. But then, as now, I > > > > > > > > > didn't care > > > > > > > > > to get recruited to a new group. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > And truthfully, I still have resentment for that guy for his > > > > > > > > > blatant > > > > > > > > > manipulation. He just wouldn't take no for an answer. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Who knows, maybe I could have benefited from it. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >
