Barb Moermond <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
What I'm sensing through all this is much more a failure to interpret the appropriate feeling/intent behind the text than deliberate fight-picking. We've had the latter here, several years ago, and there is a difference. One of the major problems with this medium is that there are a myriad of communication clues that are not available: tone of voice, facial _expression_, body language etc. I personally have found that the best way to communicate that there's confusion is to reflect back what you think you heard/understood from the message. "I'm hearing you say x, is that what you meant?" Unfortunately, all too frequently what we mean to say is NOT how it comes across - especially with people who don't know each other well and in this stark setting. I find that approach helpful with my husband
with face-to-face verbal communication; he will say something a! ! nd I will question it and he's able to say no no, that's not what I meant and I end up saying that that's what came across, no matter what the intention was initially leaving his mouth, that's what hit my ears.
Anyhoo, that's my 2 cents.
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Barb+Smoky the House Puma+El Bandito Malito
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