Re: [gay_bombay] interesting

2004-08-14 Thread Sahil Khan
Its really nice & knowledgable to know the below Report, sply for marrried gay/bi 
people.
The last line keeps haunting me yet!!!  
it is as below:

"I think we're going to get to the age when husband cheats on his wife she's going to 
pack up and walk out," he said. 
 
Hmmm lets seee how long one can withstand HIS Double Identity!!!
 
Sahil.
 
 
 
 



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2004-08-14 Thread ketan





New Jersey Gov. James. E. McGreevey, center, and family 
(KRT Photo)Aug 12, 2004 
Mystery of Jersey's first lady
BY ANN GIVENSStaff WriterStanding before the cameras Thursday 
afternoon, New Jersey Gov. James McGreevey and his wife, Dina, made a baffling 
pair: He announcing that he is gay, had an affair with a man, and will resign. 
She, holding his hand with an indecipherable smile on her face.The 
well-known governor suddenly seemed unknowable. But perhaps the bigger mystery 
was the woman by his side: Was 38-year-old Dina Matos McGreevey as blind sided 
as the public by her husband's announcement? And if so, how could she stand 
smiling by him through this unbearably painful moment?"It depends how 
long ago she found out," said Dan Forero, who heads the Straight Spouse Network 
of Long Island, a support group for straight people who are married to gays. "If 
she only found out two weeks ago, she was just smiling for the camera and was 
probably very numb. If she's known for some years, then maybe she's made some 
peace with it."A different set of rulesIt is nearly impossible 
to know what is going on in Matos McGreevey's mind, or behind closed doors in 
her home. Some have guessed that the McGreeveys' marriage -- his second -- was 
based on convenience from the start; others believe the news was a shock to her. 
Either way, a marriage in the political spotlight follows different rules than a 
private relationship, experts agree.Mike Paul, president of MGP & 
Associates, a Manhattan-based public relations firm that has managed personal 
crises for public figures, said political couples should know up front that "for 
better or for worse" may mean taking very public questions about the most 
intimate subjects."As a first lady, you're going to be a public figure 
whether you want to be or not," Paul said. "When there's a crisis, you can't say 
'No comment.'"Not unheard ofIf the McGreeveys, who met in 1997, 
did have a "marriage of convenience," they would not be alone among political 
couples, said Larry Sabato, director of the Center for Politics at University of 
Virginia."It's more common among politicians than it is in the group of 
people that I proudly call normal," Sabato said. "Ambitious people are often 
attracted to one another, and in order to get power and position they are 
willing to make compromises in their personal relationships."It is also 
not uncommon for heterosexual people married to gay people to try and make their 
relationships work, experts said.Forero, whose own marriage ended in 
divorce after his wife told him she is a lesbian, said about 15 percent of 
gay-straight marriages stay together. Even he thought for a time they could work 
things out, he said."A lot of times they love that person, they want a 
family and they think this is a way to do it," said Amity Pierce Buxton, author 
of "The Other Side of the Closet: The Coming-Out Crisis for Straight Spouses and 
Families" and head of the national Straight Spouse Network. "They think that 
love will conquer all."But for many people, especially those who do not 
know from the start that their spouse is gay, the shock is too much to get 
beyond."You feel deceived," said Buxton, whose husband told her he was 
gay after 25 years of marriage. "It takes a little while to face reality that 
this is who they are and you can't go back to the way things were. Then you can 
start healing."Some experts say it may actually have been easier for 
Matos McGreevey to stand up with her husband than it would have been to speak 
out against him."You don't want to make it so messy that people are 
constantly wanting more comments from you," said Steven Rhoads, a professor in 
the Department of Politics at the University of Virginia and the author of 
"Taking Sex Differences Seriously." "Craig Schermer, a historian for the 
National First Ladies' Library in Canton, Ohio, said he cannot think of a 
presidential first lady who did not ultimately "stand by her 
man.""Ultimately, I think most of them realized that it was a 
partnership, and to expose their anger was to expose themselves," said Schermer, 
citing the Clintons and the Hardings as just two couples who suffered through 
extramarital affairs.But Schermer said that, as women become more 
liberated and first ladies become more independent, the days of loyalty to 
unfaithful spouses may come to an end."I think we're going to get to the 
age when husband cheats on his wife she's going to pack up and walk out," he 
said. 
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[gay_bombay] Interesting-Tibetan Buddhist Medicine and Psychiatry: The Diamond Healing -

2004-07-24 Thread coffebeans2002
Tibetan Buddhist Medicine and Psychiatry: The Diamond Healing - 
Terry Clifford 
http://www.timesoftibet.com/weblog/web/Articles/2153/1/Tibetan_Buddhi
st_Medicine_and_Psychiatry%253a_The_Diamond_Healing_-
_Terry_Clifford_.aspx
Tsering Dhondup
 by Tsering Dhondup
Published on 7/21/2004 
 

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Tibetan Buddhist Medicine and Psychiatry: The Diamond Healing - 
Terry Clifford 
Tibetan Medicine, which is one of the world's oldest medical 
traditions, has undergone a long journey development to reach the 
present century. However, it remained largely unheard about in the 
outside world, with the western medical scholars having generally 
ignored it for a long time.
 
According to the author of the book under review, Tibetan Medicine 
was imported  with Buddhism from India in the seventh century. The 
author further  points out that Indian Ayurveda had been developed 
some 1000 years before, its oral antecedents dating back to the 
times of Vedas.
 
However, an in-depth research in Tibetan medical texts reveal that 
Tibetan Medicine is as old as the Tibetan civilization itself. 
Tibetans in ancient time were clever enough to develop various 
remedies for common illnesses. Even animals dwelling in Tibet had 
their own healing secrets, such as the deer using the plant called 
Yumo Solgong and birds using Busu Hang to join their broken horns 
and eggs-shell, respectively.
 
Like other healing traditions in the world, Tibetans developed their 
healing practices by own intuitive insights, coupled with continued 
experiences. Further growth and development of Tibetan Medicine took 
place during the times of Tonpa Sherab and his son Chebu Trishel, 
who wrote numerous texts on Tibetan Medicine, thereby contributing 
immensely to its standardization. The author of the book under 
review believes that Tibetan Shamanism healing traditions were 
incorporated and enriched with Chinese and Persian contributions.
 
Tibetan Medicine is a holistic system combining spirituality, 
mysticism and rational healing practices. The unique blend of all 
these contribute to its miraculous healing power. Tibet was at one 
time known in Central Asia as the "Country of Medicine" and 
the "Land of Medicine Plants".
 
Tibetan Medicine suffered its worst period in history in the 
aftermath of the Chinese invasion in the 1950's, when much of 
Tibet's cultural identity was therefore of utmost importance to His 
Holiness the Dalai Lama who found ready support in this venture in 
India's Prime Minister Jawaharlal Nehru. Insitutions to preserve the 
different aspects of Tibetan culture were set in exile and the 
Dharamsala-based Tibetan Medicial & Astro Insititute (Mensteekhang) 
has been one of the most successful one. The Chagpori Medical 
College (CMC) in Dharjeeling under the directorship of Dr. Trogawa 
Rinpoche has also emerged as an important centre for studying 
Tibetan Medicine.
 
The spiritual and religious aspects of Tibetan Medicine have 
probably contributed to its growing popularity and uniqueness, 
unlike other healing systems such as that of the Chinese medical 
system. Buddhism and Tibetan Medicine are two sides of the same 
coin. Buddha taught the ultimate truth by relating it to medical 
analogy. The Buddha Dharma is said to subdue the 84, 000 afflictive 
emotions and enlighten us from the darkness and grip of suffering. 
The Buddha concluded that the basic delusion of ego's self-existence 
and the reality of entities being impermanent contribute to the 
inherent frustrations of our conditioned existence and endless 
cravings. Buddha's teachings further emphasise the fact that mental 
vibrations create external entities (matter), illness and wellness, 
which according to the author is the "fundamental psychosomatic 
assumption of the Buddhist medicine."
 
Abhidharma, which is the Buddhist text containing the psychological 
tenets, explains that afflictive emotions (Tib. nyon-mongs, Sans: 
kelsha) obscure the natural reality of mental perfection. The 
practice of Dharma enhances our insights and enables us to identify 
these negative mental patterns and habits, revealing a path to 
diminishing them. According to the text Abhidharmasamuccaya, mental 
afflictive emotions is defined as "mental factor that, upon 
occurring in mind, has the function of producing turmoil in and lack 
of control over the psyche." 
 
All kinds of afflictive emotions can be condensed into three main 
emotions: attachment, hatred and delusion. Afflictive emotions can 
also be classified into two: emotional pattern and mental 
obscuration. Emotional pattern includes gross, which is inborn. The 
second part i.e., mental obscuration can also be gross or subtle 
which includes wrong views and subject-object dualism, respectively. 
It is this later subject-object dualism or the idea of holding the 
existence of "self" that creates all sorts of sufferings and 
disorders. 
 
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[gay_bombay] Interesting Webistes

2004-06-15 Thread Imran Mujwar



Here are some interesting websites 
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Features profiles of historic figures who were gay; like Alexander - The Great, Lawrence of Arabia, Florence Nightingle (can you believe that) & a few others.
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Features the history of homosexuality the world over; countrywise.
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