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New Jersey Gov. James. E. McGreevey, center, and family (KRT Photo)Aug 12, 2004 Mystery of Jersey's first lady BY ANN GIVENSStaff WriterStanding before the cameras Thursday afternoon, New Jersey Gov. James McGreevey and his wife, Dina, made a baffling pair: He announcing that he is gay, had an affair with a man, and will resign. She, holding his hand with an indecipherable smile on her face.The well-known governor suddenly seemed unknowable. But perhaps the bigger mystery was the woman by his side: Was 38-year-old Dina Matos McGreevey as blind sided as the public by her husband's announcement? And if so, how could she stand smiling by him through this unbearably painful moment?"It depends how long ago she found out," said Dan Forero, who heads the Straight Spouse Network of Long Island, a support group for straight people who are married to gays. "If she only found out two weeks ago, she was just smiling for the camera and was probably very numb. If she's known for some years, then maybe she's made some peace with it."A different set of rulesIt is nearly impossible to know what is going on in Matos McGreevey's mind, or behind closed doors in her home. Some have guessed that the McGreeveys' marriage -- his second -- was based on convenience from the start; others believe the news was a shock to her. Either way, a marriage in the political spotlight follows different rules than a private relationship, experts agree.Mike Paul, president of MGP & Associates, a Manhattan-based public relations firm that has managed personal crises for public figures, said political couples should know up front that "for better or for worse" may mean taking very public questions about the most intimate subjects."As a first lady, you're going to be a public figure whether you want to be or not," Paul said. "When there's a crisis, you can't say 'No comment.'"Not unheard ofIf the McGreeveys, who met in 1997, did have a "marriage of convenience," they would not be alone among political couples, said Larry Sabato, director of the Center for Politics at University of Virginia."It's more common among politicians than it is in the group of people that I proudly call normal," Sabato said. "Ambitious people are often attracted to one another, and in order to get power and position they are willing to make compromises in their personal relationships."It is also not uncommon for heterosexual people married to gay people to try and make their relationships work, experts said.Forero, whose own marriage ended in divorce after his wife told him she is a lesbian, said about 15 percent of gay-straight marriages stay together. Even he thought for a time they could work things out, he said."A lot of times they love that person, they want a family and they think this is a way to do it," said Amity Pierce Buxton, author of "The Other Side of the Closet: The Coming-Out Crisis for Straight Spouses and Families" and head of the national Straight Spouse Network. "They think that love will conquer all."But for many people, especially those who do not know from the start that their spouse is gay, the shock is too much to get beyond."You feel deceived," said Buxton, whose husband told her he was gay after 25 years of marriage. "It takes a little while to face reality that this is who they are and you can't go back to the way things were. Then you can start healing."Some experts say it may actually have been easier for Matos McGreevey to stand up with her husband than it would have been to speak out against him."You don't want to make it so messy that people are constantly wanting more comments from you," said Steven Rhoads, a professor in the Department of Politics at the University of Virginia and the author of "Taking Sex Differences Seriously." "Craig Schermer, a historian for the National First Ladies' Library in Canton, Ohio, said he cannot think of a presidential first lady who did not ultimately "stand by her man.""Ultimately, I think most of them realized that it was a partnership, and to expose their anger was to expose themselves," said Schermer, citing the Clintons and the Hardings as just two couples who suffered through extramarital affairs.But Schermer said that, as women become more liberated and first ladies become more independent, the days of loyalty to unfaithful spouses may come to an end."I think we're going to get to the age when husband cheats on his wife she's going to pack up and walk out," he said. Copyright © 2004, Newsday, Inc. Group Site: http://www.gaybombay.info == NEW CLASSIFIEDS SECTION SEEKING FRIENDS? VISIT www.gaybombay.info click on classified section and type your message in the post section once the link opens What's hot? What's not? Where are the LGBT parties being held and when? Click here!! http://calendar.yahoo.com/YYY,04497/srt,0/gaybombaygroup/?v=42&POS= Yahoo! Groups Sponsor ADVERTISEMENT
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Tibetan Buddhist Medicine and Psychiatry: The Diamond Healing - Terry Clifford http://www.timesoftibet.com/weblog/web/Articles/2153/1/Tibetan_Buddhi st_Medicine_and_Psychiatry%253a_The_Diamond_Healing_- _Terry_Clifford_.aspx Tsering Dhondup by Tsering Dhondup Published on 7/21/2004 - --- Tibetan Buddhist Medicine and Psychiatry: The Diamond Healing - Terry Clifford Tibetan Medicine, which is one of the world's oldest medical traditions, has undergone a long journey development to reach the present century. However, it remained largely unheard about in the outside world, with the western medical scholars having generally ignored it for a long time. According to the author of the book under review, Tibetan Medicine was imported with Buddhism from India in the seventh century. The author further points out that Indian Ayurveda had been developed some 1000 years before, its oral antecedents dating back to the times of Vedas. However, an in-depth research in Tibetan medical texts reveal that Tibetan Medicine is as old as the Tibetan civilization itself. Tibetans in ancient time were clever enough to develop various remedies for common illnesses. Even animals dwelling in Tibet had their own healing secrets, such as the deer using the plant called Yumo Solgong and birds using Busu Hang to join their broken horns and eggs-shell, respectively. Like other healing traditions in the world, Tibetans developed their healing practices by own intuitive insights, coupled with continued experiences. Further growth and development of Tibetan Medicine took place during the times of Tonpa Sherab and his son Chebu Trishel, who wrote numerous texts on Tibetan Medicine, thereby contributing immensely to its standardization. The author of the book under review believes that Tibetan Shamanism healing traditions were incorporated and enriched with Chinese and Persian contributions. Tibetan Medicine is a holistic system combining spirituality, mysticism and rational healing practices. The unique blend of all these contribute to its miraculous healing power. Tibet was at one time known in Central Asia as the "Country of Medicine" and the "Land of Medicine Plants". Tibetan Medicine suffered its worst period in history in the aftermath of the Chinese invasion in the 1950's, when much of Tibet's cultural identity was therefore of utmost importance to His Holiness the Dalai Lama who found ready support in this venture in India's Prime Minister Jawaharlal Nehru. Insitutions to preserve the different aspects of Tibetan culture were set in exile and the Dharamsala-based Tibetan Medicial & Astro Insititute (Mensteekhang) has been one of the most successful one. The Chagpori Medical College (CMC) in Dharjeeling under the directorship of Dr. Trogawa Rinpoche has also emerged as an important centre for studying Tibetan Medicine. The spiritual and religious aspects of Tibetan Medicine have probably contributed to its growing popularity and uniqueness, unlike other healing systems such as that of the Chinese medical system. Buddhism and Tibetan Medicine are two sides of the same coin. Buddha taught the ultimate truth by relating it to medical analogy. The Buddha Dharma is said to subdue the 84, 000 afflictive emotions and enlighten us from the darkness and grip of suffering. The Buddha concluded that the basic delusion of ego's self-existence and the reality of entities being impermanent contribute to the inherent frustrations of our conditioned existence and endless cravings. Buddha's teachings further emphasise the fact that mental vibrations create external entities (matter), illness and wellness, which according to the author is the "fundamental psychosomatic assumption of the Buddhist medicine." Abhidharma, which is the Buddhist text containing the psychological tenets, explains that afflictive emotions (Tib. nyon-mongs, Sans: kelsha) obscure the natural reality of mental perfection. The practice of Dharma enhances our insights and enables us to identify these negative mental patterns and habits, revealing a path to diminishing them. According to the text Abhidharmasamuccaya, mental afflictive emotions is defined as "mental factor that, upon occurring in mind, has the function of producing turmoil in and lack of control over the psyche." All kinds of afflictive emotions can be condensed into three main emotions: attachment, hatred and delusion. Afflictive emotions can also be classified into two: emotional pattern and mental obscuration. Emotional pattern includes gross, which is inborn. The second part i.e., mental obscuration can also be gross or subtle which includes wrong views and subject-object dualism, respectively. It is this later subject-object dualism or the idea of holding the existence of "self" that creates all sorts of sufferings and disorders. Chapter 8 of th
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