FW: [ozmidwifery] fear

[Vedrana Valčić]

 

I think it’s not so much a matter of
verbalizing the fear, I think it has more to do with asking the question. When
you ask a question, a woman asks herself that question, maybe for the first
time, or at least for the first time in that situation. The right question at
the right time, followed by reassurance, or by something different to what a
woman believed until then, can lead to a crucial insight. My 2 cents J.

 

Vedrana

 









From: owner-ozmidwifery@acegraphics.com.au
[mailto:owner-ozmidwifery@acegraphics.com.au]
On Behalf Of Ceri & Katrina
Sent: Monday, February 06, 2006
6:44 AM
To: ozmidwifery@acegraphics.com.au
Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] fear



 



On 05/02/2006, at 12:36 AM, Susan Cudlipp wrote: 





 



"What is your biggest fear right now?"  She didn't
answer for a couple of contractions then suddenly burst out " My biggest
fear is that I won't be able to birth the baby"  What do you know -
lip went and baby started to appear! 





 



This fascinates me too. 





Is is just a matter of verbalising that fear??? I know it sounds dumb,
but most women when questioned say that they fear the pain.no denying that
it is going to hurt, so is it a matter of just verbalising it?? 



 



On a similar matter 





the last couple of weks, I have had 2 women simply stump me. One with an
epidural, one without. Both reached 9 then 10 cms dilation, and decided they
did not want to push. They were adament they did not want to push, that they
wanted "the baby pulled out"!!! Despite reasurrance that they could
do it, and that unless they were unwell or the baby distressed, they baby would
NOT be pulled out and they certainly would not be taken for a LSCS, they
continued to say "No I dont want to push", "I'm not going to
push" "it is going to hurt too much!" 



 



They eventually had the baby when the next shift took over, but I was
wondering if anyone else had encountered this before?? 



 

Re: [ozmidwifery] fear

[Jo Watson]

Lieve, that story brought a tear to my eye! Amazing.JoOn 06/02/2006, at 3:37 PM, Lieve Huybrechts wrote: Then I asked how she was born: a ventouse extraction. I said, ok, you didn’t finish your own birth. She was wondering if that was so. I asked if that was a theme in her life: doing things, but difficulty to reach the finish. She thought it over and she said yes, it was. Ok, I said this thing you can do, you are born as a woman to give birth, you can do it. Than it became quiet again. She was in bath on her knees with her head in my lap and my hands in hers. After fifteen min she raised her head and said: the head is out. A minute later the baby was born in the water, she really did it on her own. The baby Jef had a birthweight of 4980gr. She fully opened for him, she didn’t have a tear.

Re: [ozmidwifery] fear

[Judy Chapman]

Yes, I have. 
When I was working in Saudi. Grand Multi, coule see the baby's
head at the introitus but she would not push, wanted a CS. 
It was a very interventionist place, a dribble of synto was
commenced, easy when all women had an IV, and eventually she
gave one big push and the baby came out. I could speak some
arabic but not enough to delve into the fears she had. Chances
are she had not wanted to be pregnant and possible did not
particularly want this baby. Or possibly the coming of the baby
would soon mean resumption of unwanted andvances from her,
possibly chosen for her, husband. 
Cheers
Judy

--- Ceri & Katrina <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:

> On 05/02/2006, at 12:36 AM, Susan Cudlipp wrote:
> 
> > "What is your biggest fear right now?"  She didn't answer
> for a couple 
> > of contractions then suddenly burst out " My biggest fear is
> that I 
> > won't be able to birth the baby"  What do you know - lip
> went and baby 
> > started to appear!
> 
> 
> 
> This fascinates me too.
> Is is just a matter of verbalising that fear???  I know it
> sounds dumb, 
> but most women when questioned say that they fear the
> pain.no 
> denying that it is going to hurt, so is it a matter of just
> verbalising 
> it??
> 
> On a similar matter
> the last couple of weks, I have had 2 women simply stump me.
> One with 
> an epidural, one without. Both reached 9 then 10 cms dilation,
> and 
> decided they did not want to push. They were adament they did
> not want 
> to push, that they wanted "the baby pulled out"!!!  Despite
> reasurrance 
> that they could do it, and that unless they were unwell or the
> baby 
> distressed, they baby would NOT be pulled out and they
> certainly would 
> not be taken for a LSCS, they continued to say "No I dont want
> to 
> push", "I'm not going to push" "it is going to hurt too much!"
> 
> They eventually had the baby when the next shift took over,
> but I was 
> wondering if anyone else had encountered this before??
> 
> 
> 




 
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RE: [ozmidwifery] fear

[Vedrana Valčić]

I think it’s not so much a matter of
verbalizing the fear, I think it has more to do with asking the question. When you
ask a question, a woman asks herself that question, maybe for the first time,
or at least for the first time in that situation. The right question at the
right time, followed by reassurance, or by something different to what a woman
believed until then, can lead to a crucial insight. My 2 cents J.

 

Vedrana

 









From: owner-ozmidwifery@acegraphics.com.au
[mailto:owner-ozmidwifery@acegraphics.com.au]
On Behalf Of Ceri & Katrina
Sent: Monday, February 06, 2006
6:44 AM
To: ozmidwifery@acegraphics.com.au
Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] fear



 



On 05/02/2006, at 12:36 AM, Susan Cudlipp wrote: 





 



"What is your biggest fear right now?"  She didn't
answer for a couple of contractions then suddenly burst out " My biggest
fear is that I won't be able to birth the baby"  What do you know -
lip went and baby started to appear! 











This fascinates me too. 





Is is just a matter of verbalising that fear??? I know it sounds dumb,
but most women when questioned say that they fear the pain.no denying that
it is going to hurt, so is it a matter of just verbalising it?? 



 



On a similar matter 





the last couple of weks, I have had 2 women simply stump me. One with
an epidural, one without. Both reached 9 then 10 cms dilation, and decided they
did not want to push. They were adament they did not want to push, that they
wanted "the baby pulled out"!!! Despite reasurrance that they could
do it, and that unless they were unwell or the baby distressed, they baby would
NOT be pulled out and they certainly would not be taken for a LSCS, they
continued to say "No I dont want to push", "I'm not going to
push" "it is going to hurt too much!" 



 



They eventually had the baby when the next shift took over, but I was
wondering if anyone else had encountered this before??