-Caveat Lector- Below please find another selection from an excellent book for survivors of ritual abuse. It may be out of print, but I have heard copies may still be available. Sincerely, Neil Brick PS IMO, this can apply to almost anyone. >From "Safe Passage to Healing - A Guide for Survivors of Ritual Abuse" by Chrystine Oksana, HarperCollins, c 1994 p 30-31 Barometers of Recovery 1. You believe and trust yourself. 2. You take delight in your own company and in the company of others. You are content being alone as you are being social. 3. You feel whole within yourself. You do not need something outside yourself, such as approval, a job, wealth, spouse, academic credentials, ...to feel complete. You are neither made superior or diminished by these things. You do not judge your own or other people's worth according to these things... 4. You don't change who you are to conform who you're with. 5. You love yourself and so can love others. 6. You feel a connection with our universe... 7. You intuitively know where you end and where others begin (often referred to as having "boundaries"). You understand that we are all separate yet a part of this planet, and so, connected. 8. You are responsible for your own thoughts, feelings. and behaviors. You also know that your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors affect ...all things. 9. You live in the present more than in the past or future... 10. You feel at home with yourself. You are comfortable on your body, with your emotions, mind, and spirit. 11. You are spontaneous and find excitement in living. You experience things as they occur through feelings. 12. You engage in regular activities that enhance and deepen your experience of yourself in the universe.... 13. You accept the human condition. This means living a full life while accepting human imperfections and limitations.... 14. You do not wonder what "normal" is. You live according to rules and rhythms that are in keeping with yourself and the universe. Recovery means experiencing your own self and enjoying your full potential..... The journey is difficult, but you have what it takes to complete it. Every answer is inside you. The simple key is TRUST YOURSELF. Remember that as you read this book and as you walk your own road to recovery. DECLARATION & DISCLAIMER ========== CTRL is a discussion and informational exchange list. Proselyzting propagandic screeds are not allowed. Substance—not soapboxing! These are sordid matters and 'conspiracy theory', with its many half-truths, misdirections and outright frauds is used politically by different groups with major and minor effects spread throughout the spectrum of time and thought. That being said, CTRL gives no endorsement to the validity of posts, and always suggests to readers; be wary of what you read. CTRL gives no credeence to Holocaust denial and nazi's need not apply. Let us please be civil and as always, Caveat Lector. ======================================================================== Archives Available at: http://home.ease.lsoft.com/archives/CTRL.html http:[EMAIL PROTECTED]/ ======================================================================== To subscribe to Conspiracy Theory Research List[CTRL] send email: SUBSCRIBE CTRL [to:] [EMAIL PROTECTED] To UNsubscribe to Conspiracy Theory Research List[CTRL] send email: SIGNOFF CTRL [to:] [EMAIL PROTECTED] Om