[FairfieldLife] Good for the goose, good for the gander (was Re: Yagna By Choice Payback)

2005-12-14 Thread TurquoiseB
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Peter <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > --- authfriend <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, TurquoiseB > > <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > > > I've always felt that developing a sense of > > comfort > > > with (and forgiveness for)

[FairfieldLife] Good for the goose, good for the gander (was Re: Yagna By Choice Payback)

2005-12-14 Thread lurkernomore20002000
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, TurquoiseB <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > I've always felt that developing a sense of comfort > with (and forgiveness for) one's assholiness is far > more important to spiritual progress than developing > a feel (almost always illusory) for one's holiness.

Re: [FairfieldLife] Good for the goose, good for the gander (was Re: Yagna By Choice Payback)

2005-12-14 Thread Peter
--- authfriend <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, TurquoiseB > <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > I've always felt that developing a sense of > comfort > > with (and forgiveness for) one's assholiness is > far > > more important to spiritual progress than > develop

[FairfieldLife] Good for the goose, good for the gander (was Re: Yagna By Choice Payback)

2005-12-14 Thread authfriend
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, TurquoiseB <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > I've always felt that developing a sense of comfort > with (and forgiveness for) one's assholiness is far > more important to spiritual progress than developing > a feel (almost always illusory) for one's holiness. Exce

[FairfieldLife] Good for the goose, good for the gander (was Re: Yagna By Choice Payback)

2005-12-14 Thread anonymousff
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Peter <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > I also noticed you started > to do what I did and get caught up in what > psychoanalytic thought calls projective > identification. The person in question unconsciously > projects a unintegrated/disowned aspect of their > pe

[FairfieldLife] Good for the goose, good for the gander (was Re: Yagna By Choice Payback)

2005-12-14 Thread Patrick Gillam
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, TurquoiseB <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Peter <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > wrote: > > --- Patrick Gillam <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > > > I marvel at my assholeness to this day. > > > > We're all marvelous assholes at tim

[FairfieldLife] Good for the goose, good for the gander (was Re: Yagna By Choice Payback)

2005-12-14 Thread TurquoiseB
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Peter <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > --- Patrick Gillam <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > I marvel at my assholeness to this day. > > We're all marvelous assholes at times, aren't we? Like > when I'm driving along singing a bhajan and a guy cuts > in front of m

Re: [FairfieldLife] Good for the goose, good for the gander (was Re: Yagna By Choice Payback)

2005-12-14 Thread Peter
--- Patrick Gillam <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > --- Peter wrote: > > > > projective > > identification. The person in question > unconsciously > > projects a unintegrated/disowned aspect of their > > personality onto others and provokes them into > > responding/behaving in accord with that > uni

[FairfieldLife] Good for the goose, good for the gander (was Re: Yagna By Choice Payback)

2005-12-14 Thread Patrick Gillam
--- Peter wrote: > > projective > identification. The person in question unconsciously > projects a unintegrated/disowned aspect of their > personality onto others and provokes them into > responding/behaving in accord with that unintegrated > part. People have a tendency to "go off" on the person

Re: [FairfieldLife] Good for the goose, good for the gander (was Re: Yagna By Choice Payback)

2005-12-14 Thread Rick Archer
on 12/14/05 9:01 AM, TurquoiseB at [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: > > But my suggestion was a real one. I suspect that > the Yagyas By Choice people would have nothing > to do with him if they were aware of how he's > been using the energy they've been sending his > way. We'll see how things turn out. W

[FairfieldLife] Good for the goose, good for the gander (was Re: Yagna By Choice Payback)

2005-12-14 Thread TurquoiseB
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Peter <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > Your attempt is admirable, Barry, but it won't > help. Hope does spring eternal, but trying to make a > rational end-run around someone's seemingly disturbed > psychology usually doesn't work as I've discovered in > my

Re: [FairfieldLife] Good for the goose, good for the gander (was Re: Yagna By Choice Payback)

2005-12-14 Thread Peter
Your attempt is admirable, Barry, but it won't help. Hope does spring eternal, but trying to make a rational end-run around someone's seemingly disturbed psychology usually doesn't work as I've discovered in my profession. To help, first there has to be a good therapeutic relationship and the

[FairfieldLife] Good for the goose, good for the gander (was Re: Yagna By Choice Payback)

2005-12-14 Thread lurkernomore20002000
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, TurquoiseB <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: snip > > I wish you nothing but the best. Really. But > you're out of control, dude, and it's messing > with this discussion forum, which I treasure. > Act out on your own time and in the privacy of > your own home, Tom

[FairfieldLife] Good for the goose, good for the gander (was Re: Yagna By Choice Payback)

2005-12-14 Thread TurquoiseB
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, TurquoiseB <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > This is like watching Robin Williams doing his > schizophrenia comedy routine, with two personalities > in the same being arguing back and forth with each > other. Except that Robin's routine is funny, and > this is