Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?

2010-12-17 Thread Claudia Veiga
I think it depends on the cat, I have knowns very sweet and friendly female cats who like being with other cats, I know some others on here made genralizations about female cats, but I wouldn't do that, I think it really depends on the cat, jsut like I don't liek to generalize about people.

Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?

2010-12-17 Thread Sharyl
Good point Claudia. I currently have 6 house kitties ranging in age from 18 yo to 14 wk old. Zippity-doo-dah, the baby, is the only male. I've found age plays more of a role in how well cats get along. My 18 yo girl just ignores the rest and will put them in their place if they bug her.

Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?

2010-12-17 Thread Natalie
Yes, I agree - but I believe that generally, males are more outgoing, and much easier to tame than feral females. I have plenty of very cuddly felines, even my tortie who acts like a dog (only to me)...she follows me like a dog. -Original Message- From: felvtalk-boun...@felineleukemia.org

Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?

2010-12-17 Thread Melinda Kerr
I agree completely. My 18mo old female with cancer who receives chemo has accepted the kitten since day one. When she doesn't feel like playing she patiently lets him know. When he doesn't back of she makes it quite clear she doesn't want to play! I've felt like she acts like a momma kitty.

Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?

2010-12-17 Thread Mike Finch
I'm with you Claudia!! The reality is that there are no rules... only imagined tendencies. :) I recently saw a very sweet movie called The Answer Man. I highly recommend it. In it, the lead female character said three things that she lives by that I totally love. 1) Never take advice

Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?

2010-12-17 Thread MaiMaiPG
They are all so different and sometimes our expectations have something to do with their actions/reactions. I have been blessed by friends that get along, even if it takes a while for them to work things out. Ebony and Mitu worked it out and they worked it out with Mai Mai and Allie (two

Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?

2010-12-16 Thread Beth
My females are little stinkers with other cats. My male cats have always been the nurturing, accepting ones. I've had big male formerly outdoor Tom cats who get fixed come inside play mom to my kitten fosters cuddle with my adult males. My female cats swat hiss at the kittens or new adults.

Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?

2010-12-16 Thread Natalie
That is EXACTLY what I have found - almost all of our male cats are nurturing, loving - just like mothers or uncles to kittens and all cats...females have not been! But then, they probably had their motherhood experience, and decided no more! My problem right now is that I have adoption age

Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?

2010-12-16 Thread Natalie
The most important thing is the way cats are introduced, which, as a rescuer, I am doing all the time. I either place a large cage where the cats are, and they get to know one another safely. It's also a good idea to use Feliway at the same time. Another trick we have is to have a screen door

Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?

2010-12-16 Thread Natalie
There's an alternative for Feliway - rub a drop of vanilla briskly between your hands and then touch the cats' faces on the side where the facial pheromone glands are located - this way all cats will smell the same. A very mild floral eau de cologne can also be used. A good way of introducing

Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?

2010-12-16 Thread Alice Flowers
I was not sure if getting a kitten would be the right thing for Rosie because she was so territorial when we brought Murphy home after he tested positive at the spay/neuter clinic and they were going to euthanize him if I didn't come pick him up quickly. She hissed and stalked him forever, but

Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?

2010-12-15 Thread MaiMaiPG
Consider what you would want if you were Whimsy. I don't know about another version but would you rather have a buddy even if your life was a little shorter? I can't answer that for you. I can tell you quality of life is very important to me and my family--both 2 legged and 4 legged.

Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?

2010-12-15 Thread Bonnie Hogue
Shannon I have to tell you this story... I got my cat, Stormy, as a 12 week old kitten. She was indoors only. There was a yard cat but they only saw eachother through the window. About a year after getting Stormy, I decided to go back to school to finish my degree. I was already working

Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?

2010-12-15 Thread MaiMaiPG
To add to this: Dixie left this world and I was broken hearted. She sent me Copper. I really wanted a brother/sister/friend for him. Two weeks later Thomas showed up. They are wonderful brothers and they now have Bob, a dog, to train. I really believe cats and dogs are easier in

Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?

2010-12-15 Thread Beverly Parsons
Hi Bonnie, I must beg to differ that most cats prefer to be the only! I have five male cats (aged fifteen years to six months) in our small apartment and they are all best buds. They rumble and tumble and play, and curl up and sleep together when they get tired. I don't think any of them

Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?

2010-12-15 Thread Bonnie Hogue
Beverly Oh, how I long for a home like yours! I agree about the intro, and I've tried to do it right with everyone. The most recent one was Lucky, and he's doing well and seems accepted by all. But there are tensions, especially between Stormy and the other girl, Miya Chan (she's a

Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?

2010-12-15 Thread Beverly Parsons
Yes, I do very much agree that boys are better at multi cat situations than girls are, from my experience at least. We're pretty lucky here. :-) On Dec 15, 2010, at 9:52 PM, Bonnie Hogue wrote: Beverly Oh, how I long for a home like yours! I agree about the intro, and I've tried to do it

Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?

2010-12-15 Thread MaiMaiPG
Try Feliway spray and Rescue Remedy in the water.Honest. Kitty was forced to leave her life long home to live with me. There was nothing that made her content much happy. I slept on the living room floor for about three months until she came out and was comfortable (or as

Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?

2010-12-15 Thread MaiMaiPG
Yes, Feliway is expensive but I would have done/spent anything to comfort Kitty. She was my father's cat before he left this world and..well...luckily you don't have to use a lot at a time. You are right about the personality of the animal. I have been blessed. All of the dogs

Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?

2010-12-15 Thread Emeraldkittee
It's funny you mention asking him, because I have, and he's been silent about the whole thing.  Not a stony silence, just a musing things over...I will answer when I am ready, human!' ;)  The outside entrance, thru which we have always come and gone, has frozen shut with the cold, so we have to

Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?

2010-12-15 Thread Emeraldkittee
thanks for sharing, Bonnie!  I wonder if it's just a female thing? I know there are laid back girl kitties, but I've always had tempermental, fussy ones, who I loved dearly.  We call our only female - the oldest at 15 - queen, too. :) --- On Wed, 12/15/10, Bonnie Hogue ho...@sonic.net wrote:

Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?

2010-12-15 Thread Joslin Potter
I wondered the same thing too, but with the adoption of our newest pomeranian, i realized that another cat was not in the game plan, believe it or not, my cat thinks of the puppy as it's kitten, truly different. From: Emeraldkittee emeraldkit...@yahoo.com