I never met the important people in my life because I was planning it or looking. Life just happened. It was always a surprise. The people I pursued never reciprocated. The people I did have relationships with were just people I came across from happenstance - usually meeting an unexpected friend of a friend, or a chance meeting in a shop.
I think the only thing you need to "work" on is your personality (and good health and hygiene, of course - health is sexy) and people just wander by. Peter --- In gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, suhail khan <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > Are you seriously looking for a guy? If the answer is yes, means you are "seriously" looking for a guy then there are few things you need to keep in mind. However, if you feel the need to have someone in your life only when you are in a sad mood, and when you are happy you dont care, then it means that you are not seriously looking for a guy, you are seriously looking for a guy only when you feel almost the same need of having someone in your life both when you are happy and when you are sad. > > There are few things which should be kept in mind when you are seriously looking for a guy. > > Let us suppose that you had few past relationships which didnt materialize for one reason or the other, and you still feel for some of your Exs quite a bit, though you know that their coming back or you two getting together is not possible. At that point it is quite important that you start forgetting them, I know it is not easy but I think it is very important for you to have a clear-cut mindset about your Exs. By forgetting I dont mean no contacts I mean you should forget about them entering your life in one way or the other, though in reality you know its impossible. By Exs I mean either those with whom it didnt work out when you both tried together or someone who went to someone else. > > So now when you are looking for someone to enter your life, and you have found someone (new guy) with whom you are in the process of knowing each other better and you like him, you should keep few things in mind: > > You have to completely forget your Exs, while you are conversing or chatting with the new guy. Many a times it happens that, when you are chatting with the new guy and you are quite prompt in responding, all of a sudden one of your Exs also comes online and now you are no more prompt in responding to the new guy, because someone for whom once you had a heart is now online, this according to me is wrong, because in that way your Ex is always going to be in between you and the new guy, which means its not a healthy relationship between you and the new guy, because the new guy would definitely feel that whenever his Ex comes online his replies become very direct and short. > > By forgetting your Ex I dont mean that you stop talking to him and dont have any contacts with him, what I mean to say is that your replies should continue to be detailed to the new guy and short and direct to the Ex, you can chat in detail with your Ex once you and the new guy are done. > > "Because when you are looking for someone whom you want to enter your life, and you are still not able to figure out who is more important, the new guy or "your Ex and other good gay friends" if you are not able to draw a line "on contacts" with your Exs and good gay friends, and if they are very very nice compared to the new guy, then I wish that the new guy may never enter your life because he is not getting anything in return. > > > Because then it means that you dont understand the importance of a relationship. I know that your friends are very nice and your Ex is also a nice person, but if they are more nice than me, and if they are getting more time of yours than me, then I would say lets not continue any further, and remember that I left you not because I dont like you but because I think you still need time to understand what you want out of life and who is important to what extent. > > --------------------------------- > Here's a new way to find what you're looking for - Yahoo! Answers >
