Betul-betul memilukan melihat para korban yang telah tumbuh menjadi pemuda gagah dan pria dewasa meratapi sejarah hidupnya yang jahanam. Begitu juga kesaksian seorang biarawati yang dijadikan semacam simpanan sang imam selama belasan tahun sejak usia 15 sampai terpaksa 3 kali menggugurkan kandungan. Sebenarnya apa maksud dan tujuan dari kehidupan selibat "bersyariah" ini? Apa manfaatnya bagi umat manusia, bagi pengikut, sekurangnya bagi pelaku, karena hasilnya begitu memilukan dan memalukan. Benarkah selibat ini pelaksanaan "hadis" (ucapan/perbuatan) Yesus & Paulus?
Ada yang punya oborǃ? .......... Vatican abusesummit is ‘wake-up call’ for countries where scandals have not yet exploded By Chico Harlan February 23, 2019 at 2:14 PM VATICANCITY — WhenBenjamin Kitobo arrived in Rome this week along with more than 100 othersurvivors of clerical sexual abuse from around the world, something quicklystood out. He was the only victim he could find representing a country inAfrica. “In some places, it is stilllife-threatening to speak out,” said Kitobo, 51, who says he was abused by apriest in the Congo, known then as Zaire. Kitobo now works as a nurse in St.Louis.But Kitobo — and, increasingly,Vatican leaders — say that in many parts of the vast Catholic empire, the scaleof clerical sexual abuse probably far exceeds what is publicly known. Vatican abusesummit is ‘wake-up call’ for countries where scandals have not yet exploded By Chico Harlan February23 at 2:14 PMVATICANCITY — WhenBenjamin Kitobo arrived in Rome this week along with more than 100 othersurvivors of clerical sexual abuse from around the world, something quicklystood out. He was the only victim he could find representing a country inAfrica. “In some places, it is stilllife-threatening to speak out,” said Kitobo, 51, who says he was abused by apriest in the Congo, known then as Zaire. Kitobo now works as a nurse in St.Louis.But Kitobo — and, increasingly,Vatican leaders — say that in many parts of the vast Catholic empire, the scaleof clerical sexual abuse probably far exceeds what is publicly known. Some go so far as to describePope Francis’s landmark four-day summit on child protection, which ends Sunday,as a direct warning for Catholic authorities across Asia, Africa and otherparts of the world where abuse scandals have not yet left a searing mark. Theysay the next decades of the Catholic Church’s efforts against clerical abusedepend on whether those countries can be pushed to take safeguarding measurespreemptively, rather than responding only after a crisis explodes into theopen. “No bishop may say to himself,‘This problem of abuse in the church does not concern me because things aredifferent in my part of the world,’ ” Cardinal Oswald Gracias, thearchbishop of Mumbai, who has been criticized for his own handling of cases,told the Vatican gathering of 190 bishops and other Catholic leaders. “I daresay there are cases all over the world, also in Asia, also in Africa. ”Thisweek, Francis and his lieutenants organizing the summit have made a point toemphasize the global nature of the problem.On the first day, victims fromfive continents — North and South America, Europe, Asia, and Africa — told thebishops in videotaped testimony about the trauma of their experiences. And theVatican has drawn up a geographically balanced lineup of featured speakers,including a nun from Nigeria who on Saturday told the bishops about severalcases she knew of in that country. But there remains some resistance to the idea thatsexual abuse is a pressing global church crisis. Though that notion no longer has much traction amongtop Vatican officials, church watchers say, some bishops still claim abuse isprimarily a problem of the West, the result of secularization or corruptedsexual and family values. Other bishops acknowledge that abuse might be aproblem in their own backyards but say they are facing other grave crises,including warfare, famine and climate change. Archbishop Mark Coleridge of Brisbane, Australia, saidthis week that some bishops, during discussion sessions that are not open tothe media, have asked why there is a church “obsession” with sexual abuse. “Bishops from Africa and Asia are saying, ‘Well, whyare we just talking about sexual abuse? Because abuse in my country takes manyforms: child labor, child soldiers,’ ” Coleridge said. “To come to anagreed approach that embraces all of those cultural differences will be one ofthe big challenges of the meeting.” National-level Catholic leaders have typically enactedchanges only after damaging revelations — and intense pressure. The countriesthat have the most rigid anti-abuse rules — including the United States,Ireland, Australia and Canada — have governments and media outlets willing toinvestigate the church. Abuse remains little-discussed not just in Africa andAsia, but also in parts of Europe, including Italy, where the dioceses do notautomatically cooperate on cases with criminal investigators, and where manymedia outlets are reluctant to cover stories that might hurt the church. Butactivists say that it is in other major Catholic countries — Brazil, thePhilippines and Democratic Republic of Congo — where the scale remains theleast explored and the most potentially explosive. In the Philippines, nopriests have been convicted on child sex crimes, according to Anne BarrettDoyle, the co-founder of a website, Bishop-Accountability.org, that tracksabuse cases. Inthe Congo, there are only a few known cases, including that of Kitobo, who sayshe was sexually abused for four years by a priest who had been sent to thecountry from Belgium. In large swaths of the world,victims are reluctant to come forward because of societal pressures or legaldangers. Kitobo said that in the Congo, the church is deeply ingrained inschooling and in medical care. “The church owns everything,” he said. The Rev. Lambert Riyazimana, apriest in Burundi, said taboos prevent reporting. “Priests are respected,” hesaid. “So it’s first of all hard to report if anything happens, because itwouldn’t be believable in the eyes of the public. ”Before the summit began, onearchbishop from Ghana told the Catholic outlet Crux that, although he hadenacted anti-abuse initiatives, he felt the problem was “very, very, veryminimal.” Archbishop Philip Naameh of Ghana said abuse did nothappen on the same scale as in the West “because children are generally lookedat as a great gift from God.” Naameh, speaking Saturday evening to fellow bishops,struck a different tone, telling the gathering, “We have not afforded peoplethe protection they are entitled to.” More than a half-dozen African and Asian bishops thisweek declined requests for interviews. Another bishop, Rochus Tatamai, thepresident of the episcopal conference representing Papua New Guinea and theSolomon Islands, said the church in his territory was consumed in dealing withmalnutrition, low mortality rates, dangerous sanitation standards, and livingconditions that are “far from the basic standards.” He said he had never heardabout a case of clerical abuse, among 22 dioceses. “For us — some of the African and Asian countries — itis not really a priority,” Tatamai said of abuse. But, he said, “This has been like a wake-up call. ”In 2011, the Holy See had asked countries to draw uptheir own child protection guidelines, but not every country has followed therequest. On the website it created for this event, the Vatican posted suchprocedures for 31 different countries. Only two countries in Africa are listed,South Africa and the Central African Republic. Only Sri Lanka and South Korearepresent Asia. The Vatican also included guidelines from Kerala, a southernIndian state. Cardinals and bishops selected to speak this week haveemphasized that national-level Catholic leaders need to take new steps tohandle accusations of abuse, including creating clear outlets for people tocome forward with claims. Kitobo said that, in his former country, people willcome forward — eventually. “It is just a matter of time until this explodes,” hesaid. “You need a trigger.” Kitobo said the trigger could be anything that makespeople feel less shame about their experiences, or anything that gives peoplemore confidence that the church will listen to them. “Maybe,” he said, “the trigger will be this summit.” Stefano Pitrelli contributed to this report
