The dead receive more flowers than living because regret is much greater than gratitude . .Aren't living more important than dead? Dead will rise again said the lord but Mary did not disbelieve in resurrection she was only thinking of Her brother living if Jesus was around. Did Jesus not weep at the death of LAZARUS? Religious write to me that God,s will destiny, that plan of God is not our plan and His ways are not our ways and that these are but human ways in belief to give us consolation and relief and accept the reality . MANY of my friends have told me that they are at loss of words what to say immediately and deliberately postponed We may have endless question but there is one answer, that death is common to everyone and only resurrection is guaranteed by christ himself as none other but he alone has given proof of it and raised to life the dead in his life time There is no point in tourturing ourselves endlesly laboring to find and invent words of comfort and consolation in the midst of tragedies and loss of life whether young or old . Thy zwill be done is the only and most acceptable phrase. Prayers is the only currency it is said that is useful in heaven So many offered prayers masses, rosaries and intercrssary prayers that are the healing balm in times of pain and sorrow The loss is personal intimate and it cannot be shared ..our depth of faith and belief can only help us to tide over it When friends offer their sympathies no doubt it makes pain bearable though sometimes unintentionally they revive the wounds that need to heal but surely they mean well in their own humble ways Due to covid restrictions many are unable to pay their respect as per normal customs and traditions Hence the number of friends offering the sacrifice of Holy Eucharustic has been very strange and phenomenal experience for our family The obituaries , wreaths and bouquets and condolence visits were not curtailed by those who defied the safety instructions at their own risks inspite of all messages
SHAKEPEARE IN Macbeth said when Duncan was murdered that scents of Arabia may scent your hands and body but the grief cannot be erased from memory until you take it to the grave by yourself ,when life is finally extinguished How true that the hughest tribute to the departed is not grief but gratitude However strong and small your little faith like a mustsrd seed ,it wavers, falters when the tragedy is personal and unexpected Doubts take better of you to question your very own life that might have caused the event in retribution and lead to self flagelation and that is jj most detestable WHEN THE FAITH IS NOT DEMOSTRATED IN ACTION OUR BELIEF IS WORTHLESS LIke DOUBTING THOMAS It is a fact that depth of joy can only be fathomed when contrasted with pain. . joy and sorrow is a cycle that will repeat and alternate as neither is permanent I VALUE EVERY WORD SPOKEN BY MY FRIENDS AND DEFINITELY ENSURED PEACE AND TRABQUILITY TO our torMENTED MIND HOWEVER MOMENTARILY I express my gratitude to all those who reached out to us in their own way to show their concern and care nelson lopes Chinchinim