Re: [Goanet] The heartbreak of saying goodbye again and again
Mervyn— I believe she may be hearing the music. Something could vibrate in her brain. Hope. Cecilia and I will hold you both in our minds, and keep you both in our prayers. Remain in togetherness, (Learning this as we deal with something that has visited us too) —Venantius On Tue, Feb 20, 2018 at 3:48 PM, Mervyn Maciel < mervynels.watuwasha...@gmail.com> wrote: > Many thanks Eugene and Venantius for your kind words and advice. > Yes, Venantius, I do play many of her favourite tunes and not long ago, > with the help of a cousin and good friend, recorded(on CD) many old > favourites in > which I sing(I've always loved singing and used to be an admirer of old > Bing Crosby! Her favourite Konkani song was 'Thamde Rosa tuje polle" > sadly, she can't join me in singing any longer since, in addition to her > dementia, > she has this 'dropped neck syndrome' meaning she can't raise her neck up > or down > or even sideways. Painful to see her struggle to eat, drink or even sleep > in this awkward > position. >My only consolation lies in the fact that there are many around the > world, much > younger than us, who are going through far difficult times. We have a lot > to be thankful for. >Once again - I thank you for your kind words. > > > > Mervyn Maciel >
[Goanet] The heartbreak of saying goodbye again and again
Many thanks Eugene and Venantius for your kind words and advice. Yes, Venantius, I do play many of her favourite tunes and not long ago, with the help of a cousin and good friend, recorded(on CD) many old favourites in which I sing(I've always loved singing and used to be an admirer of old Bing Crosby! Her favourite Konkani song was 'Thamde Rosa tuje polle" sadly, she can't join me in singing any longer since, in addition to her dementia, she has this 'dropped neck syndrome' meaning she can't raise her neck up or down or even sideways. Painful to see her struggle to eat, drink or even sleep in this awkward position. My only consolation lies in the fact that there are many around the world, much younger than us, who are going through far difficult times. We have a lot to be thankful for. Once again - I thank you for your kind words. Mervyn Maciel
Re: [Goanet] The heartbreak of saying goodbye again and again
Mervyn— Do play to her the music she like, or that you both did — connected with it and with each other. Perhaps you are already doing so. Last year I did a seminar on Creative Aging here in NY and learnt a few things there. Much affection, —Venantius On Tue, Feb 20, 2018 at 8:57 AM, Eugene Correia wrote: > Sorry to learn about your wife. As we grow old, we fear the worst. Dementia > is most threatening. I too forget at times, and will scared that Demntia or > Alzeiimer's may be lurking behind it all. Take care, and may Goa give you > strength to face the situation. > > Eugene > > On Mon, Feb 19, 2018 at 5:12 PM, Gabe Menezes > wrote: > > > On 19 February 2018 at 19:03, Mervyn Maciel < > > mervynels.watuwasha...@gmail.com> wrote: > > > > >Anne's touching poem was just the sort of tonic I needed since > > > for the past few months now, I have become the Main Carer for my > > > dear wife (Elsie) of 66 years who was diagnosed with dementia some > > > months ago. > > >Heartbreaking to see a once active and highly creative lady reduced > to > > > this > > > state. > > >Patience has never been my forte, but I need it more than ever and > > pray > > > that > > > I may have the strength to cope with the difficult days ahead. > > > > > > > > > Mervyn Maciel > > > > > > > > > RESPONSE: Stay strong, pray together if you can, play her music, > especially > > songs she liked in the past. > > > > Gabe. > > > > > > > > > > > > -- > > DEV BOREM KORUM > > > > Gabe Menezes. > > >
Re: [Goanet] The heartbreak of saying goodbye again and again
Sorry to learn about your wife. As we grow old, we fear the worst. Dementia is most threatening. I too forget at times, and will scared that Demntia or Alzeiimer's may be lurking behind it all. Take care, and may Goa give you strength to face the situation. Eugene On Mon, Feb 19, 2018 at 5:12 PM, Gabe Menezes wrote: > On 19 February 2018 at 19:03, Mervyn Maciel < > mervynels.watuwasha...@gmail.com> wrote: > > >Anne's touching poem was just the sort of tonic I needed since > > for the past few months now, I have become the Main Carer for my > > dear wife (Elsie) of 66 years who was diagnosed with dementia some > > months ago. > >Heartbreaking to see a once active and highly creative lady reduced to > > this > > state. > >Patience has never been my forte, but I need it more than ever and > pray > > that > > I may have the strength to cope with the difficult days ahead. > > > > > > Mervyn Maciel > > > > > RESPONSE: Stay strong, pray together if you can, play her music, especially > songs she liked in the past. > > Gabe. > > > > > > > -- > DEV BOREM KORUM > > Gabe Menezes. >
Re: [Goanet] The heartbreak of saying goodbye again and again
On 19 February 2018 at 19:03, Mervyn Maciel < mervynels.watuwasha...@gmail.com> wrote: >Anne's touching poem was just the sort of tonic I needed since > for the past few months now, I have become the Main Carer for my > dear wife (Elsie) of 66 years who was diagnosed with dementia some > months ago. >Heartbreaking to see a once active and highly creative lady reduced to > this > state. >Patience has never been my forte, but I need it more than ever and pray > that > I may have the strength to cope with the difficult days ahead. > > > Mervyn Maciel > RESPONSE: Stay strong, pray together if you can, play her music, especially songs she liked in the past. Gabe. > > -- DEV BOREM KORUM Gabe Menezes.
Re: [Goanet] The heartbreak of saying goodbye again and again
Apologies folks! For 'poem' in my earlier post, please read "story". My mind must have been wandering at the time. Sorry! Mervyn Maciel On Mon, Feb 19, 2018 at 7:03 PM, Mervyn Maciel < mervynels.watuwasha...@gmail.com> wrote: >Anne's touching poem was just the sort of tonic I needed since > for the past few months now, I have become the Main Carer for my > dear wife (Elsie) of 66 years who was diagnosed with dementia some > months ago. >Heartbreaking to see a once active and highly creative lady reduced to > this > state. >Patience has never been my forte, but I need it more than ever and pray > that > I may have the strength to cope with the difficult days ahead. > > > Mervyn Maciel > > > > > > Mervyn Maciel >
[Goanet] The heartbreak of saying goodbye again and again
Anne's touching poem was just the sort of tonic I needed since for the past few months now, I have become the Main Carer for my dear wife (Elsie) of 66 years who was diagnosed with dementia some months ago. Heartbreaking to see a once active and highly creative lady reduced to this state. Patience has never been my forte, but I need it more than ever and pray that I may have the strength to cope with the difficult days ahead. Mervyn Maciel Mervyn Maciel
