Re: Bismillah [IslamCity] In India, a terrible place to be born a girl
Wa Salaam Alakium, What a sad story but in all asian societies, boys are important my mum is catholic born in pakistan but her family is orginally from goa but my mum had 5 brothers and 2 sisters and my grandma never had pressure to give birth to boys you see the difference is that my family in pakistan are middle class and to them giving birth toa baby he or she has to be healthy not just a boy, But in my family is a little different cause they encourages girls and boys to have an education and i have 11 girls cousin ranging 23 to 8 and 2 boys cousin ranging 10 to 4 and my mum came to canada when she was 8 years old to make a story short is that some of these people are ignorant and what i heard that in india society they have these age old things but they don't talk about how some of these women get abused by the in laws and husband or just inlaws. Like they say india society is booming ecomoically if they give money to parents who have girls maybe they won't kill them i heard a similar story like this in china were it was the same but now the chinese goverment gives money to parents with girls for their education and also to encourage it is ok to have a girl and that if she is educated she is not a burden carol [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: In India, a terrible place to be born a girl Women stand in a doorway of a home in the village of Magrihawa in the Shravasti district of Uttar Pradesh. (Christie Johnston for the International Herald Tribune) By Amelia Gentleman http://iht.com/articles/2007/11/30/asia/girls.php#end_main MACHRIHWA, India: The birth of a boy in Machrihwa is celebrated with the purchase of sweetmeats, distributed with joy to fellow villagers. The birth of a girl is, for the most part, not celebrated at all. Women in this village are not eager to dwell on the subject, but many of those with daughters grudgingly admit that worse than the pain of childbirth was the misery of realizing that they had delivered a girl. Juganti Prasad, 30, remembers the reproachful silence that settled over the room where she gave birth to her third daughter. Her mother-in-law handed her the child, and said curtly, It's a girl, again, before leaving her. There was no one even to give me a glass of water, Prasad said. No one bothered to look after me or feed me because it was a girl. As she lay recovering, she could hear relatives in the next-door hut lamenting the calamity. A few weeks afterward, her husband threw her and their three daughters out of his home. A five-hour drive along ill-maintained roads from Lucknow, the capital of the northern state of Uttar Pradesh, the surrounding district of Shravasti is, according to calculations by Unicef, the worst place in India to be born a girl. Across large swaths of rural northern India, away from the rapid development that is tearing up traditional attitudes toward women in the cities, India's economic boom is virtually invisible and prospects for young girls remain highly restricted. In November, India was ranked 114th out of 128 nations in a gender-gap survey conducted by the World Economic Forum, scoring poorly on equality in education, health and the economy. Unicef used three statistical parameters - the age at which girls are married off, the level of female literacy and the imbalance between the number of boys and girls - when it judged that there is no unluckier spot than Shravasti for a girl. Nothing in the outward appearance of Machrihwa, in the north of Shravasti near the border with Nepal, hints at this dubious statistical triumph. Wood smoke curls from beneath thatched roofs and girls sit with their mothers, sifting rice at the doorway to their mud huts in the peace that characterizes villages where no one owns a car. Families here scratch out an existence through agricultural subsistence, without the benefit of running water or electricity. We are dazzled by what is happening in the cities but there are these remote rural areas where development has not yet reached in any way, said Rekha Bezboruah, director of Ekatra, a women's rights organization based in Delhi. The ambivalence that women here feel toward their daughters is rooted in the traditional Indian marriage system, which dictates, first, that girls leave the homes of their parents permanently on their wedding day for their new husband's family and, second, that they do so accompanied by a large dowry. In private, the village women explain that the mothers' sense of resentment toward their newborn girls comes as the result of a hard financial calculation. The minimum is 25,000 rupees for dowry, which includes the price of a bicycle that you have to give to the groom and various ornaments. And then there's the cost of the wedding itself, another 20,000. Even when you look at the baby for the first time you have these thoughts, said Shanta Devi, 35, the mother of two girls and two
Re: Bismillah [IslamCity] Who is better? the King or his nephew?
Wasalaam Alakium Brothers ands Sisters, I found this story totally funny how the heck do they have this kind of money to play with why don't they give money to poor countries like in africa and what happend in bangledesh. carol [EMAIL PROTECTED], [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Who is better? the King or his nephew? Read the reports! Hey big spender: the £3m spree that landed a Saudi prince in a London court Court documents: the alleged debts in full (pdf) More court documents (pdf) David Leigh and Rob Evans Friday November 16, 2007 The Guardian Saudi ambassador Prince Mohammed bin Nawwaf bin Abdul Aziz. Photograph: Martin Argles It is a remarkable shopping list by any standards. And it has landed the Saudi ambassador to Britain with a possible £3m debt, and the embarrassment of having allegations about the ostentatious spending habits of the royal family laid bare. Bills he is claimed to have run up on an array of luxury amusements include two top-of-the-range Chevrolet 4x4s, a thermal night vision kit for his Hummer H2, dozens of designer watches and jewels, a selection of handguns and two Arab karaoke machines. One takeaway meal came to almost $800 (£391). And then there is the $2,500 item on a trip to a hotel in Casablanca that reads: Girls: party night 5. Article continues http://www.guardian .co.uk/saudi/ story/0,, 2212067,00. html - Saudi King Visits Berlin with an entourage of 11 planes including a flying hospital and a fleet of limousines Saudi Arabia's King Abdullah was in Berlin this week to discuss Saudi-German relations and America's attempts to revive the Israeli-Palestinian peace process. He also brought a flying hospital and a fleet of limousines for his three-day stay in the German capital. King Abdullah of Saudi Arabia arrived in Berlin this week with an entourage of 11 planes -- including a flying hospital -- and a fleet of limousines to discuss Saudi-German relations and the Middle East peace process during a three-day stay in the German capital. German Chancellor Angela Merkel personally greeted the 83-year-old monarch at Tegel Airport and accompanied him to Hotel Adlon, on Pariser Platz, where he stayed in the 12,500-a-night suite that often hosts international dignitaries. http://www.spiegel. de/international /europe/0, 1518,516498, 00.html - With Regards Abi - Get easy, one-click access to your favorites. Make Yahoo! your homepage.
Re: [IslamCity] Muslim World: Morocco - Women Islamic Preachers deployed for First Time
Salaam alaikum Shaikh, My grandparents are catholic from pakistan but my grandpa best friends are muslims and he grew up with muslism and he sympathies with them so do i sympathize with muslim cause in the west they assume all muslims are AK-47 gun carriers.[EMAIL PROTECTED], [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: You are right apologist CA, surely we will liberate muslim lands now ruled by the stooges of the West.[EMAIL PROTECTED], [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: salaam,i read this story last week on al jezzerah online in the english section i think it is an excellent idea to show that not all muslim are exteremist but i find that in north africa in some countries like tunasia,algeria,and marracco is very french but i totally agree it is an excellent idea. carol[EMAIL PROTECTED], [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Women preachers: Morocco's new weapon against Islamic extremism Fri Apr 28, 2:17 AM ET RABAT (AFP) - In a project unknown in Islam, Morocco has just graduated its first team of women preachers to be deployed as a vanguard in the kingdom's fight against any slide towards Islamic extremism. ADVERTISEMENT "This is a rare experiment in the Muslim world," proudly stated Mohamed Mahfoud, director of the center attached to the Islamic affairs ministry that trained this first class of 50 women. Ministry spokesman Hamid Rono said it was the "first (of its kind) in the Islamic world". This pioneer group of Morchidat, or guides, who finished a 12-month course in early April, were trained to "accompany and orient" Muslim faithful, notably in prisons, hospitals and schools, said Mahfoud. They will earn a salary of 5,000 dirhams (450 euros, 560 dollars) per month. Short and plump, a scarf knotted around her head to cover her hair in line with religious custom, a smiling Samira Marzouk, in her 30s like most of the others, exclaims how "proud" she is to be part of this first group. She sees their mission as one to "fill in the gaps that prevent a solid framework for religion". "We are going to teach a tolerant Islam by focussing on the underprivileged classes," she added. They will notably work with women and children in poor ghettoes seen as fertile ground for extremist recruiters. The idea of the Morchidat, spearheaded by King Mohammed VI and the government, took off after Islamic extremist attacks in the Moroccan economic capital Casablanca on May 16, 2003 claimed 45 lives -- including the 12 bombers -- and left dozens of others wounded. The King -- who is a descendant of Islam's founder, the Prophet Mohamed, and enjoys wide powers -- had already started reshaping religious structures to rein in any extremist drift in his North African country, which borders Algeria where violence between government forces and armed Islamic extremists has caused more than 150,000 deaths since 1992. But the synchronized suicide bomb attacks that hit Jewish and foreign targets gave new urgency to the initiative. More than 2,000 people were arrested in vast police sweeps after the May bombings as the king vowed the attacks would be the last to rock Morocco. Investigators concluded that those behind the incident had indeed sought recruits in the teeming slums around Casablanca, Morocco's biggest city. Marzouk, a young married woman with a diploma in Arab literature who said she knows the Koran by heart, was quick to specify she is "not going to take the place of an imam". "The imamate in Islam is restricted solely to men who are apt at leading prayers, notably those on Friday," the Islamic holy day, she said. "The Morchidat will be in charge of leading religious discussions, give courses in Islam, give moral support to people in difficulty and guide the faithful towards a tolerant Islam," she added. Another graduate, Leila Fares, a lively young woman who holds a degree in Islamic studies, said she saw the Morchidat's role as promoting "the true face of Islam". "We will help attenuate any drift towards Islamic extremism," she said, stressing that "an overall approach is needed to dealing with radical Islam". During the year-long course, the curriculum ranged from Islamic studies to psychology, sociology, computer skills, economy, law and business management. "Sports was the only subject dropped from the women preachers' training because the schedule was just too tight," regretted Mahfoud, who hopes to include it for the second batch of Morchidate trainees, whose applications are now being accepted. For the Islamic affairs minister, Ahmed Taoufiq, the Morchidat will also "instruct women on their basis religious duties". He said religious radicalism was not part of Morocco's culture "but you can never prevent evil one hundred percent". Morocco's Islamic fundamentalists are divided over the inititive. For one, Islamist deputy Mustapha Ramid with the Islamist Justice and Development party (PJD), the main opposition group with 43 seats in the 325-member parliament, the
Re: [IslamCity] Muslim World: Morocco - Women Islamic Preachers deployed for First Time
salaam,i read this story last week on al jezzerah online in the english section i think it is an excellent idea to show that not all muslim are exteremist but i find that in north africa in some countries like tunasia,algeria,and marracco is very french but i totally agree it is an excellent idea. carol[EMAIL PROTECTED], [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Women preachers: Morocco's new weapon against Islamic extremism Fri Apr 28, 2:17 AM ET RABAT (AFP) - In a project unknown in Islam, Morocco has just graduated its first team of women preachers to be deployed as a vanguard in the kingdom's fight against any slide towards Islamic extremism. ADVERTISEMENT "This is a rare experiment in the Muslim world," proudly stated Mohamed Mahfoud, director of the center attached to the Islamic affairs ministry that trained this first class of 50 women. Ministry spokesman Hamid Rono said it was the "first (of its kind) in the Islamic world". This pioneer group of Morchidat, or guides, who finished a 12-month course in early April, were trained to "accompany and orient" Muslim faithful, notably in prisons, hospitals and schools, said Mahfoud. They will earn a salary of 5,000 dirhams (450 euros, 560 dollars) per month. Short and plump, a scarf knotted around her head to cover her hair in line with religious custom, a smiling Samira Marzouk, in her 30s like most of the others, exclaims how "proud" she is to be part of this first group. She sees their mission as one to "fill in the gaps that prevent a solid framework for religion". "We are going to teach a tolerant Islam by focussing on the underprivileged classes," she added. They will notably work with women and children in poor ghettoes seen as fertile ground for extremist recruiters. The idea of the Morchidat, spearheaded by King Mohammed VI and the government, took off after Islamic extremist attacks in the Moroccan economic capital Casablanca on May 16, 2003 claimed 45 lives -- including the 12 bombers -- and left dozens of others wounded. The King -- who is a descendant of Islam's founder, the Prophet Mohamed, and enjoys wide powers -- had already started reshaping religious structures to rein in any extremist drift in his North African country, which borders Algeria where violence between government forces and armed Islamic extremists has caused more than 150,000 deaths since 1992. But the synchronized suicide bomb attacks that hit Jewish and foreign targets gave new urgency to the initiative. More than 2,000 people were arrested in vast police sweeps after the May bombings as the king vowed the attacks would be the last to rock Morocco. Investigators concluded that those behind the incident had indeed sought recruits in the teeming slums around Casablanca, Morocco's biggest city. Marzouk, a young married woman with a diploma in Arab literature who said she knows the Koran by heart, was quick to specify she is "not going to take the place of an imam". "The imamate in Islam is restricted solely to men who are apt at leading prayers, notably those on Friday," the Islamic holy day, she said. "The Morchidat will be in charge of leading religious discussions, give courses in Islam, give moral support to people in difficulty and guide the faithful towards a tolerant Islam," she added. Another graduate, Leila Fares, a lively young woman who holds a degree in Islamic studies, said she saw the Morchidat's role as promoting "the true face of Islam". "We will help attenuate any drift towards Islamic extremism," she said, stressing that "an overall approach is needed to dealing with radical Islam". During the year-long course, the curriculum ranged from Islamic studies to psychology, sociology, computer skills, economy, law and business management. "Sports was the only subject dropped from the women preachers' training because the schedule was just too tight," regretted Mahfoud, who hopes to include it for the second batch of Morchidate trainees, whose applications are now being accepted. For the Islamic affairs minister, Ahmed Taoufiq, the Morchidat will also "instruct women on their basis religious duties". He said religious radicalism was not part of Morocco's culture "but you can never prevent evil one hundred percent". Morocco's Islamic fundamentalists are divided over the inititive. For one, Islamist deputy Mustapha Ramid with the Islamist Justice and Development party (PJD), the main opposition group with 43 seats in the 325-member parliament, the Morchidat is a "positive" development. "I see nothing more to say about this initiative because in Islam, men and women are equal," he said, pointing to Egypt which has "eminent women scholars of Islam". But the head of the youth group in Morocco's most radical Islamic fundamentalist association, Al-Adl Wal-Ihssane (Justice and Welfare), forecast it would have no effect on the ground. "The power behind this initiative is the same as the one that
Re: [IslamCity] Fwd: A MuSlim GiRl's GuIde For DeAling With GuYs - FINAL
salaam sister,
Isn't this a bit to exterem and kind of hard core. You forgot there is human nature you can't control human nature unless you have no feelings but I rather be human than a robot.
carol[EMAIL PROTECTED], [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote:
As'salamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
An excellent advise for muslim sisters
Yahoo! India Matrimony: Find your life partner online. ***{Invite (mankind, O Muhammad ) to the Way of your Lord (i.e. Islam) with wisdom (i.e. with the Divine Inspiration and the Qur'an) and fair preaching, and argue with them in a way that is better. Truly, your Lord knows best who has gone astray from His Path, and He is the Best Aware of those who are guided.} (Holy Quran-16:125){And who is better in speech than he who [says: "My Lord is Allah (believes in His Oneness)," and then stands straight (acts upon His Order), and] invites (men) to Allah's (Islamic Monotheism), and does righteous deeds, and says: "I am one of the
Muslims."} (Holy Quran-41:33)The prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "By Allah, if Allah guides one person by you, it is better for you than the best types of camels." [al-Bukhaaree, Muslim] The prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) also said, "Whoever calls to guidance will have a reward similar to the reward of the one who follows him, without the reward of either of them being lessened at all." [Muslim, Ahmad, Aboo Daawood, an-Nasaa'ee, at-Tirmidhee, Ibn Maajah] --All views expressed herein belong to the individuals concerned and do not in any way reflect the official views of IslamCity unless sanctioned or approved otherwise. If your mailbox clogged with mails from IslamCity, you may wish to get a daily digest of emails by logging-on to http://www.yahoogroups.com to change your mail
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A Muslim Girl's Guide For Dealing With Guys(From one Sister To Another)
No Boyfriends:
The easiest way to ensure that you don't end up falling in love with some guy before you're ready to get married is to avoid making friends with boys. Of course in school you have to interact with boys all over the place, but that doesn't mean you should be best buds with them. Probably 90% of relationships begin from friendships. Chances are you're not ready for marriage, your parents aren't ready to let you get married, you're still in school/college and your crush is not the sort of fellow you want to spend the rest of your life with, so just avoid being friends with the opposite sex in the first place. It really is the best formula for saving yourself from needless temptation.
When you have to talk to boys in school as teammates, lab partners, group members, and peers, it's best to maintain a distance. That means that you don't confide in them, you don't let down your guard, you don't unnecessarily engage them in needless conversation, don't joke around, and never flirt. Yeah it may be a little hard, but this is your afterlife we're talking about.
So many great sisters have put themselves in really sticky situations because they allowed a boy to get to know them, and either ended up liking the boy, or having the boy like them. Once that happens you either end up becoming a pair (which is HARAAM!), or having to end your friendship.
Instead of letting it get to that point, and then having to kill a friendship that you probably worked hard on cultivating, you should just stop it before it begins. There are plenty of great girls all around who can be your friends and if you really think only a guy will understand your problem, then talk to your REAL brother, or your father, or an uncle.
No Talking on the Phone with Boys:
In Islam its forbidden for non-related guys and girls to be alone together because there is the chance for physical zina, vocal zina, and zina of the eyes. That means, with no one there to watch you guys except that boogery shaitaan, then you might be tempted to actually DO something, or say gross things, or just stare at each other all lustily. With that in mind, it's also a safe bet to assume that talking on the phone with non-Mahram guys is a no-no too. Why? Because unless you've both got it on speaker-phone and you're chaperoned by a responsible person, then you're still kind of "alone" with him.
The people in your house can't hear what he's saying to you, and his family can't hear what you're saying to him. There's a chance for some bad stuff then, so just avoid it. Not to mention, having some dude saying things into your ear that no one else can hear would be gross in real life, why is it okay
