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While it might be the truth that no man should deny
you the right to birth where you want, speaking from personal experience of
a husband who actually took three babies to even be present at birth
(and only with wonderful collaboration with a great midwife in NZ -who
happened to sit him where he couldnt escape except by going under me, then didnt
explain when the birth was imminent) -then thereafter for the next 2
births, he was a brilliant support, sometimes it isnt easy to change
mens fears.And if these fears are very strong, it isnt so simple as
saying "no man has a right" etc. The energy of fear is so pervasive and
each person's fear is very real to them - his own mothers pain and loss
must have been a powerful influence - who knows what he endured as a child
because of this . Sure, talking, listening and helping him
overcome his fears is important, but sometimnes these fears are deeper
than a partner can reach.Perhaps we can only make the best of what is at hand
and work to find our own way . Judgement isnt helpful here.
Pinky
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