Re: [ozmidwifery] co sleeping with a 7 yo
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This is a comment I use frequentlyIf he was
sleeping with me at 18 at least I would know who he was sleeping with.
Thank you all sss much for your reassuring feedback, you have all said what
I feel anyway. I treasure the time we have and there are many nights that there
are 3 of us in the bed...him, his sister and me, as their"father" moved out 5
years ago lastAustralia Day. (not that I'm counting lol). Thans
again, Pauline
- Original Message -
From:
Janet
Fraser
To: ozmidwifery@acegraphics.com.au
Sent: Monday, January 30, 2006 5:46
PM
Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] co sleeping
with a 7 yo
My usual response to "But
what if he never leaves your bed???" is to say that I'm sure he will by the
time he's sexually active. And if not, at least I'll know who he's with. ;
)
That raises eye
brows!
J
- Original Message -
From:
Dean
Jo
To: ozmidwifery@acegraphics.com.au
Sent: Monday, January 30, 2006 4:13
PM
Subject: RE: [ozmidwifery] co sleeping
with a 7 yo
Pinky said:
Not sure
how to interpret this in light of my own kids experience now they are
college age and beyond - that would be too much information! But it
seems that they are most likely sleeping with somebody other than
me!
Ha Ha Ha! you do make me laugh
Pinky!!! :o)
cheers
Jo
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Re: [ozmidwifery] co sleeping with a 7 yo
Our son is 8 and has only just graduated onto a mattress on the floor next to our bed. This was with much coaxing and he still tries to convince us to let him get in with us but seems to gradually be accepting the idea. Goes to sleep with all lights on if he goes to bed before us. Helen - Original Message - From: Pauline To: ozmidwifery@acegraphics.com.au Sent: Sunday, January 29, 2006 10:38 PM Subject: [ozmidwifery] co sleeping with a 7 yo This is more of a parenting issue than a mid issue but i value any input at this stage. My 7 yo son still sleeps with me every night, although he will occasionally snuggle in with his 9 yo sister. I have never worried about it, as i figure he won't be there when he's 18. But my ex mother in law has started mentioning a psychology study thatsays boys who sleep with their mothers for such a long time end up with mother issues, and are abusive and violent to theri partners whne they get older. I might add that this is the same woman who was horrified that i fed both my babies till they were happy to give it up at 2 years plus. She has now got a small part of worried that i could be creating a real problem. Help! Pauline__ NOD32 1.1385 (20060128) Information __This message was checked by NOD32 antivirus system.http://www.eset.com
Re: [ozmidwifery] co sleeping with a 7 yo
Title: Message My babies'' didn't sleep with me very much, but as teenagers they always seem to be in my bed!! cheers fiona
RE: [ozmidwifery] co sleeping with a 7 yo
Hi Pauline, This response is coming from a mother perspective rather than a mid perspective, but I thought I'd contribute anyway. My nearly seven year old happily co-slept with us until she was getting kicked off the bedby her younger siblings...and her sisters now fill the bed and we merrily go on our way! Comments like your ex mother in law made are really hurtful not to mention ignorantand are probably more to do with her own insecurities rather than any evidence based research on the subject. Co sleeping can be wonderful, and as long as it is an arrangement that suits you and your child, then don't worry and carry on what you are doing. Goodluck Mel From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of PaulineSent: Sunday, January 29, 2006 7:38 PMTo: ozmidwifery@acegraphics.com.auSubject: [ozmidwifery] co sleeping with a 7 yo This is more of a parenting issue than a mid issue but i value any input at this stage. My 7 yo son still sleeps with me every night, although he will occasionally snuggle in with his 9 yo sister. I have never worried about it, as i figure he won't be there when he's 18. But my ex mother in law has started mentioning a psychology study thatsays boys who sleep with their mothers for such a long time end up with mother issues, and are abusive and violent to theri partners whne they get older. I might add that this is the same woman who was horrified that i fed both my babies till they were happy to give it up at 2 years plus. She has now got a small part of worried that i could be creating a real problem. Help! Pauline
RE: [ozmidwifery] co sleeping with a 7 yo
My husband used to get into bed with his mum until he was 8 and he is one of the most non-violent person I know, and has a wonderful relationship with his mother to boot. In addition, my little brother was the same. Kylie Carberry Freelance Journalist p: +61 2 42970115 m: +61 2 418220638 f: +61 2 42970747 From: "Pauline" [EMAIL PROTECTED]Reply-To: ozmidwifery@acegraphics.com.auTo: ozmidwifery@acegraphics.com.auSubject: [ozmidwifery] co sleeping with a 7 yoDate: Sun, 29 Jan 2006 22:38:06 +1100 This is more of a parenting issue than a mid issue but i value any input at this stage. My 7 yo son still sleeps with me every night, although he will occasionally snuggle in with his 9 yo sister. I have never worried about it, as i figure he won't be there when he's 18. But my ex mother in law has started mentioning a psychology study thatsays boys who sleep with their mothers for such a long time end up with mother issues, and are abusive and violent to theri partners whne they get older. I might add that this is the same woman who was horrified that i fed both my babies till they were happy to give it up at 2 years plus. She has now got a small part of worried that i could be creating a real problem. Help! Pauline -- This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. Visit to subscribe or unsubscribe.
Re: [ozmidwifery] co sleeping with a 7 yo
Pauline, Bollocks to your ex MIL - pity "ex" doesnt mean "Exit"! Recently, as I searched for some long term evidence of the benefits of parent-infant co-sleeping, I came across a study of college age subjects which found that males who had co-slept with their parents between birth and five years not only had significantly higher self esteem, they experienced less guilt and anxiety and reported greater frequency of sex. Not sure how to interpret this in light of my own kids experience now they are college age and beyond - that would be too much information! But it seems that they are most likely sleeping with somebody other than me! Enjoy the little warm body and don't bother sharing unnecessary info with your exmil. Pinky - Original Message - From: Pauline To: ozmidwifery@acegraphics.com.au Sent: Sunday, January 29, 2006 10:38 PM Subject: [ozmidwifery] co sleeping with a 7 yo This is more of a parenting issue than a mid issue but i value any input at this stage. My 7 yo son still sleeps with me every night, although he will occasionally snuggle in with his 9 yo sister. I have never worried about it, as i figure he won't be there when he's 18. But my ex mother in law has started mentioning a psychology study thatsays boys who sleep with their mothers for such a long time end up with mother issues, and are abusive and violent to theri partners whne they get older. I might add that this is the same woman who was horrified that i fed both my babies till they were happy to give it up at 2 years plus. She has now got a small part of worried that i could be creating a real problem. Help! Pauline
Re: [ozmidwifery] co sleeping with a 7 yo
Ask her for the study!!! I bet it is like when you ask some obs for the research of stuff they do - they can't show you cos it doesn't exist!!! Or else the study is so flawed that the results are cr*p anyway!!! :-) Katrina who is off to bed after night duty so sorry if this is a little curt!!! :-) On 29/01/2006, at 10:38 PM, Pauline wrote: x-tad-smallerThis is more of a parenting issue than a mid issue but i value any input at this stage. My 7 yo son still sleeps with me every night, although he will occasionally snuggle in with his 9 yo sister. I have never worried about it, as i figure he won't be there when he's 18. But my ex mother in law has started mentioning a psychology study that says boys who sleep with their mothers for such a long time end up with mother issues, and are abusive and violent to theri partners whne they get older. I might add that this is the same woman who was horrified that i fed both my babies till they were happy to give it up at 2 years plus. She has now got a small part of worried that i could be creating a real problem. Help!/x-tad-smallerx-tad-smallerPauline/x-tad-smaller
Re: [ozmidwifery] co sleeping with a 7 yo
What crap : ) Teaching children about emotional closeness makes them violent? Certain lack of logic there! Try this anyway: (Maybe she'd like a copy to read ; ) ) http://www.attachmentparenting.org/artbenefitscosleep.shtml Long-term Benefits Higher self-esteem. Boys who coslept with their parents between birth and five years of age had significantly higher self-esteem and experienced less guilt and anxiety. For women, co-sleeping during childhood was associated with less discomfort about physical contact and affection as adults (Lewis Janda, 1988). Co-sleeping appears to promote confidence, self-esteem, and intimacy, possibly by reflecting an attitude of parental acceptance (Crawford, 1994). More positive behavior.In a study of parents on military bases, co-sleeping children received higher evaluations from their teachers than did solitary sleeping children (Forbes et al., 1992). A recent study in England showed that among the children who "never" slept in their parents bed, there was a trend to be harder to control, less happy, exhibit a greater number of tantrums, and these children were actually more fearful than children who always slept in their parents bed, all night (Heron, 1994). Increased life satisfaction. A large, cross-cultural study conducted on five different ethnic groups in large U.S. cities found that, across all groups, co-sleepers exhibited a general feeling of satisfaction with life (Mosenkis, 1998).
RE: [ozmidwifery] co sleeping with a 7 yo
Title: Message Pinky said: Not sure how to interpret this in light of my own kids experience now they are college age and beyond - that would be too much information! But it seems that they are most likely sleeping with somebody other than me! Ha Ha Ha! you do make me laugh Pinky!!! :o) cheers Jo -- No virus found in this outgoing message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.375 / Virus Database: 267.14.23/243 - Release Date: 1/27/2006
