[silk] Barlow's principles of adult behaviour

2007-10-03 Thread Udhay Shankar N
One of the first people I ever sent email to, JPB turned 60 
yesterday. The below is part of a birthday message he sent out, that 
I thought I'd share.


Udhay


FINALLY, A LITTLE GIFT FOR US ALL...

I didn't think I would live to 30 either. I was shocked, shocked I
tell you, to find myself on the eve of my 30th birthday, weirdly
alive. In this, I was quite out of step with most of my friends to
that point, more than half of whom were already back in the sweet
realm of infinity and love. Chickenshits. If you're going to
volunteer in the first place, go right into the Special Forces.

In any event, it occurred to me that, past 30, I could no longer
defend my peccadillos on basis of youth. I would have to acquire some
minimal sense of responsibility. While I didn't want to be a
grown-up, I wanted at least to act like one in the less toxic and
stultifying sense of the term.

So, I sat down around 2 am on October 3, 1977 and I drew up this list
of behavioral goals that I hoped might assist in this process. Now,
thirty years later, I can claim some mixed success. Where I've
failed, I'm still working on it. I give these to you so that you can
provide me with encouragement in becoming the person I want to be.
And maybe, though they are very personally targeted, they may even be
of some little guidance to you.

Anyway, this is what I wrote that night:


PRINCIPLES OF ADULT BEHAVIOR

1.  Be patient.  No matter what.
2.  Don't badmouth:
Assign responsibility, never blame.
Say nothing behind another's back you'd be unwilling to say,
in exactly the same tone and language, to his face.
3.  Never assume the motives of others are, to them, less noble
than yours are to you.
4.  Expand your sense of the possible.
5.  Don't trouble yourself with matters you truly cannot change.
6.  Expect no more of anyone than you yourself can deliver.
7.  Tolerate ambiguity.
8.  Laugh at yourself frequently.
9.  Concern yourself with what is right rather than whom is right.
10. Never forget that, no matter how certain, you might be wrong.
11. Give up blood sports.
12. Remember that your life belongs to others as well.  Do not
endanger it frivolously.  And never endanger the life of another.
13. Never lie to anyone for any reason.
14. Learn the needs of those around you and respect them.
15. Avoid the pursuit of happiness. Seek to define your mission
and pursue that.
16. Reduce your use of the first personal pronoun.
17. Praise at least as often as you disparage.
18. Never let your errors pass without admission.
19. Become less suspicious of joy.
20. Understand humility.
21  Forgive.
22. Foster dignity.
23. Live memorably.
24. Love yourself.
25. Endure.

I don't expect the perfect attainment of these principles.  However,
I post them as a standard for my conduct as an adult.  Should any of
my friends or colleagues catch me violating any one of them, bust me.

John
Perry Barlow

October 3, 1977


Hold me to these please.

And thank you so much for all the love you've given me, despite all
of my efforts to resist it.

May the Good Light shine on you,

The Ancient Barlow

--
**
John Perry Barlow, Peripheral Visionary
Co-Founder  Vice Chairman, Electronic Frontier Foundation
Berkman Fellow, Harvard Law School

Home(stead) Page: http://www.eff.org/~barlow


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((Udhay Shankar N)) ((udhay @ pobox.com)) ((www.digeratus.com))




Re: [silk] Barlow's principles of adult behaviour

2007-10-03 Thread Deepa Mohan
Thanks, Udhay, for the forward of Barlow's really thought-provoking
list. I think I'm going to save it and work on it I particularly
like understand humility. That IS such a difficult thing to
internalize! Mostly, human being are driven by the need to feel
superior to others in some way: breeding,looks, money,intelligence

Deepa.

On 10/4/07, Udhay Shankar N [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote:
 One of the first people I ever sent email to, JPB turned 60
 yesterday. The below is part of a birthday message he sent out, that
 I thought I'd share.

 Udhay

 FINALLY, A LITTLE GIFT FOR US ALL...
 
 I didn't think I would live to 30 either. I was shocked, shocked I
 tell you, to find myself on the eve of my 30th birthday, weirdly
 alive. In this, I was quite out of step with most of my friends to
 that point, more than half of whom were already back in the sweet
 realm of infinity and love. Chickenshits. If you're going to
 volunteer in the first place, go right into the Special Forces.
 
 In any event, it occurred to me that, past 30, I could no longer
 defend my peccadillos on basis of youth. I would have to acquire some
 minimal sense of responsibility. While I didn't want to be a
 grown-up, I wanted at least to act like one in the less toxic and
 stultifying sense of the term.
 
 So, I sat down around 2 am on October 3, 1977 and I drew up this list
 of behavioral goals that I hoped might assist in this process. Now,
 thirty years later, I can claim some mixed success. Where I've
 failed, I'm still working on it. I give these to you so that you can
 provide me with encouragement in becoming the person I want to be.
 And maybe, though they are very personally targeted, they may even be
 of some little guidance to you.
 
 Anyway, this is what I wrote that night:
 
 
 PRINCIPLES OF ADULT BEHAVIOR
 
 1.  Be patient.  No matter what.
 2.  Don't badmouth:
  Assign responsibility, never blame.
  Say nothing behind another's back you'd be unwilling to say,
 in exactly the same tone and language, to his face.
 3.  Never assume the motives of others are, to them, less noble
 than yours are to you.
 4.  Expand your sense of the possible.
 5.  Don't trouble yourself with matters you truly cannot change.
 6.  Expect no more of anyone than you yourself can deliver.
 7.  Tolerate ambiguity.
 8.  Laugh at yourself frequently.
 9.  Concern yourself with what is right rather than whom is right.
 10. Never forget that, no matter how certain, you might be wrong.
 11. Give up blood sports.
 12. Remember that your life belongs to others as well.  Do not
 endanger it frivolously.  And never endanger the life of another.
 13. Never lie to anyone for any reason.
 14. Learn the needs of those around you and respect them.
 15. Avoid the pursuit of happiness. Seek to define your mission
 and pursue that.
 16. Reduce your use of the first personal pronoun.
 17. Praise at least as often as you disparage.
 18. Never let your errors pass without admission.
 19. Become less suspicious of joy.
 20. Understand humility.
 21  Forgive.
 22. Foster dignity.
 23. Live memorably.
 24. Love yourself.
 25. Endure.
 
 I don't expect the perfect attainment of these principles.  However,
 I post them as a standard for my conduct as an adult.  Should any of
 my friends or colleagues catch me violating any one of them, bust me.
 
  John
 Perry Barlow
 
 October 3, 1977
 
 
 Hold me to these please.
 
 And thank you so much for all the love you've given me, despite all
 of my efforts to resist it.
 
 May the Good Light shine on you,
 
 The Ancient Barlow
 
 --
 **
 John Perry Barlow, Peripheral Visionary
 Co-Founder  Vice Chairman, Electronic Frontier Foundation
 Berkman Fellow, Harvard Law School
 
 Home(stead) Page: http://www.eff.org/~barlow

 --
 ((Udhay Shankar N)) ((udhay @ pobox.com)) ((www.digeratus.com))