Re: [ZION] apostate working women {was}working woman

2003-09-21 Thread George Cobabe
Amen, Jim.

It is too often that people, even members that ought to know better forget
this basic truth.  We are told not to judge unfairly or unwisely.  We are
never told NOT to judge, for as you suggest it is an essential part of the
gospel of Jesus Christ.

George

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>
> Paul Osborne wrote:
> ---
> No one made you the judge.
> ---
>
> It would be pleasant to believe this.  I could suspend all my struggles
> at discernment and tell myself, "Not to worry, you're not the judge.
> Let someone else decide what is right and wrong."
>
> However easy that might be, it is not the gospel...
>
> "For behold, my brethren, it is given unto you to judge, that ye may
> know good from evil; and the way to judge is as plain, that ye may know
> with a perfect knowledge, as the daylight is from the dark night."
> (Moroni 7:15)
>
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RE: [ZION] apostate working women {was}working woman

2003-09-21 Thread Jim Cobabe

Paul Osborne wrote:
---
No one made you the judge.
---

It would be pleasant to believe this.  I could suspend all my struggles 
at discernment and tell myself, "Not to worry, you're not the judge.  
Let someone else decide what is right and wrong."

However easy that might be, it is not the gospel...

"For behold, my brethren, it is given unto you to judge, that ye may 
know good from evil; and the way to judge is as plain, that ye may know 
with a perfect knowledge, as the daylight is from the dark night." 
(Moroni 7:15)

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Re: [ZION] apostate working women {was}working woman

2003-09-21 Thread Grampa Bill in Savannah
Paul Osborne wrote:

I'm just expressing my view when white collar men grumble out of their lips against the woes of blue collar men and how they can supposedly fix their low income problems. The fact is, many white collar men are ignorant and lack real experience when it comes to blue collar money woes as they sit in the ivory tower of plenty. 

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Grampa Bill comments:
   I think part of our problem in coming to a consensus is that we are 
tending toward dividing all jobs into white collar or blue collar 
without acknowledging that there are broad gradations within each. For 
several years I refused to accept a twenty percent pay raise and be put 
into a salaried slot. Fact  is, I was making better than thirty percent 
above base in my "blue collar" when my OT was calculated in. The "white 
collar" position would have amounted to a pay cut.
   The military comes to mind. They make a broad distinction between 
the "blue collar" enlisted men and the "white collar" officers. Yet  a 
twenty year Command Sergeant Major certainly makes more money and 
probably has more prestige than a shave-tail Second Lieutenant fresh out 
of OCS.
   I believe we err when we paint the picture with too broad a brush. 
Both the white collar and the blue collar positions contain men who are 
put upon and treated unfairly, and both have men who are not worth a 
fourth what they are actually compensated.
Love y'all,
Grampa Bill in Savannah

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Re: [ZION] apostate working women {was}working woman

2003-09-21 Thread Paul Osborne

On Sat, 20 Sep 2003 00:32:53 + Jim Cobabe <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
writes:
> 
>I am not offering the least criticism to women who work out of 
>necessity. 


Good. Let's keep it that way. No one made you the judge.

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Re: [ZION] apostate working women {was}working woman

2003-09-20 Thread Paul Osborne


On Fri, 19 Sep 2003 19:34:35 + J Stone <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
writes:
> 
> Val wrote:
(i.e. husband can get more education to 
get a better paying job


Are you saying that no Latter-day Saint should settle for a lower paying
job? Someone has to do the work! There are always lower paying jobs and
the competition will never allow all men to have higher paying jobs.
Shall all men sit in the ivory tower and push pencils? Or shall all men
be chief? Who is going to do the work?

I'm not attacking you Val; I'm just expressing my view when white collar
men grumble out of their lips against the woes of blue collar men and how
they can supposedly fix their low income problems. The fact is, many
white collar men are ignorant and lack real experience when it comes to
blue collar money woes as they sit in the ivory tower of plenty. I'll
glady switch paychecks and let them see for themselves and their eyes
will be opened!

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RE: [ZION] apostate working women {was}working woman

2003-09-19 Thread Jim Cobabe

Val wrote:
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So it depends on which prophetic counsel you are referencing.
---

In my view, prophetic counsel is consistent in letter and spirit from 
one day to the next, through all ages of time.

If I see conflicts in the pronouncements from one prophet to another, I 
must assume that there is a fault in my interpretation.  I will not 
entertain the suggestion that counsel from President Benson is somehow 
"trumped" by statements from President Hinckley.

One aspect of this issue is the manner of delivery of certain messages 
that differs significantly from one man to another.  President Benson 
was blunt and aggressive in his directives.  President Hinckley is often 
soft-spoken and indirect.  He tends to be more sensitive about public 
perception.  Notwithstanding, I saw no quotes indicating that President 
Hinckley has at any time rescinded the "archaic" counsel that mothers 
should not work.

I have long pondered the postscript trailing the Proclamation on the 
Family.  My suspicion is that many people will skip over the body of the 
message to this last bit of the message and focus all their attention on 
it.  "See, my circumstances are special, so I will just write my own 
Proclamation!"

I am not offering the least criticism to women who work out of 
necessity.  Of course families without fathers have different 
circumstances and needs.  The gospel is not a cruel taskmaster that 
burdens widows with unreasonable demands, is it?

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RE: [ZION] apostate working women {was}working woman

2003-09-19 Thread J Stone

Val wrote:
> 
> 
> -- Jim Cobabe <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
> 
> Sounds like we need not follow prophetic counsel as long as our 
> circumstances make it inconvenient or uncomfortable for us.
> 
> Am I getting this right?
> ___
> 
> WRONG!
> This is an unfair, sweeping, judgemental condemnation of women who work. 
> I don't know if you are even married, or if she works, but you'd better 
> thank your lucky stars if she does not have too.  That only means you 
> have been blessed and does not mean you have powers of judgement. 
> 
> When abiding prophetic counsel, usually the living prophet "trumps" 
> older counsel.  Otherwise, we'd still be practicing polygamy! 
> 
> So it depends on which prophetic counsel you are referencing.  If you 
> are referring to GBH's most recent comments on women who need to work, 
> then I am abiding it just fine.  But, if you are referring to the 
> archaic counsel that women should not work, then call me an apostate.  
> 
> I am sure the Lord doesn't have a problem with me supporting my family.  
> My husband is unable to because he is, well, dead!  Sure, I could live 
> on Social Security, but that would not even cover my utilities, let 
> alone my house payment, taxes, cemetery, etc.  Of course, me and the 
> kids do still need to eat, so groceries would have to go too.  And I 
> cannot expect the church to support me and my kids--that's just 
> ludicrous.
> 
> If putting a leaky roof over my kids' heads is a convenience, then I 
> work because otherwise it would be inconvenient to live on the streets.
> 
> If feeding my kids and keeping them warm is comfortable, then I work 
> because otherwise we would be uncomfortable freezing in the winter or 
> baking in the summer.
> 
> I've usually respected your comments, Jim, but you really ticked me off 
> with this one!
> 
> val--from her JOB!
> {watch out for the lightening strikes heading my way!}
> 
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Let's all chill out and relax for a minute.  It seems that working women 
and husbands of working women always get defensive when this topic is 
discussed.  Let's not even begin to discuss why they get defensive.  
Let's talk in generalities for a minute.  I think that IDEALLY the 
husband would work to provide for the family and the wife would be home 
with the kids (which, in my opinion, is harder than working out of the 
home).  This is the IDEAL, but, as we all know, it is not always 
possible.  I think that as long as we are doing all we can to adhere to 
this ideal, we will be blameless (only relating to this topic) before 
God.  It has nothing to do with white collar or blue collar workers.  
How we "do all we can", though, is where the topic goes from black and 
white, to gray.  There are women who truly need to work, and those who 
"think" they need to work (or the husbands "think" the wife needs to 
work), but perhaps don't have to (i.e. husband can get more education to 
get a better paying job, can take on a second job, family can reduce 
expenses).  I don't think that any current (or relatively current) 
prophet has negated the counsel of earlier prophets who have said that 
women should not work outside of the home.  Current prophets may have 
clarified that the issue is gray, rather than black and white, but they 
haven't removed the ideal.  Look at the Family Proclatation.  Pretty 
current, huh?  Pretty clear, too.  "By divine design, fathers are to 
preside over their families in love and righteousness and ARE 
RESPONSIBLE TO PROVIDE THE NECESSITIES OF LIFE and protection for their 
families.  Mothers are primarily respondible for the nurture of their 
children."  Kind of hard for the mother to do this when she is working 
out of the home.  Not impossible, but harder.  The Proclamation goes on 
to say that "In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are 
obligated to help one another as equal partners."  I don't think this is 
a negation of previous prophetic counsel.  Husbands and wives and "help 
one another" with their responsibilities by BETTER PERFORMING THEIR OWN 
RESPONSIBILITIES, and not necessarily DOING each others 
responsibilities.  The Proclamation then states, "Disability, death, or 
other circumstances may necessitate individual adaption."  Has the IDEAL 
been changed? No.
.

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