I understand that. Perhaps you remarked upon the utter stillness from my end.
bonobashi ----- Original Message ----- > From: Danese Cooper <[email protected]> > To: [email protected] > Cc: > Sent: Saturday, 15 June 2013 12:12 AM > Subject: Re: [silk] Atul Chitnis RIP > > I'm guessing OSI wants something a bit less ... personal. Their readership > mostly won't have known Atul. > > Danese > > > On Fri, Jun 14, 2013 at 11:21 AM, Indrajit Gupta > <[email protected]>wrote: > >> Wasn't that the point? >> >> >> >> bonobashi >> >> >> >> ----- Original Message ----- >> > From: Suresh Ramasubramanian <[email protected]> >> > To: "mail=silklist@lists. hserus. net" > <[email protected]> >> > Cc: >> > Sent: Friday, 14 June 2013 8:07 AM >> > Subject: Re: [silk] Atul Chitnis RIP >> > >> > It is amazing how a lot of people get to resemble their fathers even > if >> they >> > face conflicts with them during their lifetime. >> > >> > That last paragraph could actually describe Atul himself to a T >> > >> > --srs >> > >> > -------- Original message -------- >> > From: Shoba Narayan <[email protected]> >> > Date: 06/14/2013 8:03 AM (GMT+05:30) >> > To: [email protected] >> > Subject: [silk] Atul Chitnis RIP >> > >> >> >> >> This, by his brother, was also well done: >> >> > http://arun.chitnis.com/2013/06/08/my-brother-atul-chitnis-1962-2013/ >> >> >> > >> > Ingrid, thanks. >> > This is such a lovely piece, about fathers and sons. >> > >> > Love these lines: >> > Like it or not, sons live their adult lives in a manner which is >> directly or >> > indirectly dictated by their fathers. We may either spend our entire > life >> > complying with our father’s wishes or rebelling against them. We may >> either do >> > exactly what the old man taught us to do, or do exactly the opposite. >> But either >> > way, the fathers of sons hold the reins from beyond the grave. >> > >> > Throughout the Indian part our childhood, our father was a person to > be >> feared >> > and steered clear of. He was a hard and peculiar man – brilliant in > his >> own way, >> > but driven by his own demons and completely oblivious of how his ways >> affected >> > others. >> > >> > I tackled our father in a very different way – not very original, but >> effective. >> > Atul met him head on – he gave him the middle finger and waited till > he >> could >> > take charge of his own life. He did that much sooner than I did. But > he >> did not >> > walk away a free man. The specter of not being good enough, for not >> meeting >> > expectations, haunted both of us. >> > >> >
