Alaric Snell-Pym wrote:
I probably sound like a porn apologist... I'm not. I think the idea of consenting adults sharing pictures/videos of themselves shagging, or factual or fictional written accounts, etc, for their own or their recipient's titilation or for money, is perfectly fine and even laudable. But the porn *industry* is horrible, exploitative, and is spreading disinformation.
I'm sex-positive, but, by and large, porn-negative, *because women in porn almost never look like they're enjoying it*. If porn celebrated female ecstasy rather than female humiliation and degradation, I'd be bang behind it.
As a parent: We're very open with our children about sex, with a view to pre-educating them before they get misinformed by their peers or the Internet...
My youngest just turned 18. We were very open about sex and reproduction, and made sure that good, accurate information was available to our children. We also told them that they'd likely run into porn online, but that we don't think it's a good idea to spend a lot of time on porn because it's unrealistic and largely unsatisfying. We talked about how much more satisfying sex is when you have a partner you love and good communication.
Porn was no more than a blip on the online radar in our house. Supporting our kids through various types of online meanness (sexual harassment, bullying, gaslighting, ridicule, pressure to send naked selfies, etc.) took a lot more time and energy than porn ever did.
The information Sriram provided earlier would be good to share with young teens to help them decide to develop healthy habits around porn.
--hmm
