Please don't go. Even the person that said it was hard to sort through said
they weren't looking to start anything, just to make a comment.
You have to remember that just as it is hard for you to post due to your
illness, that others also have difficulty in their illness trying to read
through certain posts. Perhaps their eyesight is bad, or their computer
screen is small and therefore difficult to see, or they are trying to read
hurriedly while on break at work.
There are any number of reasons that people can have trouble. I always try
to remember that not everything is black and white. Just because I see
something one way doesn't mean it IS that way. The best story I heard, that
made me try to become aware of all possibilities is this, that I heard from
a motivational speaker.
A man with 3 kids gets on a commuter train. The kids are running up and
down the isles, screaming, throwing things at each other. The father just
sits and looks out the window, ignoring the havoc the kids are making. The
other passengers are getting mad, glaring at the father who just ignores
them. Finally another man can't take it anymore and gets up, goes to the
father and says "can't you keep your kids under control? They are making
everyone upset"
The father looks up, kind of dazed, and says "oh, I'm so sorry. I guess I
wasn't paying attention. We just came from the hospital where their mother
just died. They are acting out because they don't know what else to do. I
ll make them come and sit here. I'm sorry."
Well, you can imagine what the other man felt, and of course all the other
passengers. Everyone in that car started playing with the kids,
entertaining them, and the man sat and talked with the father.
Now if some guy or woman cuts me off on the highway, instead of getting mad
like I use to I try to think "what if the guy just lost his job, or what if
the woman just lost her purse with the last bit of money she had". So I try
to just let it go. The driver COULD just be a jerk, but I've found it is
certainly easier on ME to not get upset and to give the other person the
benefit of the doubt.
It's a paradigm shift, for sure. We just never, ever know what the other
person is experiencing and going through. If we all try to be more patient
with others, try to understand that perhaps there's a reason for their
actions that we just can't see--then it makes it easier for us to over look
little things. Sometimes even big things. :-)
So please don't leave. You HAVE helped people here. And now that you've
explained why your posts show the way they do, others will understand and
accept them the way they are written. It's important that we all share as
much as we can to help each other. Any disease, any illness, feels less of
a burden when it is shared.
Samala,
Renee
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Mike, please put me on unsubscibed status
