Jen -- wrote:
You guys dont seem to be understanding that Im not for one minute saying I wouldnt be upset. Its not like Im going to run up, give her a hug, and say thank you. Shes my sister, she will always be there. And again, my major beef is with the person I am married to, the person who swore that he would love and cherish me until death do us part.This one sounds like one of those points where differences in upbringing lead to distinct differences in adult behavior, and it's not a simple male - female dichotomy. I, for one of the guys, understand what you are saying; I'm just saying my own reactions would be much different. I think Tim, Charles, and Angela are saying the same. You view your relationship with your sister as paramount and would be more angry at your spouse. I guess for you, blood comes first above all else. As for me, I view both blood and marriage relationships as important, but both can be broken by betrayal. Again from "Jackie's" POV, if "Tom" had seduced my sister "Jen," I would be angriest at him; but if she had seduced him, I would be angriest at her. My greatest anger would be directed towards the instigator of the affair. Best wishes,
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