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While I would still punish the teen
like the Rev, I can see what Angela is saying.....
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Thursday, November 13, 2003 11:25
AM
Subject: RE: [Sndbox] My stance on
underage drinking
My
point is, both are two totally different things. Punishing the child might
stop them from jumping near traffic where they could get killed. While I don't
like the idea of my kids possibly drinking, if I punish them for calling for a
safe ride home, the next time they might not call for the ride to keep from
getting in trouble. Two totally different cases. And I had said on the last
subject of the 8 y/o that I changed my mind on him being fined....I didn't
think he should. Parental punishment was different though. I guess it just all
comes down to safety. You punish your kids to keep them safe.
I actually agree with you on the drinking
thing, I was just pointing out that I can see how Jackie sees punishing an 8
year old and not a teenager is a little well, it doesnt make
sense.
My
point was which is better, punishing them for drinking and calling you so
they don't drive again and them never calling you again and getting behind
the wheel of a car or not punishing them and them calling you whenever they
need a ride. Many times I got in the car with someone that was drunk b/c I
knew if I called my parents (even on the times I wasn't drinking) they would
ground me for life. So I snuck around and did it and was lucky I
survived.
Well, she has a good pont there.
:-0)
In a message dated 11/13/2003
12:10:21 AM Eastern Standard Time, [EMAIL PROTECTED] writes:
I know most won't
agree with this, but here goes. I'll explain all now so I don't have to
elaborate on it in any other posts on this subject. I don't feel that
underage drinking always leads to alcoholism or that all teens that
drink are troubled. I think a lot do it just to do it, some b/c of peer
pressure and some just b/c they like it. None are really good reasons,
but it does happen, every day. Now when my kids are in high school and
they wind up at a party and drink, then I want them to call me and I'll
come pick them up w/o really punishing them for it b/c I'd rather if
they do get drunk to call me to come get them than to try to drive home
themselves or get in the car with someone else. Not to mention in a lot
of cases the more you try to stop them from drinking, the more they are
going to do it behind your back just to spite you. I don't approve of
underage drinking, regardless of the fact I did it myself as a teen. But
the fact still remains, it is a part of everyday life. While maybe not
normal as Jackie says, it is part of the norm. Ok, I've put in my two
cents now. Good night all.
so an 8 year old who misjudged a jump should be
disciplined but a teenager who drinks shouldnt as long as they call for a
ride home? that makes
sense.
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