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Jan 24 2004 | |
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By Tanith Carey Us Editor, In New York | |
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WHEN John Wayne Bobbitt wakes up this morning in his Nevada prison cell, he will go through the same ritual he performs every day of his life. Bobbitt, who never sleeps naked, will lift the waistband of his boxer shorts, peer inside... and check that the most famous penis in the world is still attached. It is 10 years ago this week since a jury found his first wife, Lorena, innocent by reason of temporary insanity, after she chopped off his organ with an eight-inch carving knife. She then threw it out of her car window as she drove away. The penis was found in a field and was stitched back on by doctors in an eight-hour operation. John became an instant celebrity, whose name was synonymous with every man's worst nightmare. And Lorena, who stayed out of the limelight, became a feminist icon for striking back at her abusive husband. Even though John's daily ritual shows he is still deeply traumatised by what happened, it doesn't stop him calling his former wife every May on her birthday and telling her, "I love you". Lorena never replies. But according to his second wife, Dottie Brewer, that doesn't stop him leaving the message for the woman he has not seen since she walked out of court a decade ago. The last 10 years have not been kind to the former Marine, who is now 36. He turned himself into a side-show attraction, making two porn movies - John Wayne Bobbitt Uncut and Frankenpenis. But the fortune he made has now gone. He moved to Las Vegas where, in between spells as a limo driver for a brothel and a furniture removal man, he racked up a criminal record. Between 1994 and 2002, he was arrested seven times for offences ranging from assault to grand larceny. He is now serving time for breaching probation. In a revealing interview, Dottie says that John is a disturbing mix of contradictions. A willing prisoner of his notoriety - he recently tried to sell the knife used on him on eBay - he is also racked by guilt over his treatment of Lorena. BUT the biggest irony of all is that John's reattached penis looked perfectly normal - until he had it surgically enlarged for a bizarre TV stunt. Dottie, a legal researcher in her late 30s, became Mrs Bobbitt in February 2001. She says: "The three questions people ask me the most about John are, What does it look like?, Does it work? and, Did Lorena have a reason?" "My answer is, 'It's ugly, it works and, yes, she did'. "John knew he had it coming. He had pushed her over the edge. He admitted he did really mean things to her. "She was just 18, a virgin who'd come to America from Venezuela. He started fooling around behind her back, and showing her pictures of the women he'd slept with. "He would go to her car, pull the wires out, and think it was funny when she got hysterical when she couldn't get to work the next morning. "Then she got pregnant and he forced her to have an abortion. He would throw her on her floor and perform Marine torture techniques and laugh about it. Yet he still talks about their marriage like it was yesterday. He calls her every year on her birthday and tells her that he loves her. I think he'd take her back, despite everything, but she will never talk to him. "But that's John. In total denial about everything." Dottie met John in Las Vegas where he had been hired to publicise the launch of a new website. "His manager asked me if I wanted an autograph," she says. "I looked at his name and thought it was a porn star using John's name. To be honest, the whole story had passed me by. I knew the name, but that was about all. "I found him charming and handsome, although not the most intelligent person I'd ever met. We talked for 30 hours and I never once asked him about his penis. "We talked about his childhood and his life. That's what I wanted to know about. Not, 'How's your d***?' He loved that about me. He said, 'You are the first person on the planet to never ask me about my penis'." But when they came to make love, John had a confession to make. A penis enlargement operation had not worked. "The first time I saw it I was shocked," Dottie says. "It looked like a little pig wrapped in a blanket - although the fat was injected all around, the head remained the same size. "Presenter Howard Stern had made him this offer to pay for the surgery for a TV show. The irony is that before then he had been proud of his reattached penis. He'd whip it out at every opportunity. It had become public property. "The scars from the reattachment were barely visible. But in the enlargement operation, they took fat from his stomach and injected it under the skin. It made it puffy and lumpy and fat. It was pretty disgusting. "But that's John. I mean, who gets their arm cut off and put back on - and then goes and gets more surgery? "We made love anyway. I didn't want to hurt his feelings and say 'euuugh', but it was a problem to have sex. I mean, it was not pleasant." Despite John being a former porn star, Dottie said he was not particularly interested in sex. "I got the feeling we were just going through the motions," she says. "John told me he had been molested as a child. I think because of that, he'd turned off his feelings to the human touch. "When John kissed me, it felt as if it was something he thought I wanted him to do. There was nothing going on inside. He's a cold fish." John confided in Dottie about the night his penis was cut off. She says: "He lost two thirds of his blood, but because of his Marine training he knew to apply pressure to the wound, or he would have bled to death. HE said there was no pain - he was in shock. In the hospital, the doctor told him he would never be able to have sex again and would have to pee sitting down. At that moment, he made a decision that when he got out he'd get a gun and shoot himself. "Of course, the doctors had no idea that two hours later the police would find his penis and run in with it in an ice chest. They hooked it back together until it was fully functioning." Despite profiting from his notoriety, things went badly for John since the court case. "He regretted getting into porn films," Dottie says. "He felt exploited, but he did it for the money. He also felt hurt by the endless jokes told about him - and was often the last to realise he was the butt of them. "He loved me because I didn't want to be with him because of who he was. He didn't show to me any of the behaviour he had shown to Lorena. "One day, about two weeks after we met, he said, 'You are the greatest person I have ever met. Will you marry me?'" They were married in a 1.30am ceremony at the Las Vegas Silver Bells Wedding Chapel. Within six months it was over, when John revealed he was still in love with an old girlfriend. Later, he changed his mind again - but by then Dottie was already filing for divorce. She says: "It was all a lie, a facade. I feel sorry for him." Now when she hears a Bobbitt joke, Dottie says nothing. "I have been with people who have cracked Bobbitt gags," she says. "If they knew I had been married to him they might think twice. But I can understand it. After all, the first words my mother said when I told her I'd married John were, 'Why would you want to marry a man without a penis?'" Dottie sees little hope for John, who seems to keep repeating the patterns of his past. A year after their doomed wedding0 he married a third time, to Joanna Ferrell. Within two months, he had been arrested on charges of battery and domestic violence. Now he is in jail after a judge revoked his probation for a 1999 guilty plea to attempted theft of more than £100,000 in clothing from a department store. Dottie says he was never violent to her, but adds: "Some people make mistakes and keep making those same mistakes for the rest of their lives. "John's problem is that because of what happened to him, he likes to think of himself as the ultimate survivor. He thinks he is perfect so he'll never get help. "The sad thing is, when they stitched that thing back on, they created even more of a monster." |
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