sadness is that AD is a monopoly now. ;-) This is bad not only for users of xsi
2014-03-04 19:41 GMT+04:00 Francisco Criado <malcriad...@gmail.com>: > Ed, i'm having a constant loop here ;) > F. > > > On Tuesday, March 4, 2014, Ed Manning <etmth...@gmail.com> wrote: > >> Stage 1 lasted nearly 5 years. It's only natural to spend a few days in >> stage 2. >> >> >> The stages, popularly known by the acronym *DABDA*, >> include:[2]<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/K%C3%BCbler-Ross_model#cite_note-Santrock-2> >> >> 1. *Denial <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Denial>* -- As the reality of >> loss is hard to face, one of the first reactions to follow the loss is >> Denial. What this means is that the person is trying to shut out the >> reality or magnitude of their situation, and begin to develop a false, >> preferable reality. >> 2. *Anger <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anger>* -- "Why me? It's not >> fair!"; "How can this happen to me?"; '"Who is to blame?" >> Once in the second stage, the individual recognizes that denial >> cannot continue. Because of anger, the person is very difficult to care >> for >> due to misplaced feelings of rage and envy. Anger can manifest itself in >> different ways. People can be angry with themselves, or with others, and >> especially those who are close to them. It is important to remain detached >> and nonjudgmental when dealing with a person experiencing anger from >> grief. >> 3. *Bargaining <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bargaining>* -- "I'll do >> anything for a few more years."; "I will give my life savings if..." >> The third stage involves the hope that the individual can somehow >> undo or avoid a cause of grief. Usually, the negotiation for an extended >> life is made with a higher power in exchange for a reformed lifestyle. >> Other times, they will use any thing valuable as a bargaining chip against >> another human agency to extend or prolong the life they live. >> Psychologically, the individual is saying, "I understand I will die, but >> if >> I could just do something to buy more time..." People facing less serious >> trauma can bargain or seek to negotiate a compromise. For example "Can we >> still be friends?" when facing a break-up. Bargaining rarely provides a >> sustainable solution, especially if it is a matter of life or death. >> 4. *Depression <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Depression_(mood)>* -- >> "I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"; "I'm going to die soon so what's >> the point?"; "I miss my loved one, why go on?" >> During the fourth stage, the grieving person begins to understand the >> certainty of death. Much like the existential concept of *The Void,* the >> idea of living becomes pointless. Things begin to lose meaning to the >> griever. Because of this, the individual may become silent, refuse >> visitors >> and spend much of the time crying and sullen. This process allows the >> grieving person to disconnect from things of love and affection, possibly >> in an attempt to avoid further trauma. Depression could be referred to as >> the dress rehearsal for the 'aftermath'. It is a kind of acceptance with >> emotional attachment. It is natural to feel sadness, regret, fear, and >> uncertainty when going through this stage. Feeling those emotions shows >> that the person has begun to accept the situation. Often times, this is >> the >> ideal path to take, to find closure and make their ways to the fifth step, >> Acceptance. >> 5. *Acceptance <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Acceptance>* -- "It's >> going to be okay."; "I can't fight it, I may as well prepare for it." >> In this last stage, individuals begin to come to terms with their >> mortality or inevitable future, or that of a loved one, or other tragic >> event. This stage varies according to the person's situation. People dying >> can enter this stage a long time before the people they leave behind, who >> must pass through their own individual stages of dealing with the grief. >> This typically comes with a calm, retrospective view for the individual, >> and a stable mindset. >> >> -- Евграфов Максим.(Summatr) https://vimeo.com/user3098735/videos ------------------------------------------------------- Хорошего Вам настроения !!! :-)
