Dear List, I have patiently read all the postings and feel I need to add my tuppence worth. I am a single woman. I went alone to Buenos Aires and took lots of classes etc and then attended every milonga (usually two per day) I could. Of course my dancing improved, but that is the point I WAS dancing. After a week or two, I was accepted by the milongueros and had a truly wonderful time. I learnt the etiquette of the mirada, always used it and didn't get involved romantically with any of them.
I also visted San Francisco twice recently and had a similarly great time...I danced a lot, and with many lovely, friendly men. Sometimes I'd ask them to dance sometimes the reverse. So what is the point of what I am saying...ATTITUDE! In each case I really wanted to dance and I wanted to meet the men and enjoy their company. I probably looked friendly, happy & interested too. And of course I met many lovely men (& women) and found the whole scene remarkably friendly and unintimidating (esp after Bs As.). And thanks to all my friends in San Francisco for making my stay so enjoyable. sandy smith
