Manyof the men, who I assume areleaders, are talking about what they "let" happen, "allow" to happen, etc. I think what is really disturbing to women (btw, Carol, I have danced with the type of leads you describe - but never twice.....) is that this type of language leaves no apparent room for women to contribute to the "music" - unless "allowed to." When I am leading, it is a dynamic interplay - I may lead "something" - her response to that lead then informs my next lead, and I may yet hear her "say" something else that presents an opportunity to respond in a different way, and so on, and so on. This is why, when I am following, I don't like when the lead sort of "disengages" to allow me to do some tricks and then starts dancing again.
I am definitely of the school of thought that tango is completely lead, so the notion of roles makes sense to me - but the roles are equal and dynamiic because (and I apologize in advance) it takes two to tango......(groan...) Have you joined the Buffalo Argentine Tango Society Yahoo! group yet? It's easy, and the best way to make sure you know what we're doing and what's going on with the Argentine tango in and around Buffalo......go to www.yahoo.com > select Groups > search for Buffalo Argentine Tango Society > follow the directions to join BATS_tango. Thanks! ________________________________________________________________________ More new features than ever. Check out the new AOL Mail ! - http://webmail.aol.com _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
