Just so that there's no misinterpretation and I be accused of 'throwing the woman around the floor', I'll add that I do agree with lead and follow approach. The man makes the lead with his body - the woman commences her step [the man already knows what it will be] and the man follows the movement of the womans's step.
Keith, HK On Tue Dec 25 13:00 , Keith sent: >I really don't understand why some men have this need to think of their >partner in any way other than as their dance partner. No, my >partner is not a little baby on a swing and I can't think of anything that >would be more likely to take away my tango mood. > >But, more importantly, I have big problems with the words 'suggest' in item 1 >and 'interpret' in item 2. This seems to say that the man >gives some king of signal, which the woman then has to think about, >'interpret' and then decide what to do. I don't agree with this >approach. If she wants to, the woman should be able to turn her brain off >completely, think about nothing, interpret nothing, decide >nothing and just follow the man - and this is what many [most?] women want. If >the woman wants to be more activley involved in the >dance, of course she can be - but the man's lead should still be such that the >woman has no choice about what the next step will be. >However, the expert follower can do many things in making that step and in >suggesting how to continue the dance. The man can choose to >listen or not, but once he leads the next step, the decision has been taken >and the woman must make the step that has been led. I will >concede that there are rare occasions, with special women, where this can >change - but rare is the operative word and a man's dance >shouldn't be based on this idea. > >The man should listen to the woman and give her time to contribute to the >dance, but his leads should not be open to interpretation. >They should be clear and unambiguous. That's my opinion. > >Keith, HK > > >On Mon Dec 24 22:22 , Tango For Her sent: > >>Leaders, imagine your follower as a baby on a swing AND the baby is not >>strapped in. It is your job to move with the baby, holding it >and not impeeding with its motion. You want the baby to feel the momentum and >pauses in the swing. But, you want the baby to feel, and >be, secure. >> >> It's a way of moving with your follower and not restricting her movement at >> the points where she she should feel momentum and >pauses. You see, you suggested the momentum and you suggested the pause, but, >it is the follower who is free to intensify those >feelings. This is part of what I mean when I say that women can dance, so I >go along for the ride (to an extent). >> >> A step is in three parts. >> >> 1. The leader suggests the direction and feel of the step. >> >> 2. The follower interprets what the leader has suggested and makes the step. >> >> 3. The leader follows the follower through the step. >> >> Given that sequence, the leader merely suggested the motion. It is the >> follower who is taking you through the motion. You could ( >you don't have to ) imagine that you are along for the ride. You could ( you >don't have to ) imagine that you are along for the ride to >take care of her ( make sure you are not throwing her off balance, assist her >if she becomes off balance, etc ). When you do this, you >could imagine that you are there, for the same purpose, taking care of a baby >on a swing, where the momentum and the pauses are big and >balance is pretty darn important. > > >_______________________________________________ >Tango-L mailing list >[email protected] >http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
