>   "Sitting in one spot all night" thing. WHERE you sit is supremely 
> important. At any venue there will be predominate traffic flows - to and 
> from: the front door, the bathroom, the dancefloor, and the food, as Trini 
> pointed out. Women who want to dance, do well to put themselves in or near 
> the traffic flows. 

Thank you for the tips, but they might not apply to everyone. I like to sit in 
one spot,  but that's not where the traffic flows. Sometimes dancers tell me: 
you should sit where the traffic flows so that I can easily see you. But I 
rather prefer a more quiet spot where I can listen to the music and watch the 
dancers and I won't be disturbed by a stop-and-go-traffic back and forth from 
the bar or bathroom.  I won't cruise around either. I'm convinced sitting is 
more rewarding. Why should I go hunting and ask a man to dance? I think the man 
I like to dance with will have eyes to see and he will find me. I prefer to be 
invited.  A good leader will have the initiative and good eyes. I also consider 
patience is a prerequisite for tango. For instance I would watch one of the 
best dancers, he has more than 20 years of dancing experience and I love to 
watch him dance. I guess I have watched him for years,  thinking how wonderful 
it would be to dance with him. And then a few weeks ago, he came to me and 
invited me to dance. It was worth waiting for it;)

Anna


>      Another tip: After the tanda has started, get up and cruise around. Any 
> men hanging around instead of dancing are fair game. Like Trini said, being 
> sociable at the food table can result in an invitation. It can be even more 
> effective to be moving as a tanda is ending and people are coming off the 
> floor, looking for their next partners.
>      Another tip: Never be shy about asking a man to dance (at least outside 
> of BsAs).
> 
>                J
>              TangoMoments.com
> 
> 
> > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
> > Subject: Re: [Tango-L] Gender Imbalance
> > 
> > One solution to teach them how to get dances.  Sitting in
> > one spot all night, expecting someone to come up to you is
> > not a very effective way to meet people.  The women who are
> > successful in getting dances are the ones who aren't afraid
> > to get up, will visit the food table which is a great place
> > to strike up a conversation (without hinting about a
> > dance), and act more sociable.  I don't think that acting
> > like a prima donna works in the States.
> > 
> > Trini de Pittsburgh
> > 
> 
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