If a man who dances repeat tandas with the same woman is a "tango hog," is the follow who dances repeat tandas while there are surplus follows who are not dancing (indeed, many have not danced a single tanda all night) also a "tango hog"?
When I brought this topic up about having a hard time getting even a single tanda when there are surplus follows (particularly because women are discouraged from asking), -- the observations were: A. You obviously are not good enough. If you were a good enough dancer you would be asked even though there are many extra women. B. Be more physically attractive. C. Learn to lead (in your case, surplus men, it would be "learn to follow"...and don't forget to make eye contact with those leaders out there, so they will invite you to dance). D. Pick up and move yourself to another city. So, overstocked-tanguero-dudes, that's my advice. Tony wrote: > The phrase "Tango Hog" was used recently - someone who keeps a partner > on the dance floor for tanda after tanda. > > I saw something like this happen once, let's say "Guy #1" is dancing > with an attractive girl for song after song, and Guy 2 wants a dance, > gets impatient and goes up to the pair on the dance floor, between > songs, and says something. Next thing I see the two guys arguing in the > kitchen about right etiquette. > > I'm guessing there was nothing happening between guy #1 and the girl. > Even so, I don't think another dancer is really in a position to say > anything without looking a bit desperate. And surely if the girl was > unhappy she would have left the dance floor. I can see that a DJ being > outside of a situation like this has the chance to say something to > encourage changing partners (couples excepted of course), without > directing attention at any pair in particular, or whatever codes a > community decides on. > > Tony > > -- Carol Ruth Shepherd Arborlaw PLC Ann Arbor MI USA 734 668 4646 v 734 786 1241 f Arborlaw - a legal blog for entrepreneurs and small business http://arborlaw.biz _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list Tango-L@mit.edu http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l