When women are very young, they want men to talk to them. It is the only way they know how to connect. This is "female". Girls are not only born that way, but also socialized. When women mature, some loose their attraction to talk because they have heard a lot and not much is new. They also have other ways of recognizing the meaning of various interactions and their importance.
It is very interesting to see and hear adolescent boys talk about the girls they like - they are not eager to talk to them. Instead, they are happy to see them, even from a distance. They know that they need to talk to her, if they have any intentions of asking her out, but seeing the girl seems much more important. I am always amazed at how the boy-girl interaction repeats itself in a man-woman interaction in tango. Watching the people in the milongas internationally for years, I have observed that the moment the dance stops, the women's mouths begin to move. Some never stop. They sit down and don't stop talking. It is easy to chat when the dance experience is simply pleasant and inconsequential. The words don't happen when it is something else. But the chit-chat also can help people feel safe - from each other, from themselves. There is an old saying - "Men love with their eyes, and women love with their ears." In my experience living in Argentina, the men of that culture know this little piece of wisdom. Best, Nina > Sergio Vandekier wrote: > >> It was said: >> >> "What I've read about the chit chat in BsAs and it's origins, was >> that was the only chance for a young suitor to talk to the girl >> with whom he was dancing with, because it would not have been >> proper to sit next to her after the dancing; she was there with a >> chaperone. Remember the strong Catholic roots of South America and >> how difficult it is/was for a young man to get to knowa young, >> proper, woman, and to impress her. " >> >> >> >> > _______________________________________________ > Tango-L mailing list > [email protected] > http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l > ---------------------------------------------------------------- http://www.earthnet.net Boulder's Premier Datacenter Network, email, and web servers powered by renewable wind energy. _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
