Dear Brick. Hi all.
Thanks for your reply to my mail. You are absolutely right, that there are different social behaviour rules in different countries. So, going to a table and inviting someone to dance my be ok in the US, but not in BA. And, to go to a table might not be the main problem. If you invite someone directly and you have checked out by eye contact, that there is a general "openness" to you, this may be totally good. But I just cannot belive, that the "rules" find it ok, to interrupt someone, if he or she is (seriously) engaged in something else or if this person is obviously avoiding contact. And: IF the "rules" say it's ok, then it's still against good instincts. ;-) As Trini already put this: It is NEVER a good idea to approach someone, who's avoiding eye contact or who looks at you in a rejecting way. If you do so and are then rejected, you should not wonder. No? I'm surely no blind admirer of argentine culture, in fact, I'm a big critic of a lot of the "reglas" or "codigos". BUT: the Argentines got one thing right and this is the Cabeceo/Mirada. It just makes sense in the Tango (or Dance) context. And trying to promote that one "rule" in addition to the Tango itself, can be no mistake, I find. And then: I'm 42 years old and I find myself most of my time trying to cooperate and interact with others. This is in general good and I don't mind. It's been part of my job(s) since years! But dancing with someone socially, especially in a close embrace, if you really try to commit, is something very intimate and demanding. When I dance with a man (or a woman) I really want to please that person and give him (or her) a good time. And I want to have a good time too. This is not about just wanting to dance with the "stars". In fact, I just had the nicest Di Sarli Tanda with a "beginner" in Stockholm, who did not dare to invite me and whom I had to encourage for 4 days. But: I just cannot please a person, if I'm focused on something else or real tired or I don't like that person's dance-style or the person at all. And I do not want to start acting as a Tango-robot, even though I'm a professional teacher now. I could do gymnastics with anyone and (almost) anytime, but Tango is something unique and I want to keep it that way. Have a nice day, Melina Melina Sedo & Detlef Engel ------------------------------------- www.tangodesalon.de www.youtube.com/tangodesalon [EMAIL PROTECTED] (0049) (0)681 9381839 (0049) (0)177 4340669 _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
