Myk, That's it! It's funny. On my trips to Argentina, I've never once had a bad dance. At home I can get them a lot. It's just as Myk said. If I don't respond to a nod from someone at home, he never concludes that I do, in fact, "get it," and that's precisely WHY I'm not nodding back! He marches up to me and forces that face-to-face confrontation. Well, those guys I don't mind saying no to, and usually they hate me after that and don't come back again. Otherwise, I find it hard to turn down basically nice guys that come up to me at home.
The only people that ever came up to me in Argentina were either non-Argentines or lesson hustlers. I said no each time and never regretted it. I sized up the dancers while I sat and I only every looked at the ones I liked. I didn't canvass the whole room ready to dance with just anybody! Sometimes I sat a long time, especially in the sportier, more trendy milongas, but I didn't care. (Well, maybe a little.) But I never had one bad dance. Actually, everything is easier in Argentina. Valerie On Wed, Nov 25, 2009 at 6:04 AM, Myk Dowling <[email protected]> wrote: > Tom and Megan are missing the point of the complaint. Unless cabaceo > usage is used virtually exclusively, women cannot use it to politely > _avoid_ dancing with people. This is because men will simply assume the > lady does not get cabaceo, and walk up to ask. A proportion of people > using cabaceo is not sufficient for this feature to work. _Everyone_ > needs to be using it, and not using it needs to be commonly accepted as > being rude or unthinkable. > > > Myk, > in Canberra > > _______________________________________________ > Tango-L mailing list > [email protected] > http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l > -- Cryptic Ember - The tango blog of Valerie Dark (my pseudonym) http://crypticember.blogspot.com _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
