[Tango-L] Social-ethical behaviors and protocols
Regarding John's statement: "Ruben Malan disapproves of the pursuit of the opposite sex at milongas because teenagers might be present." John Ward Bristol, UK Not necessarily true John. Please, read my post again. It is acceptable if done with decency, prudence, and respect, observing the spoken and unspoken codes. It is also natural and inevitable. I plainly and respectfully disagree with Trini's assertions: "Oh, come on. Chasing the opposite sex is what gave popularity to the tango in the first place. I seriously doubt that the first milongueros were thinking about "art" as they were practicing with each other." Some rationale already presented. Please consider that there are different kind of milongas. More specifically, I was talking about our local regular ones. I comfortably endorse the following Sergio's wise comments: "If some romance develops, even better. But the main purpose of going there is to dance, just for the pleasure of dancing. It is not the favorite place to pick up women. There are many other places and occasions." "I think that it is fair to say that today, most people go to the milongas to dance. There is limited socialization, you arrive, you greet people that you know and you sit. " Frankly, I hope I will find a "soul-mate" for myself at a milonga (I doubt it), but I'm not going to them with that purpose in mind. It will negatively affect my concentration, my technique, and my performing as a dancer. Moreover, intuitive woman (most of them) easily detects when a gentleman is needy looking for also a"chase." Besides, I must be faithful with my own unspoken milongas codes fortunately adopted by many in these days. Independently of women's appearances, attractiveness, marital status, age, height, size, and skills, I personally observe the following rules relevant to this friendly discussion: 1)Dance with good dancers to learn and improve. They often give me a good and sincere advise. 2)Dance with those ladies who are new to make them feel well and welcome. 3)Dance with followers who are not often invited, to be fair and encourage them to comeback. 4)Dance with ladies that are ignored because they are beginners. Perhaps I may have a chance to contribute to their further development. 5)Dance with your friends, and your friend's partners for courtesy at least once. Regarding Anton's statement: "Why the need to sanitize?" I'm nobody to sanitize or heal anybody or any milonga. I'm busy working in my own improvement and practicing tango. I can make a humble contribution however, by sharing my views. Usually, we sanitize to prevent contamination and sickness. I believe in preventive medicine. In the light of Nicetune's unhealthy and disturbing experience, perhaps "purify" rather than "disinfect" will be better actions or only wishful verbs. Even better, what about EDUCATE rather than heal? Ruben Malan _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
