It should also be noted that some young tango dancers in Buenos Aires tell me that they also do not like the protocol that does not allow them to sit with their friends. Part of the reason that they prefer the practicas like Villa Malcom, as well as the queer milongas, etc, is that they can sit with each other, or sit where they would like.
I tend to agree with them - I hate the idea of sitting away from my male friends at a milonga. When I go to a milonga with a male friend, I just get him to dance with another woman first. Then other men start to ask me, with his permission. We probably get away with it because we do not look at all like portenos. The challenge is getting the organizer to seat us in an area that is not defined as for either women, men or couples. Some milongas are more traditional, and more difficult, and some are not so traditional. It's nice to have choices. Loisa Donnay Minneapolis > Sergio, > > The manners you highlight, must be reserved to certain milongas in BsAs > and > for the locals. It was not what I observed how they treated the group I > was > travelling with to BsAs or to other tourists. On the whole the men > behaved > as men do here in Australia. Yes I did observe the cabeco in some > milongas. > > Vince > In Melbourne > > -----Original Message----- > From: [email protected] [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf > Of > Sergio Vandekier > Sent: Thursday, 19 August 2010 1:06 AM > To: Tango-L List > Subject: [Tango-L] Socio-ethical behavior and protocol > > This behavior is considered very poor manners. The invitation to dance > must > be done with a stare and a nod (cabeceo). > > Only poor dancers, or inconsiderate men come from the side or from behind > to > ask a lady to dance. _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
