Lois: The easiest way to deal with the situation is to think of telemarketing phone calls. Somehow, my name landed up on an investors list. Companies called trying to get me to buy gold, precious metals, oil, gas and I forget what else. The moment I say "I'm not an investor and I don't know how you got my name", the company immediately terminates the call.
I suggest women practice "That's not what my teacher said." That should end the conversation. If the man persists, "when you become my teacher, I'll do it your way." It's polite without any emotion. I'm surprised there aren't workshops on this topic at festivals. I bet the workshop would fill up in no time with a waiting list. Of course, it would be for women only! Michael I danced Argentine Tango --with the Argentines ----- Original Message ----- From: "Lois Donnay" <[email protected]> Sent: Friday, September 17, 2010 1:32 PM Subject: Re: [Tango-L] the fear of close embrace This reminds me of the time I (as the milonga organizer) had to tell a man to stop teaching on the floor. He was respectful to me and said "No problem - it stops right now" That was nice. (Other times men have blamed me and never returned to the milonga.) > Then he went right over to my boyfriend and said "Who was that b____ who complained about me giving her some tips? Because I'm never going to dance with that b___ again!" The point is - women would love to stand up for themselves and tell men to stop acting like such cads. How should they do that without having bad manners themselves?? Loisa Donnay _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
