The question is: how does a follower convey to a leader that the "no" doesn't mean forever, but means that when this particular leader improves then she will accept his invitation, whether by cabaceo or a direct verbal invitation? A cabaceo doesn't address this problem. The "no" doesn't necessarily mean forever; the woman can give all sorts of excuses for not dancing with a particular leader, but how does she actually tell him that he needs to improve before she will dance with him? For many leaders the "no" means that she doesn't want to dance with him and he really isn't sure of the reason why, even though she gives some excuses. Most leaders don't feel that the "no" is because they are not at the level of this leader; this particular leader may think that she doesn't like him or that she's a "snob" or not part of her particular "clique". Most followers here as I indicated in my previous post, will accept an invitation from leaders who may be far below her level. http://www.torontoargentinetango.blogspot.com
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