>The cabeceo plays into this fantasy for some. For others it can present a
>harsh reality.
I have been thinking, over the last few weeks, about a suitable response to the
topic of the cabeceo and the related topic of women refusing to dance with men
who they do not consider to be at "their level".
A rejection is a rejection no how matter how you want to wrap it up. It would
take a very skillful woman to be able to use the cabeceo or give a verbal
excuse, without making the rejection obvious and brusing the mans ego. I have
seen and experienced all sorts of responses to the cabeceo including a firm
"NO" shake of the head or staring right through you as if you did not exist.
So ask yourself, if a man was rejected while flirting with a woman, would he
come back for more? Maybe yes in a few years time but maybe he has moved on by
then having good dances with others. A harsh reality on the fantasy, but "Once
bitten, twice shy".
So go ahead and nuture the man as suggested at the expense of becoming a wall
flower.
Vince
In Melbourne,
on his comfy armchair.
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