Hi Charles, about being refused: also about that I wrote in the book... one thing, just invite One new person every milonga you go... that would be already super! Being refused hurts - activate the same cerebral zone...
Charles Roques wrote: >I want to spread good tango karma, give back something to this dance that >has enriched my life. I see a newbie not > being asked to dance. I ask her to dance. We do the best we can, nothing > flashy, just a simple dance. But now better followers, especially those > who are visiting from out of town who dont know me well, ignore my > cabaceo, assuming that the previous partner i had is "the best i can > do." > > I think your perceptions are open to interpretation. That may not be the > reason they are not choosing to dance with you. I have had the exact > opposite happen in Buenos Aires when I sat a long time at "Lo de Celia" > wondering why no women were responding to my cabeceo, especially one in > particular. Then I realized that they didn't know me and didn't know if I > could dance well or not. I asked a beginner to dance and she didn't dance > very well, but it got me on the floor and after that I got responses the > rest of the night. If you are a good dancer it will show, whether you > dance with a beginner or an advanced dancer. > > i used to be guilty of the gymnastics myself, but I've come to realize > that's not the real fulfillment of tango, there is no subtlety or emotion > to it, and when i watch it done, usually poorly, i am bored to tears, so > my dance these days is much simpler and quieter. > > Perhaps they remember you from before. ;-) > > Anyway, after a tanda with a newbie, the clique followers do not want to > chance being seen dancing with me > for fear of catching the same stigma, and then not being invited by the > elite alpha dogs in the room. So they wont chance a tanda with me. > > Again you are interpreting this. Being refused is damaging to the ego but > it's part of tango. > > Cheers, > Charles > _______________________________________________ > Tango-L mailing list > [email protected] > http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l > > > ----- > Nessun virus nel messaggio. > Controllato da AVG - www.avg.com > Versione: 10.0.1204 / Database dei virus: 1435/3420 - Data di rilascio: > 03/02/2011 > _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
