Trini, absolutly, Steve was not a contradiction but a wonderful exposition of his experiences, which to me, are quite valid...the problem is the lack of affirmation of other non-argentine tangueros towards us, non argentine tangueras, who have similarly valuable and valid experiences. My father used to tell me that when he wanted to learn about girls/women, he talked to other females....not to other men...to learn the ropes, the ways into a woman's heart...seems like good advice to me. It is so odd to me that our non argentine men take more cues from other men than women....just whom are they trying to please???? Is dancing for them pleasure or competition? Sherrie
I would still like to know how men operate if say, they are from Pittsburgh and then go to a workshop/milonga in San Francisco, what strategies do they use to get unacquainted females to dance with them.... -----Original Message----- From: Trini y Sean (PATangoS) <[email protected]> To: Tango-L <[email protected]> Sent: Sat, Jun 18, 2011 3:31 pm Subject: Re: [Tango-L] Men's strategies (3) Hi Sherrie, I don't think it was Steve that was contradicting you. I believe he only shared his personal experiences. I am also surprised that yours and Nancy's experiences are being pooh-poohed, as if with the hundreds of male dancers in BsAs have only one way of asking a woman to dance and one moment in time to ask. It doesn't take much to catch someone's eye. At a local milonga, it's pretty easy to note who comes and goes even while dancing. A little something that registers in the head, not like filling out a spreadsheet of data. I don't think that type of communication you and Nancy talk about has reached the States because guys are too busy trying out their new steps and looking at their partner (instead of the floor and creates all types of navigational hazards). If a man dances simply and musically, I think what you and Nancy describe is quite reasonable. Thanks for sharing your experiences. And thanks to Nancy, too. It adds a useful dimension to the tango culture in BsAs. Trini de Pittsburgh --- On Sat, 6/18/11, [email protected] <[email protected]> wrote: Steve. it is so incredible how you guys give all this outpouring of support and appreciation for what other men tell you, but pretty much attack, deny and ignore what women tell you. It seems to me that Nancy and I (although I do not know her) are pretty experienced in the realm of dancing in BA with some very good milongueros, and yet you all hardly give a nod to our experiences and information. It makes it all seem so one way and wooden. _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
