*Why is it so difficult to say sorry? * *Ratnasri Dutta * ** *[image: Test] *
** * * *What have I got to do, What have I got to do, When sorry seems to be the hardest word… Sir Elton John's song perhaps best explains why saying sorry to peers, seniors, siblings, parents… can be so difficult! * *'Sorry', this one small word can do wonders if you have the courage to say it. In the movie Lage Raho Munna Bhai, Victor (Jimmy Shergill) was ready to die rather than tell his father about his misdeed. It was Munna (Sanjay Dutt) who gave him the solution to his problem. When Munna forced him to say sorry to his dad, it was a new beginning for Jimmy. The audience was moved to tears when his father said: "Aaj Mera Beta Bada Ho Gaya". * *Also in the same movie, we saw how the word 'sorry' improved the relation between a landlord and his tenant. So, if this five-letter word can work wonders why do people become all jittery and develop cold feet when they have to apologise?* *A sincere apology* *It's easy saying sorry when you don't actually mean it, but saying it sincerely is a tough job. Sometimes it might take years to say sorry. Sampada Ghate, a first year student of BBA LLB, couldn't forgive her mother for 12 years. When Sampada was eight year old, her mother used to leave her alone at home and go off to work. * *Sampada, like any other kid, wanted to spend more time with her family, but she did not have the chance to do so. Bitterness towards her mother grew. She started disliking her. * *Later, however, she felt sorry for what she had done, and wanted to apologise. But she did not have the courage to say so. "Every time I planned to tell her sorry, I used to get butterflies in my stomach. Finally, when I had the courage to apologise, I felt like a balloon set free."* *Snehal Bandgar, a first year engineering student, once had a major fight with one of her close friends. Later, when she realised her mistake, she wanted to make amends with her buddy but developed cold feet. * *Ego matters * *There are some like Asha Sharma, who find it difficult to say sorry because their ego comes in the way. Saying sorry would mean accepting your mistake, which people like Asha refuse to do. They would rather break their relationship with the person than say sorry to them. * *Asha once had a quarrel with her brother over a trivial matter. Even though it was entirely her fault, she refused to accept it and bury the hatchet.* *How to say it?* *People sometimes find it difficult to say sorry when they don't know exactly how to say it. * *Anuradha Chavan, a FY student, had once falsely accused her cousin of stealing. But when she realised her mistake, she had no idea how to say sorry. She didn't have the guts to face her after she had accused her cousin. "I felt as if a huge load was placed on me and I had to get rid of it somehow," says Anuradha. But she had no idea how to do it.* *Finally, she decided to write a letter and apologise to her cousin. Even though Anuradha did not have the courage to say sorry on her cousin's face, she at least owned up and apologised through a letter. * *Many of you must have faced similar situations when you didn't have the courage to say sorry or didn't know how to say it. You may have wanted to apologise to several of your loved ones, but either it was too late or you still have not mustered the courage to say so. * *No matter how difficult it can be, you should be brave enough to say sorry immediately after you have wronged someone. Or else, you can lose friends / family forever.* *cnu.pne * --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "Thatha_Patty" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected] To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/thatha_patty?hl=en -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
