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From: Building Relationship... <[email protected]>
Date: 3 Feb 2009 15:14
Subject: [Iyer123] Funeral experience in Chennai: A strange feeling for
being an Iyer
To: [email protected]
A strange feeling for being an Iyer…
I moved to Chennai in 2000. I happen to see quite a few death of near and
dear ones and not so close ones. I witnessed something seriously going wrong
with our community particularly the day a person funeral takes place. In my
parents case my mother passed away in 2002 in Mumbai and my father in 2006
in Chennai. I could see the difference to some extent in the sense for my
mother funeral many friends and relatives came to help and console me. But
when my father passed away too many people came home but few turned out to
the samshan ghat. I literally heard people saying your father is alive so
you should not go with the body…may be true or may not be true. In the last
few days I happened to go to two funerals and in both the funerals I found
there were many persons who had come to witness the last rites but when the
Sastrigals assistant told someone to lift the head of the dead body to tie
some rope etc not a single sole went to help him….I without any hesitancy
went near the body and did whatever the person told me to do…I am not for a
moment pronouncing to myself to be great but I get a feeling something is
going wrong somewhere…what is the point saying the person who died was good,
noble , great person etc when we cannot touch the body when the family or
your known people require that help…it was a rude shock that for the final
rites at Besant Nagar and in Anna Nagar we had only 4 persons to carry the
dead….one of the body was so heavy due to the body kept for few days in
Mortuary due to family compulsion few of us had a herculean task to lift the
body for the final rites…one of the person even commented that he had no
experience…I felt terribly shocked that this in happening in our Iyer
community to a large extent….
I really do not know whether my last two experiences is one of its kinds. I
wish it is one of its kinds. Otherwise all I can say we may be a CEO of an
organisation, we may be holding a top position, we may know the mantras and
tantras..When the family and the community need help we need to do something
about it….
I wish to state that others can narrate their experience. What bothers me in
the midst of the funeral one of the gentlemen told me that He is a CEO of a
well known organisation but when we needed someone to lift the body he was
nowhere to be seen. On one hand we insist that all of us have to do their
rites for their parents, forefathers etc but when we need real help today
where are we going and what are we doing?
We must remember that we too will die one day. Why are we taking life for
granted…we can contribute to temples, we can have bhajans, and we can have
many social gatherings…here is one issue we need to seriously look into….
I have no intention to hurt anyone…but this has been my experience when I
compare myself with other communities. In the same Besant Nagar crematorium
I saw other community people coming to do the last rites for their near and
dear one in fact they had such a large gathering that I was really
shocked…and I had no choice but to feel sorry for being an Iyer…at least
that particular moment….
To further add on to this on 13th day ceremonies in both the cases I saw a
large gathering. One can say people from outside came etc…but somehow that
was not the case…most of them were from nearby place …..Rest you can write
on…..
With deep feeling
Narayan
9841098416
*S.Narayanan,*
[email protected]
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--- On *Fri, 30/1/09, kalpana506 <[email protected]>* wrote:
From: kalpana506 <[email protected]>
Subject: [Iyer123] wrong statement about tanjore brahmins. Re: A new member
needs guidance
To: [email protected]
Date: Friday, 30 January, 2009, 7:21 PM
Dear members,
I happened to view the post of thanjavur Sivaramakrishnan which
says a wrong inforamtion about thanjavur brahmins.
I don't know how the moderator allowed these harsh against brahmins.
Sivaramakrishnan says 20000 brahmins in tanjore are not doing any
social work to our iyer community.
I am from thanjavur and I have many iyer relatives in thanjavur.
most of them are doing some considerable social work by giving
donations to seetha kalyanam, temple poojas, helping poor brahmins for
hospital expenses and many great help.
I want to say please don't consider his wrong statement.
I am telling this to show the truth to all of you.
as told by him majority of them are not well placed.
till there many struggling brahmins in thanjavur.
T.KALPANA
--- In iyer...@yahoogroups .com <Iyer123%40yahoogroups.com>,
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> Dear Sirs,
>
> Very recently I have joined & am not familiar with your procedures.I
left SBI after 32 years of service. I am now doing service freely to
the really needy people & felt my connection with you will be very
helpful for the purpose.There are about 20,000 brahmins in Tanjore,
where I permanantly reside.Majority of them are well placed. But their
response to our cultural & spiritual efforts for revival is very
poor.Neither they donate nor attend even rare,worthy functions.However
I have not stopped my attempts.
>
> To begin with one of my friends aged 39 running his own business
successfuly, having immovable properties in the town, is a legal
divorcee. His two sisters are married & settled and his mother takes
cae of him. He appears young. He is a Iyengar & needs a life partner
form brahmin community.
>
> Please advise me how I have to bring this to the notice of the other
members of the group, so that something good may happen.
>
> Thanking you,
> Sivaraman
>
> Sivaramakrishnan N
> Thanjavur
> thanjap...@. ..
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