*Take a look at an apple tree. There might be five hundred apples on the
tree, each with ten seeds. That's a lot of seeds. We might ask, "Why would
you need so many seeds to grow just a few more trees?" Nature has something
to teach us here. It's telling us: "Most seeds never grow. So if you really
want to make something happen, you had better try more than once.*
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*This might mean:*
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*· You'll attend twenty interviews to get one job.*
*· You'll interview forty people to find one good employee.*
*· You'll talk to fifty people to sell one house, car, vacuum
cleaner, insurance policy, or idea.*
*· And you might meet a hundred acquaintances to find one special
friend.*
*When we understand the "Law of the Seed", we don't get so disappointed. We
stop feeling like victims. Laws of nature are not things to take personally.
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*We just need to understand them - and work with them.*
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*IN A NUTSHELL*
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*Successful people fail more often. They plant more seeds.*
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*When Things Are beyond Your Control, Here's a recipe for permanent misery:*
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*a) Decide how you think the world SHOULD be.*
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*b) Make rules for how everyone SHOULD behave.*
*Then, when the world doesn't obey your rules, get angry!*
*That's what miserable people do!*
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*Let's say you expect that:*
*Friends SHOULD return favors.*
*People SHOULD appreciate you.*
*Planes SHOULD arrive on time.*
*Everyone SHOULD be honest.*
*Your husband SHOULD remember your birthday.*
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*These expectations may sound reasonable. But often, these things won't
happen! So you end up frustrated and disappointed. There's a better
strategy. Have less demands. Instead, have preferences! For things that are
beyond your control, tell yourself: "I WOULD PREFER "A", BUT IF "B" HAPPENS,
IT'S OK TOO!" This is really a game that you play in your head. It is a
shift in attitude, and it gives you more peace of mind.*
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*You prefer that people are polite ... but when they are rude, it doesn't
ruin your day.*
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*You prefer sunshine ... but rain is ok!*
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*To become happier, we either need to*
*a) Change the world, or*
*b) Change our thinking. It is easier to change our thinking!*
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*IN A NUTSHELL*
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*It's not what happens to you that determine your happiness.*
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*It's how you think about what happens to you!*
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*“Individually, we are one drop; Together, we are an ocean .”
Vanakkam Subbu*
