As one person mentioned that if he was in market for marriage...... or words to that effect..... Most of the questions given below come when there is purchase or selling of marketable goods. Certain questions are already available when proposal is received or given. There was hardly a talk of compatibility (both the families and the would be couple).
On Fri, Sep 18, 2009 at 8:54 PM, lalitha Mani. <[email protected]> wrote: > > > This check list stinks.There is no love only conditions. > > > Colleen Wainwright. > I am caring for myself so that I am better able to care for others > : I know God will not give me anything I cant handle. Ijust wish that he > didn trust me so much > Mother Teresa > > ****MAY GOD BLESS YOU > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ > "Acceptance it is the true thing that everyone longs for.The one thing that > everyone craves to walk in a room and be greeted by everyone with hugs and > smiles.And in that small passing moment you truly know that you 're loved > ,needed and accepted.'' > Pass on a free smile, or a free hug, to someone > that needs it! > . > ! [image: yashikushi's > Avatar]<http://www.indusladies.com/forums/members/yashikushi.html> > > > > > > --- On *Fri, 9/18/09, G Vishwanath <[email protected]>* wrote: > > > From: G Vishwanath <[email protected]> > Subject: [Thatha_Patty] Check list for marriage > To: [email protected] > Cc: "iyer123 yahoo group" <[email protected]> > Date: Friday, September 18, 2009, 11:00 AM > > I got married 34 years ago and simply nodded my head obediently as > was the custom those days when my parents passed me a photo of my would be > wife and said they were proposing to get me married to her. My wife was not > given even this privilege. Yes, there was an informal so called "Ponn > Parking" Ceremony, but this was a mere formality and the outcome was > already decided in advance. No one expected me or my wife to say no to the > match. This formality was a reluctant "concession" to the "modern > generation" which I and my wife supposedly belonged to in the early > seventies. > > This morning my friend and correspondent Sri Dharmeshwaran Natesan from the > Iyer123 yahoo group posed an interesting query to me on the subject of > matrimonial matches today. > > Extract from his mail to me: > ------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- -- > >I think you would > >be interested in this project,if I may say so! > >Astrology,knowledge ,astrlogers, practice are > >no more perfect and in fact misleading akin to > >the definition of economics:If there are three > >Econmists,there are minimum four definitions! > >Coming to the point,retaining the fairly simple > >and straightforward Star match,for matrimonial > >matching we may adopt a questionaiire, > >with criteria listed from the time one get up > >tillhe retires and slightly ahead! > >The responses should be "Agree,Can tolerate,Cannot Stand" > >The criteria for example could be like early rising,late rising > >be slow and steady or brisk and fast,home meals or > >compulsive periodical dining out etc. > >Can your goodself think systematically( no need to say this) > >list these traits. > >I shall join this with my humble inputs. > >Together we could get this CompuMatch designed by > >knowledgeable members,including perhaps yourself. > ------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- > > This mail set me thinking. > What if I was not 60 but a mere 25 today and had just entered the marriage > market? > While I never thought of these questions 34 years ago, today I may want to > consider them. > > The list is tentative. I am sure many more can be added by others. > I believe the marriage will have a fair chance of success if these > questions are at least thought about before the marriage. > > Of course, I fully agree that ones nature changes over a period of time. > Circumstances, life, incidents, events, experiences all affect our > personality and we may not be the same person with the same tastes in our > later years. But still I believe considering these questions will ensure > better chances of a successful marriage. > > I will welcome opinions / comments from others. > Regards > G Vishwanath > =========== > > > Traits/qualificatio ns in a spouse for a person in the marriage market. > > A check list > ============ == > 1) What is your educational qualification? . What is your minimum > requirement in your spouse. > Illiterate/Primary School/High School/Graduate/ Post Graduate > > 2)Height: What minimum or maximum height do you desire in your spouse. > > 3)What religion or religions will you accept in your spouse. What religion > will not be acceptable to you at all? > > 4)Are you particular about caste/sub caste? If so what is your preference? > If caste is not the same, what other castes can you accept? What will you > find unacceptable? > > 5)Are you particular about complexion? On a scale of 1 to 10 (1 pitch black > complexion, 5 wheat complexioned and 10 Rosy and fair European complexion, > where do you stand? What is the minimum complexion index you will find > acceptable? > > 6)Do you desire a working spouse or a non working spouse. > > 8)What minimum monthly income will be acceptable to you? What is your own > income? > > 9)Will you shift to where your spouse is posted if one of you is > transferred even if it means resigning your job? > > 10)Will you agree to live with your spouse's family or do you insist on an > independent establishment? > > 11)Are you desperate to go abroad and do you desire only an overseas > spouse? > > 12)Are you willing to go abroad later if your spouse's career makes such a > move essential? > > 13)Will you insist on your spouse being the only child of his/her parents. > > 14)Do you prefer your spouse not to have living parents? > > 15)Will you support your spouses parents in their old age? a)No, not > prepared for this responsibility b)domestically only, c)domestically and > financially also? > > 16)Are you willing to have children and if so the number of children > a)immediately after marriage b)only after X years of marriage c)No children > at all? > > 17)What if your spouse smokes ? a)can you tolerate? b)Find it totally > unacceptable? > > 18)Similarly, what if your spouse is fond of alcohol and occasionally > indulges? > > 19)What jobs/careers in your spouse are preferable? Tolerable? > Unacceptable? > > 20)Are you of religious disposition? What if your spouse is completely an > agnostic or an atheist?Is it tolerable? Unacceptable? Conversely What if he > is a religious freak always doing pujas ? > > 21)What minimum assets must your spouse already have before marriage? a)Two > wheeler b)Four wheeler c) Plot of land in a city d)Own house in a city > e)Stands to inherit property. > > 22)What hobbies do you desire in your spouse? Sports? Musical talent? > Dance? Art? Technical/Vocationa l skills > > 23)What minimum and maximum age gap will you find acceptable between you > and our spouse? What minimum or maximum age will you find acceptable in your > spouse? > > 24)Is this is your first marriage? If not were you divorced or did your > spouse die prematurely? Whatever your status, if all other factors are > acceptable will you marry a a)Divorcee b)Widow/widower? With or without > encumbrances? > > 25)Do you want a traditional marriage with all customs and rites observed? > Or do you want only a registered marriage? > > 26)Are you a vegetarian? Pure vegetarian? Fanatic Vegetarian? Or a non > vegetarian, occasional non vegetarian, sly non-vegetarian? What food habits > do you desire in your spouse and what can you tolerate or not tolerate in > his eating habits? > > 27)Do you like to eat out ? Occasionally? As often as possible ? or do you > prefer home food? > > 28)Can you cook? Not willing to cook at all? Willing to learn to cook? > > 29)Will you help your spouse in household duties and in the kitchen and > share the burden of family chores? > > 30)Are you an avid reader, film goer? TV watcher? Party animal? If so will > you insist on your spouse also being the same or can he/she be different > from you in this respect? > > 31)How is your health? Do you suffer from any particular disability? 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