Dear all
Many a time i have found throughout my life that what ever we do is
misunderstood . i was always a very peoples person and felt our family and
friends was my life and one day it it all bombed into my face and then i
realised that to feel at peace requires a different bench mark. keep your
ethical levels and do not harm people verbally and be loyal to your elders and
family but do not be over friendly stick to your own principles and start
looking inward other wise you will be treated with contempt .learn to be there
for people who want you employ your vivekam that is all ,nothing more nothing
less otherwise you will only get afflicted with Acid reflux and ulcer.
iam enclosing a small passage from my positive thinking class. and iam very
thankful to Mrs Lalitha Subramaniam for including me in this erudite tahtha
patty group
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10 principles for Peace of Mind..
1. Do Not Interfere In Others' Business Unless Asked.
Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others' affairs.
We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best
way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not conform to our
thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction.
This thinking denies the existence of individuality and consequently the
existence of God.. God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human
beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way
they do because God within them prompts them that way. Mind your own business
and you will keep your peace.
2. Forgive And Forget:
This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill feelings
inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We nurture
grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development of stomach
ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but
nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering it. Get over
this bad habit. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive,20Forget,
and march on. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.
3. Do Not Crave For Recognition:
This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without
selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but no
sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and will start
finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yours lf in striving for their
recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. Do your duties
ethically and sincerely.
4. Do Not Be Jealous:
We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know
that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get
promotions; you do not. You started a business several years ago, but you are
not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. There
are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No.
Remember everybody's life is shaped by his/her destiny, which has now become
his/her reality. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop
you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be
gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you
anywhere; it will only take away your peace of mind.
5. Change Yourself According To The Environment:
If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will
fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even
the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and
seem congenial and harmonious.
6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured:
This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we
face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are
beyond our control... If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn
to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully. Believe
in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience, inner strength and will
power.
7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew:
This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more
responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to satisfy
our ego. Know your limitations. . Why take on additional loads that may create
more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external
activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer,
introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that
make you restless.. Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind.
8. Meditate Regularly:
Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the
highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate
earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become peaceful
during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily
disturbed as it was before. You would benefit by gradually increasing the
period of daily meditation. You may think that this will interfere with your
daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you will be
able to produce better results in less time.
9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant:
An empty mind is the devil's workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant
mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile .
Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must decide
what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work or
religious work, may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense
of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are resting physically, occupy
yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God's name.
10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret:
Do not waste time in protracted wondering " Should I or shouldn't I?" Days,
weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can
never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Value
your time and do the things that need to be done. It does not matter if you
fail the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next
time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes,
but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined
to happen only that way. Why cry over spilt milk?
regards and namaskarams to
lalitha madam, Ramansir, srinivasan sir and Nair sir and Cheenu sir
jayshree vnkatraman extract from Santulan group
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