From: ganesan [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: Wednesday, May 11, 2011 7:06 AM To: raji Subject: Fw: [tvrfmly] Fw: [Pattars] A wail of a young brahmin? From: ganesan <mailto:[email protected]> Sent: Wednesday, May 11, 2011 6:58 AM To: geeta an <mailto:[email protected]> ; karthikeyan <mailto:[email protected]> srinivasan ; s. vidya gujjan <mailto:[email protected]> ; latha <mailto:[email protected]> ; sivakamu Krishnamurthy <mailto:[email protected]> ; vidya <mailto:[email protected]> ; vani <mailto:[email protected]> padmanaban ; Thiruvengadam <mailto:[email protected]> ; tvrfmly <mailto:[email protected]> tvr ; [email protected] ; [email protected] Subject: [tvrfmly] Fw: [Pattars] A wail of a young brahmin? From: P.R. <mailto:[email protected]> Sent: Wednesday, May 04, 2011 6:32 AM To: [email protected] Subject: [Pattars] A wail of a young brahmin? Are you taking revenge on us , Oh girls R.Sundaram (A dejected man) >From Kumudam Snehithi , May I issue Page 47 Comments:P.R.Ramachander I am a Brahmin , In our community , at present it has become difficult to get girls for marriage. The reason is because , nowadays all Brahmin girls get well qualified and are in big , big jobs in big, big firms, There is no dearth of the troubles caused by the son in law and his family once upon a time. That was done by a generation long back. How are the boys of the present generation responsible for this. ( Comment: Girls were not financially independent then but they are now. This is definitely a welcome sign. But I do not know that this is the sole reason for their rejecting boys?) Nowadays when the family of boys respond to the advertisements by the girl's family, with a tip of their toungue , they tell, "The boy is one inch less taller. His salary is less. He is black. We are not agreeable to this sub group. We are interested only in boys settled in Madras.". Like this they tell several reasons and reject the proposals. Some of them go one step ahead and say, "We are going to give our girls only to a boy settled abroad." Though many of the people, who get married like this approach the court for divorce due to family problems within a year. Is this necessary? I am telling you the pain that is in my mind. (Comment: There is no harm in their searching for a proper groom, to suit their requirements. The divorce rate is high, not because of this but because the financially independent girls need not suffer everything in silence. This is more so because remarriage after divorce has become common) It appears that within another 2 years , about 45% of our youngsters would not get married and are likely to get Sanyasa. (Comment: I totally agree with this . What can the community do? It is high time , that they start thinking about this.) Is it proper for the girl's family to do like this? All parents of girls would only want her to lead a good life. They should only see "whether the boy has good or bad character, does he belong to a good family? , will he look after the girl properly and see to it that she is never sad? Will he behave properly with both families?" The girls can earn nowadays as much as they want? Is it not necessary for them to have a progeny so that the family will flourish? (Comment: Though the family of girls want all these even today , with the members of community moving away from their places of origin , there is no method to ensure all this.) It looks like that the families of girl are taking revenge to the miserable manner in which the boy's families behaved once upon a time. I can only tell this. (Comment: I do not agree with this. The girls and their families only want to fulfill their dreams but not take revenge. 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