Date: Mon, Oct 24, 2011 at 10:18 AM

ar All our Valued Customers,
Good Day,

Greetings to you on this fantastic Monday Morning. Would like to take this
opportunity to wish you and your families
a Very Happy and healthy and wealthy Colourful Diwali.

Dr. Arun Gandhi, grandson of Mahatma Gandhi and founder of the M.K. Gandhi
Institute for Non-violence,  in his June 9 lecture at
the University of Puerto Rico, shared the following story as an example of
"non-violence in parenting":

"I  was  16 years  old  and  living  with  my  parents at the institute my
grandfather had founded 18 miles outside of Durban, South
Africa , in the middle of the sugar plantations. We were deep in the country
and had no neighbours, so my two sisters and I would
always look forward to going to town to visit friends or go to the movies.

One day, my father asked me to drive him to town for an all-day conference,
and I jumped at the chance. Since I was going to town,
my mother gave me a list of groceries she needed and, since  I  had  all
 day  in  town, my  father  asked me to take care of several
pending  chores, such  as getting the car serviced. When I dropped my father
off that morning, he said, ' I will meet you here at 5:00
p.m., and we will go home together. '

After hurriedly completing my chores, I went straight to the nearest movie
theatre. I got so engrossed in a John Wayne double-feature
that I forgot the time.  It was 5:30 before I remembered. By the time I ran
to the garage and got the car and hurried to where my father
was waiting for me, it was almost 6:00.

He anxiously asked me, ' Why were you late? '
I was so ashamed of telling him I was watching a John Wayne western movie
that I said, ' The car wasn't ready, so I had to wait, '
not realizing that he had already called the garage. When he caught me in
the lie, he said:

'There’s something wrong in the way I brought you up that didn’t give you
the confidence to tell me the truth. In order to figure out where
I went wrong with you, I'm going to walk home 18 miles and think about it.’

So, dressed in his suit and dress shoes, he began to walk home in the dark
on mostly unpaved, unlit roads. I couldn’t leave him, so for
five-and-a-half hours. I drove behind him, watching my father go through
this agony for a stupid lie that I uttered. I decided then and there
that I was never going to lie again.

I often think about that episode and wonder, if he had punished me the way
we punish our children, Whether I would have learnt a lesson at all ?
I don't think so.  I would have suffered the punishment and gone on doing
the same thing.  But this single non-violent action was so powerful
that it is still there in my mind as if it happened yesterday.  That is the
power of non-violence. "

Have a wonderful great week ahead…….!!!!

Tks + Rgds
P. Bhalu
Hyderabad




-- 
V.K.RAGHUNATHAN

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