---------- Forwarded message --------- From: Rajaram Krishnamurthy <[email protected]> Date: Thu, 18 Nov 2021 at 10:58 Subject: Re: [iyer123] From Republic world To: N Sekar <[email protected]>
Thank you for your response. Pranam When women were teased with the dowry did Narayanan speak anything about and did he give in without dowry?. Sorry I know where I am living. Even today marriages are happening to those good bride groom who are men. But the anger of the women shall be understood. Man shall lead as a lion and shall not count on her flesh and money alone. A good executive can marry a poor lady but needs Harward university multi talented, rich lady and gets hurt and remains a bachelor in the chase. Today even love has become politically or economically calculative and that is a drama. Those who act shall reap the consequence. A purohit wants a land lord's daughter, and accuses to press him to marry a purohit. It is not so. Why do you choose? Are you a king?; why dont you marry someone whom you visit first?; in life there are only always two things as Bhagavan said; yes and No; happily married or divorced; if so why would one calculate her face, color, teeth, skin, jaws, forehead etc as if he is an ARJUN?. Nobody knows their future. My Grandmother was half deaf and a little black; not so shrewd; My grandfather would appear as a strong handsome man of principles; he married her when he was a land lord of the ancestral holds, and a clerk in LG Asafoetida, which he wanted to have. But when he died leaving behind my grandma living a long life, she was extolling him every time in some circumstances, and wealth and fortune were all kept only in her name. My Grandfather had only a small bank account though all other accounts were held jointly or in my grandma's name. Choice is a misinterpreted word; too much choice is hell; Americans' families struggle today only because of it; loving a soul is more important than the skin level; mahalakshmi are shoved off and prostitutes are married and men express their grievances as if they are kings. I never went through all these nonsenses; when I was inthe college, a girl approached me a normal woman and my answer was that if she survived till I enter my career I shall marry her, but her father gave her in marriage and I do not know till date where she is; second woman I saw I agreed for the marriage; she is an average girl; everything went through; and one day her father met me in my office and said he needs a promise; he said that he is going to write in her name 3 homes one in chennai, one at Trichy and one in her village and asked me that I shall not sell them or do away with in the future; a stupid man; I asked him, suppose I am laid up with the serious problem and for the medical treatment a lot of money is needed, would his daughter sell away and save me or save her properties?; I cancelled the marriage as I am not enamoured of the property she brings in. Next came my wife and after her arrival, I was being lifted high both at home and abroad and office. God had given me by straight method, enough. Marriage is not a business like kingsways. We have to live; a manager abuses a woman in the office but she shoves it off; but when the husband shouts she takes it seriously; and the same analogy applies to men also; living is pleasant; not by choice and calculations. I am clear. Send all those 40000 to me ;Narayanan will withdraw the words; are men clean in the habits?; that alone persists. KR IRS 181121 On Thu, 18 Nov 2021 at 10:26, N Sekar <[email protected]> wrote: > Pranams Sir. > > For people who are already married and have a family, it is easy to say > "if there is no bread, let them eat cakes", but the fellow who is without > food only will know the pangs of hunger. > > Problem is you make sweeping statements and generalisations, without > giving any proof. Remember, we all live in a well sir, forgetting there is > a vast ocean outside and it is different from the cocoons we live in > comfortably. > > You only have to listen to the travails to the parents of the boys to > understand the depth of the problem and not what comes to your mind at that > moment. > > If there is no real problem, why should Tambras (Tamil Nadu Brahmins > Association) be concerned enough to get involved? > > Like we will look for suitable brides for our sons, others will also look > for the same. So, it is implied there is a shortage of suitable brides. > > And please don't say the mother in law and sister in law problems, they > are dead and buried long back. People have to wake up from the deep slumber > they are in, to understand the reality. And men do share the duties with > their wives, especially if both are employed. > > If we can't help, let us at least refrain from pretending there is no > issue, as we don't understand the depth of the problem. > > Regards > > N Sekar > > > On Thursday, November 18, 2021, 08:23:53 AM GMT+4, Rajaram Krishnamurthy < > [email protected]> wrote: > > > Pranam > AS IT IS THERE IS NO SHORTAGE; it is men who were ruling once, are being > wacked by the women brides, with the conditions that the men are afraid to > marry and lead a kind of good life. For example, once the men were seeking > the employed girls to add to their income, and run out the wife for mercy. > Now they say my money is my money and you have to run the show with your > income. If men behave like men, as a bold PURUSHA women will marry them. By > running north, men will have all the Garuda purana hell punishments only. > Women demand separate living after marriage, because the mother in law and > sister in law are hampering the woman's life. LET MEN BE A MAN WHICH ONLY > A WOMAN LIKES. KR IRS 181121 NB where is chauvinism here?. If male can , > why not the good women? Who allowed the boy to be addressed as "poda vada"? > it was men and today they suffer. It is only just 40000 and by not marrying > earth will not cave in. > > On Thu, 18 Nov 2021 at 08:55, APS Mani <[email protected]> wrote: > > This is news to people like me, Sekar Sir, the shortage of brides in TN > Brahmin community! Thanks for highlighting this. 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