Mr Sekar will read what is not for him, but fail to apologize for writing
wrongly,in spite of the email sent by me. He will dramatise thank u
Ramajayam and more his thoughts for which he has a right. Because THAT IS
HIS OPINION . But though I wanted to stay away from the doctor episode
which is pathetic but those in service , if they take care of themselves
only and service as next, there will not be so many good mothers and
fathers he is talking about. Is there any son who took the meal to his
father when he was unable to eat even? No One I bet.As kids we were taught
yes; as kids why could not grandchildren be taught? Simple. The same
mothers only are the cause. The article of stats By Giri showed obesity
percentage; why?; many women today ( I did write this long ago also) are
fatter because they have no work; the lowlevel women loiter for food so
cannot attend to the children. The rest spend time on the modern level; so
if they want to eat pasta, the better way is feeding pastha to children.
Such children who never knew the food we have to take (in any part of the
world today we can get to cook) are also not taught the meaningful ways.
Fathers do dance with the wives. I am not blaming anyone for this. We have
become the sophisticated society of grandfathers and mothers, who did not
evince that much interest; and by each generation it is decreasing.
Children have no stress and If children of today with the modern gadgets
are so stressful, then I was so stressed right from school. Those who
carried out by heart to adopt the shruti then should have been stressed to
the greatest extent. My class teacher Anna used to say 1 only one who reads
get into doubts 2 One who reads only will read more and struggle for time.
{in office also one who works only will get more work] So stress is known
only to those children If this statement is offensively interpreted by
SEkar then ............I can also interpret the word I T as income tax and
pounce. That is not my system. I always think and write. So all the
roundabout did not make Sri Sekar the right person, who did not apologise ,
in this email , where he professed so much. so he is asmed. Then be cool
sir Thank you I wrote to Raamchandran and then you bumped up wrongly. And I
have always apolicy I will never give any to earn profit on account of me
so easily; also I treat all equally and with dignity; but when they exceed
the limits, as Many wrote to me to keep quiet, I am the subramanya
bharathi. Again if ashamed be cool KR IRS 10 6 23
On Fri, 9 Jun 2023 at 23:49, 'N Sekar' via iyer123 <[email protected]>
wrote:
> Thanks Sri Sriramajayam sir for the kind and encouraging words.
>
> I have received a couple of mails in my personal mail with two
> observations on my response to Sri Sridharan's mail on the subject.
>
> 1. Role of the fathers in the emotional and spiritual development of the
> child:
>
> No one can deny the vital role played by fathers which are not properly
> and adequately acknowledged, to put it mildly.
>
> The problem is fathers are so preoccupied with earning for the family, by
> the time they come home from office, they are tired / exhausted, both
> physically and emotionally.
>
> I am referring to our days as children, where working women were an
> exception than a norm (some professions like Doctors, nurses, teachers
> excepted). Definitely not so many in the banks and of course I T was
> unheard of.
>
> With the result, the mother, who spends a greater part of the time with
> the child naturally becomes the person who moulds and shapes up his / her
> growth, both physically and emotionally and in building the character of
> the child.
>
> Physically by feeding him and giving weekly oil baths (people from T N
> will understand) etc.
>
> Emotionally and for building up the character by introducing / goading /
> guiding him to read and listen to our Puranas, Ithihasas and other books
> that teach morals etc. like Aathichudi, Thirukkyral, Thevaram,
> Thiruvachakam etc.
>
> I am leaving out Sanskrit here because the number of people who know that
> Divine language is not very great.
>
> In addition, if I go by my mother's example, she will literally drag me
> (after a certain age), to the Upanyasams / Katha Kalakshebams etc. which
> were mainly held at the temples and did not cost much. One needs to
> remember the economic conditions also; not everybody was born with a silver
> spoon.
>
> I come from a lower middle class family and had my school education at
> mainly Govt schools or in those private schools which did not charge much,
> either free or a token amount. English was just one of the subjects.
> English medium schools were rare and were not that affordable.
>
> Fathers were the engines which pulled the train by providing the fuel -
> finance.
>
> Hence I highlighted the vital role played by the mothers in our olden
> days. Thankfully tvs and serials were unheard of. - applicable to point 2
> below.
>
> 2. Our children do not show the same affection and respect we showed our
> parents:
>
> There was a joint family system (mine was not one as I lost my paternal
> grand parents very early and my father had a transferrable job with the
> bank) where these things were developed naturally with everyone setting a
> role model - Learning by Seeing and following examples.
>
> There was enough family time (no tv, cell, computer, internet etc.) -
> Quality family time which developed the bond, without any specific efforts.
> We ate together and talked a lot and saw movies together.
>
> Also, we the youngsters at that time, did not face the kind of
> competition, job security issues etc that this generation is facing; I
> don't think we spent as much time:
>
> commuting to the work place and
>
> Attending courses / seminars to keep us updated which all take a lot
> of time and drain you out at times.
>
> The present day youngsters' stress levels due to various factors, some of
> which I have mentioned above, we never had except in rare cases.
>
> It is more of a rat race now than it ever was and humans are becoming
> rats. so to speak.
>
> The nuclear families also have contributed to the issue under point 2
> above.
>
> I will stop here.
>
> Thanks. We all learn from each other and would encourage others to share
> their views / experiences.
>
> N Sekar
>
>
> On Saturday, June 10, 2023 at 08:59:17 AM GMT+4, SRIRAMAJAYAM <
> [email protected]> wrote:
>
>
> *Bear with me and pardon me for this final one, friends. *
> N Sekar
> போற்றுவோர்போற்றட்டும்
> புழுதி வாரி தூற்றுவோர் தூற்றட்டும்...
> தொடரட்டும் நுமது நற்பணி.
> 🙏🙏
>
>
> On Sat, 10 Jun, 2023, 10:20 am 'N Sekar' via iyer123, <
> [email protected]> wrote:
>
> *I will stop responding to toxic comments with this final one.*
>
> *Can anybody explain what are these: *
>
> * " Your cryptic commentary is not well based"*
>
> * "Even the small nuisance value must be addressed correctly before
> the court'*
>
> * "And nnR court can do whatever you want*
>
> * "Thank you for the impervious statements out passion and
> partiality"*
>
> * (see below the response from another member which I have
> highlighted above) *
>
> *in my response*.* Pl read Sri Sridharan's original mail and my response
> thereof and then tell me.*
>
> *What kind of response is this?*
>
> Even if my motives were ulterior, as alleged, which they were not, *the
> reply should have explained what was wrong in my response - "Content" and
> not go on a wild goose chase and getting personal. *
>
> So much for "Content for Content' and not getting personal - Advice is
> only to preach but not to follow.
>
> *I will stop responding hereafter to what I consider to be comments not
> germane to the subject matter. *
> *People are mature enough to differentiate between wheat and chaff, and I
> will leave it to their judgement.*
> *I don't want to pollute the atmosphere responding to confused,
> convoluted, jaundiced, prejudiced, despicable, detestable, deplorable and
> toxic comments which have nothing to do with the subject matter.*
> *Bear with me and pardon me for this final one, friends. *
>
> N Sekar
>
>
>
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